Thank you Lin!
I had to take a lot of time and look back. It looks like every time Mars has passed over my North Node, the grand cross in my chart with my NN/Chiron/Venus + Adonis/Neptune RX gets activated. One of my friends actually pointed this grand cross out to me a few weeks ago and referred to it as the "locked in love for self improvement" grand cross. I laughed at it at first but after having you point out Mars' transit time, there's always been someone who walks into my life - or if I'm in a relationship, I'm suddenly invigorated to start putting my needs forward more aggressively (my north node is in my 6H versus my stacked 12H south node that contains my venus and Mercury). It always seems to trigger this wake up where I realize I've been trapping myself into past/easy habits of giving without requesting in turn and work to change that.
I think now I'm trying to see how that would be triggered now since I've actually spent the last year correcting that since I realized I was involved in a lot of unhealthy friendships that were weighing me down. I think I'll have to spend more time looking at the transits as a whole since looking at that past ones proved to be very revealing over how that transit would unfold.
Thank you again!