Hello. I'm brand new to the world of astrology. I just want to get some opinions on something that's happening in my life. I'm a scorpio female and I met a virgo male on a dating website a few months ago. We started emailing one another, and now we've been texting for the past 2-3 months.
So far, I'm definitely attracted to him, though we haven't met face-to-face, we've exchanged pics and talked for a while now. However, I've found that he can be quite cold and distant, and I often feel ignored. Sometimes he goes several days without so much as a hello, and if I text him first, he'll sometimes not answer back for a while, or else he'll answer with short replies. I've often just told myself that he's not interested or that he's with someone else, and I've even mentioned to him twice that I think we should just stop talking. He quickly replied that he's just been busy lately and does not want to stop conversing. I was just wondering for you experts out there, do the following traits sound typical of the virgo male, as he exhibits all of these:
--denies his true feelings
--unfriendly/cold
--distant
--reserved
--secretive
--selfish
--bossy
--always busy/on-the-go
--stubborn
--emotionally detached or vacant
--snappy/easily offended
He told me once that he makes friends easily, but I don't believe he could possibly makes friends easily if he treats everyone the way he treats me. But maybe he's just not that into me? He comes across as a bad communicator, which drives me insane. I'm open with him, and I want him to share things with me. Once I asked him to tell me something odd/unusual about himself. He dodged the question and I said something like, "I give up on you." He replied by asking me not to give up, and then he answered my question. But I don't understand why things have to be this way with him. Why should I have to threaten to walk away just to get him to talk to me? So here are my questions for you experts out there:
--Is it often difficult to maintain a relationship between a virgo male and a scorpio female?
--How can I best approach him to get what I want out of him? I mean, I've tried being direct, but sometimes he just sulks away and hides for a few days, and then he starts texting me again as if nothing happened.
For example, last weekend we were texting back and forth, and he started flirting, so I flirted back and we seemed to be having a good time. Then, the conversation stopped cold after I asked him a question about why he's so secretive with me. I asked if he was hiding a wife or gf or if he had issues with some crazy ex-girlfriends. He didn't reply and hasn't spoken to me for four or five days. I refuse to text him first, and I am worried that he's angry at me, but how was I supposed to know that this question was off limits? If he would've asked me the same question, then I would have just answered him honestly. Ugh.
Sometimes I think he just doesn't like me, but then he'll pop up and say something like, "I missed you," or "I've been thinking about you." And I want to ask him why he hasn't been texting or calling if he's been thinking about me. He rarely compliments me or talks about his feelings.
He once joked that I should be texting him more often, but I think he was actually serious. He seems to want me to make the first move a lot of the time. Like, he'll text me and ask me to call him. And he even texted me to ask me to look him up on facebook and send him a friend invite. Why couldn't he just call me or just send me a facebook invite? He acts like he wants me to take the lead, and then he backs aways when I am direct with him. My friend Samantha says I should just back off and let him open up to me on his own time, and maybe that's good advice, but I just can't stand the way things are right now.
Can someone please help me understand this virgo man? Is this typical behavior? Should I just say 'to hell with it' and try to forget him? Should I keep pushing him to confide in me? Do Virgo men sometimes take a while to warm up to people?
So far, I'm definitely attracted to him, though we haven't met face-to-face, we've exchanged pics and talked for a while now. However, I've found that he can be quite cold and distant, and I often feel ignored. Sometimes he goes several days without so much as a hello, and if I text him first, he'll sometimes not answer back for a while, or else he'll answer with short replies. I've often just told myself that he's not interested or that he's with someone else, and I've even mentioned to him twice that I think we should just stop talking. He quickly replied that he's just been busy lately and does not want to stop conversing. I was just wondering for you experts out there, do the following traits sound typical of the virgo male, as he exhibits all of these:
--denies his true feelings
--unfriendly/cold
--distant
--reserved
--secretive
--selfish
--bossy
--always busy/on-the-go
--stubborn
--emotionally detached or vacant
--snappy/easily offended
He told me once that he makes friends easily, but I don't believe he could possibly makes friends easily if he treats everyone the way he treats me. But maybe he's just not that into me? He comes across as a bad communicator, which drives me insane. I'm open with him, and I want him to share things with me. Once I asked him to tell me something odd/unusual about himself. He dodged the question and I said something like, "I give up on you." He replied by asking me not to give up, and then he answered my question. But I don't understand why things have to be this way with him. Why should I have to threaten to walk away just to get him to talk to me? So here are my questions for you experts out there:
--Is it often difficult to maintain a relationship between a virgo male and a scorpio female?
--How can I best approach him to get what I want out of him? I mean, I've tried being direct, but sometimes he just sulks away and hides for a few days, and then he starts texting me again as if nothing happened.
For example, last weekend we were texting back and forth, and he started flirting, so I flirted back and we seemed to be having a good time. Then, the conversation stopped cold after I asked him a question about why he's so secretive with me. I asked if he was hiding a wife or gf or if he had issues with some crazy ex-girlfriends. He didn't reply and hasn't spoken to me for four or five days. I refuse to text him first, and I am worried that he's angry at me, but how was I supposed to know that this question was off limits? If he would've asked me the same question, then I would have just answered him honestly. Ugh.
Sometimes I think he just doesn't like me, but then he'll pop up and say something like, "I missed you," or "I've been thinking about you." And I want to ask him why he hasn't been texting or calling if he's been thinking about me. He rarely compliments me or talks about his feelings.
He once joked that I should be texting him more often, but I think he was actually serious. He seems to want me to make the first move a lot of the time. Like, he'll text me and ask me to call him. And he even texted me to ask me to look him up on facebook and send him a friend invite. Why couldn't he just call me or just send me a facebook invite? He acts like he wants me to take the lead, and then he backs aways when I am direct with him. My friend Samantha says I should just back off and let him open up to me on his own time, and maybe that's good advice, but I just can't stand the way things are right now.
Can someone please help me understand this virgo man? Is this typical behavior? Should I just say 'to hell with it' and try to forget him? Should I keep pushing him to confide in me? Do Virgo men sometimes take a while to warm up to people?