Hi all,
i would like to reinforce what several members have said here, as well as enquire further.
First, my venus(cap12) is trine my saturn(tau5). I have howver gone through a very horrible break up with someone I love dearly.
His venus is conjunct mine, and, in the same house - we are both cap rising so yes, his venus is also in his (and my) 12th house. But, his venus is inconjunct his saturn(gem5).
We have finally broken up, after awful, awful times, however, I attribute a lot of what happened additionally to other aspects in his chart - such as: his venus square pluto, his saturn opposite mars (my mars conjuncts his), and also square his moon(T-square).
I will try to keep the focus just on the saturn inconjunct his venus.
When we initially began dating I saw how much he would test me, on purpose. It became absolutely exhausing for me. Another thing I noticed initially with him is that, he gives people enough rope to hang themselves. This was awful to watch with others, thne, eventually it was with me. He will give and give, then, when that person doesn't meet his expectation or needs in some way, he totally lashes out, and then justifies it completely in his mind like they deserved it. Was sad to watch becuase from my side he was delusional, and setting others up for failure to justify the unleashing of his scorn, or rejection of them, and ultimately making himself more unhappy and dillusional. It was about power. And here I think it is absolutely correct to associate this aspect with an inferiority complex - much is done to (over)compensate.
What others have said here as well, there is a lack of trust and an absolute suspicion of the giving of love and affection from others. To this day he will still insist that I didn't love him
I feel sad for him: he is like a deep black hole, a vortex that is never filled, he lives in constant fear, and taking the life out of others in a desperate attempt to fill his own vortex.
I say this with great sadness and regret as, I couldn't reach him. I tried to lend out my saturn trine venus but, it seemed he was only suspicious of my free and easier expression of love. He used to kind of emotionally trap me too, in a "i told you so" scenario. Yes, mostly - or even always - it was a completely bias and subjective rational that no logic could penetrate.
So, the moral of the story is, try to trust love. I think that, people need to trust themselves too in that, if they do get hurt from love, they trust themselves to be able to recover. It's better to have loved though. If one is uncertain, then certainly, travel with caution. But remember with this aspect, it can be exacerbating for those trying to love you - don't take it to extremes.
I would like to hear more about the inner feelings and dynamic one feels with this aspect - can any try to describe what happens inside your head/heart?