Chiron is a little planetoid that shows us "where it hurts." It deals with physical or emotional hurts that do not heal, or that heal only over time and with difficulty. But if you stick with Chiron's misery, it indicates the area of life where you can gain in wisdom and compassion for other people.
The third house is about communication, short-distance travel, neighbours, and siblings. I have a third house Chiron, and had two siblings (now one) who never gave me the warm, fuzzy sibling unconditional love I thought I deserved. Sometimes I found their behaviour hurtful and inexcusable. (No doubt, they had similar thoughts about me.) But I tried never to cut off communication with them. I'm glad I didn't, as I was able to develop a much closer relationship with my brother prior to the end of his life.
You might have sibling issues, or it might be some other third house matter.
Virgo is all about self-improvement; and it is equally happy to work on improving other people, whether they have asked for it or not. If this sounds like you, your feelings may get hurt if people do not tell you that they appreciate your program for making them better.
Have you grown up in Germany? I have some German heritage-- complete with that sense of a strict "Prussian general" upbringing, where there was always better to get to, no matter how well the child performed. I have visited Germany several times, and really enjoyed it. But I couldn't help but notice how Germans were much more comfortable having me try to communicate in my wretched tourist-German than to speak English with me, even when they were fluent. I sometimes wondered if they feared making a grammatical mistake!
If this sounds at all like you, maybe Chiron's biggest lesson will be for you to feel more relaxed and compassionate about yourself. You cannot be perfect. But you can enjoy life and learn to forgive yourself for any and all of life's infractions you may have committed. Then you can forgive those 3rd house types of people who disappointed you.
Your reply is so insightful, again!
Thanks so much!
I have two siblings and our relationship is very similar to what you described, except we are close nonetheless, but it´s at a cost. There is some verbal wounding in my case, from fights to shutting out, maybe that tied back to Chiron. Sometimes it´s hard, but I absolutely agree with you, and plan on sticking through it.
I have a troubling/distant/antagonistic relationship with al of my cousins, could this stem from the same placement? And does it mean it will ever improve?
I am very sorry to hear about your brother, it must be the hardest thing to go through that loss, I can´t imagine what you went through.
As to Virgo, it´s perfectionism directed at everyone and everything including myself. I always seem to find a flaw, and it irritates me so much that I try not to let others see that vice, I find it utterly useless and work on getting over it.
Another connection! I was born in Germany, and am probably largely desensitized to their perfectionism, because I find them sometimes chaotic
(all in PERSPECTIVE of course, but Poles seem more quiet in public and at parties, French less liberal socially, Turks more graceful, etc, etc... and Americans... more germophobic???)
The german attitude tends more towards uniformity than some distant ideal, but it´s perfectionistic in a way.
I think they are embarrassed by their accent (which is silly to me, because I have more accents than language skills, but they practice very hard to sound more US or British, and they like to make fun of the german accent,which is really cute
they also get embarrassed when their politicians butcher English in public) and know you´ll be able to tell easily.
Forgiving myself the gentle way -as in without punishing myself prior to that- was my biggest lesson in the last years. It was really illuminating when I realized how hard we go on ourselves, mostly words i´d never say to anyone else!
I´ll make sure to think about that some more, it´s a beautiful and useful thing.
What is your Chrion sign by the way?
