VenusInFurs
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I am looking for some insight into my synastry with a man I’ve known for fifteen years (since I was 20). Unfortunately, I don’t have his birth time so the ASC/MC and house placements aren’t correct for him.
I’ve always felt a strong connection and familiarity with this man - I'm not surprised to see the SN/NN aspects. I adore him; he is incredibly gorgeous to me, smart and lots of wonderful things but he’s also insecure, hard to reach and struggles with emotional intimacy. We think he might have high functioning autism which would account for a lot of our differences in communication styles. He acts passive aggressively and projects onto me occasionally - which I can see through (his fear of closeness, he feels I’ve rejected him - he can recount every time I’ve rejected him in detail although I can’t remember many of these events!). He was quite unkind to me when hungover a few weeks ago - is this the Mars square Moon at play? Also, his Mars square my Mars / Pluto in scorpio.
Early last year he got in contact with me when his relationship ended (he does this every time without fail) and I just wasn’t interested as I anticipate this push/pull dynamic and it gets tiring going through the same pattern and just creates sad feelings. In April 2020 I had a dream that his mental health was at crisis point to the extent of reaching out to him (and later unsending my message as I feared sounding strange). It turned out that my dream was right. Over the Summer I had two dreams that I was searching for his house. When I found him I told him that I loved him and he said he felt the same. Then he reached out again in November and it just picked up again.
What usually happens between us is he will perceive a rejection from me, he’ll say something mean and we cease talking then he usually ends up in a relationship. During this time he rarely contacts me but keeps tabs on me on social network sites. I’m 35 now and I’ve told him I can’t keep doing this. I’ve told him clearly that I like him and I’m willing to work at something with him but he’s so ignorant and avoidant of my attempts to clearly discuss things.
Is this seen in the synastry?
Is this worth trying for? Is the synastry at all significant? I see a lot of NN/SN connections.
I look at all the moon connections and think 'wow'.. we do have good sexual chemistry, a strong mental connection and I really do adore him... but it feels so one sided, as I'm the adult whereas he is quite immature and ungrounded in ways!
Thank you in advance for any input
I'm person one with sun in Capricorn, he is sun in Sagittarius.
I’ve always felt a strong connection and familiarity with this man - I'm not surprised to see the SN/NN aspects. I adore him; he is incredibly gorgeous to me, smart and lots of wonderful things but he’s also insecure, hard to reach and struggles with emotional intimacy. We think he might have high functioning autism which would account for a lot of our differences in communication styles. He acts passive aggressively and projects onto me occasionally - which I can see through (his fear of closeness, he feels I’ve rejected him - he can recount every time I’ve rejected him in detail although I can’t remember many of these events!). He was quite unkind to me when hungover a few weeks ago - is this the Mars square Moon at play? Also, his Mars square my Mars / Pluto in scorpio.
Early last year he got in contact with me when his relationship ended (he does this every time without fail) and I just wasn’t interested as I anticipate this push/pull dynamic and it gets tiring going through the same pattern and just creates sad feelings. In April 2020 I had a dream that his mental health was at crisis point to the extent of reaching out to him (and later unsending my message as I feared sounding strange). It turned out that my dream was right. Over the Summer I had two dreams that I was searching for his house. When I found him I told him that I loved him and he said he felt the same. Then he reached out again in November and it just picked up again.
What usually happens between us is he will perceive a rejection from me, he’ll say something mean and we cease talking then he usually ends up in a relationship. During this time he rarely contacts me but keeps tabs on me on social network sites. I’m 35 now and I’ve told him I can’t keep doing this. I’ve told him clearly that I like him and I’m willing to work at something with him but he’s so ignorant and avoidant of my attempts to clearly discuss things.
Is this seen in the synastry?
Is this worth trying for? Is the synastry at all significant? I see a lot of NN/SN connections.
I look at all the moon connections and think 'wow'.. we do have good sexual chemistry, a strong mental connection and I really do adore him... but it feels so one sided, as I'm the adult whereas he is quite immature and ungrounded in ways!
Thank you in advance for any input
I'm person one with sun in Capricorn, he is sun in Sagittarius.
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