Hello everyone,
here is husband natal and me/him composite.
I work all day so hard to play catch up with all these responses. wow!
I want to post my husband chart. CAN SOMEONE COMPARE HUSBAND CHART VS. NEW PERSON CHART or whatever you notice.
From the getgo, we have always seemed to live like roomates. he almost seem like an "old soul" He never treated me like he was in love with me, we have always tend to easily argue and roughly, never really showed me any attention, always never give me any credit for anything, cut me down in front of others people (women and men alike ) always had to tell him he had a "gem " or "jewell" of a wife. he also seemed very unemotional and made me cry a lot. everyone notices how he has always treated me. people have told me if he "didn't fly right" he was going to lose me. I really wanted to divorce him long time ago. I make very good money and he threatened me one time and said if I left him he would wipe me out and damage things he has worked on himself. I am 53, but pass for 33 and act it too with over abundance of energy. I work out all the time. I look nice, dress nice etc, feel young, very healthy. All throughout our marriage, he was always seeming very negative, complainer, and just never seemed happy, which drove me crazy, part of his nature. I was never happy either, as I felt like he did not know how to treat a woman or at least me anyway. I am not materialistic, but taking me out to dinner, buying me flowers, holding my hand etc would have been nice. he is not romantic at all,, never has been..never made me feel special. i have probably kissed him maybe 3 times entire marriage. he never seemed to care about his appearance either. seemed like he would look as sloppy as possible. .. you wonder why I married him, well, I did not want to be alone, thinking I would not find anyone. I had just lost my dear grandmother who I lived with. So I guess I got what I deserve. Its like he is always cold emotionally and I am really not attracted to him anymore.. But in all honesty, I tried to make it work, and did not look at NOONE until this person came along. just seems like roomates or a matter of convenience. in my own insecurities, I felt like he was just using me as I have the house etc. people even warned me before I got married he was just going to use me. I have a lot of insecurities in relationships and these hold me back and I ended up settling with marriage partner that I truly not happy with (has nothing to do with this NEW PERSON) THIS HAS BEEN ON GOING ALMOST AFTER WE GOT MARRIED. I DONT FEEL LIKE HE IS MY SOUL MATE, JUST A ROOMATE.
how I met this NEW person is he did home improvement on our house. he was friends w/ my husband too. when I came into the picture more, this NEW person started show-boating how smart he was (and he is) and how dumb my husband seemed to be in front of husband and me. my husband is not the brightest person I hate to say. we then all started going out together and then something sparked on my end. I could tell the NEW person like me, but kept it to himself and I was feeling the same way, but kept to myself. we started flirting and laughing and having a good time. my husband went to store, he put his hand around my neck and that started everything. he is bright, funny and not negative. I will write more on some things tho about him since we been seeing more of each other. All together we been seeing each other a total of maybe 5 weeks. I am wondering if my head is clearing as I get to know this NEW PERSON more. the NEW PERSON keeps saying he has not a jealous bone in his body, BUT I sense some jealously, by some weird things he says, but I am seeing some things come out, which I will explain later. I am trying to read up on all the squares to mars etc as time allows. I know he says he is afraid he is going to lose me and to give us a chance, etc. I don't know what it is about him , but so attracted to him. I feel pulled and he does to. cant get him out of my head and vice versa.. never had this with anyone else and he says he is the same way. but at same time I don't want to be taken/lied to/make a very stupid mistake.
anyway here is my husband chart and if someone can compare with NEW PERSON or whatever input you have would be great..
thanks for all the great replies, I am considering all of them. a lot to think about, decisions, etc still tons of questions.
ONE MORE QUESTION, IF I WAS TO DECIDE TO CUT TIES FROM NEW PERSON , DO YOU THINK HE WOULD BECOME VERY ANGRY? TRY TO GET REVENGE ETC?? I am finding he is very very sensitive. sometimes will get tears in his eyes. I joke sometimes and laugh and he thinks I am laughing at him, which I'm not .