It didn't set me off I just really didn't understand the point you were trying to make when I was doing exactly the same thing the OP was doing
I don't think viewing things elementally is gonna yield the most accurate of analyses. I myself am heavy water-Earth but I'm not necessarily a warm person. I'm more still waters run deep. I love people and am a humanitarian, but I'm not an openly warm person and have a hard time expressing my deep love, and that's very much in contrast with the Aquarian who always demanded snuggles who was actually very fire and Aqua based rather than water based
I'm very aloof myself as well as independent but I don't think it's really a good thing. I need to anchor myself in people more. I can be much too cut off from people. So elements can be very very misleading
In all, I really just don't see why you were telling ME to look into whole charts when the OP themselves wasn't doing that
Look, all I'm doing here is writing about how I as a Cancer get on with Aquarians I've met just like the Aquarian in the OP is doing with various other signs. They didn't bother to analyze the rest of the charts of the people in their examples, so I'm not either. My experiences are as valid as the OPs even without looking into the rest of the charts. So I really don't understand your point
To me, Aquarians just come off as wishy washy, nonsensical, and not knowing what they want. That's exactly the same kind of analysis the OP gave to various other signs. It's a given that this is all on a sun sign basis. That's the precedent the OP set, not me
For the third time, my sun and Merc are in the 11th house so I'm willing to accept I probably have some of those characteristics of Aquarians myself
OK, OK. I don't get why you take my posts so personally. I could just as easily have addressed my posts to CapAquaPisces, but you seemed to be more unhappy about how you interpret people via sun signs. Perhaps I was mistaken, but ultimately, does it matter whom I addressed? CAP or anybody can read and respond to my same posts. It doesn't matter if I address you or anybody else on this thread, with the points I was making.
Re: Aquarius and the 11th house somehow being interchangeable.
I've been studying astrology for 28 years, and have been interacting on this and another forum for 11 years, but no doubt I still have lots to learn.
But one thing I can tell you is that the modern popular conflation of signs and houses by-the-numbers is a poor idea, except in certain circumstances like medical astrology. Aquarius=the 11th house gets downright crazy-making, once you start working with the actual sign(s) in your 11th house and house cusp rulers. So no, having a tenanted 11th house confers no insights into the sign of Aquarius. Your actual 11th house sign(s) and planets will, however, say a lot about your friendships and hopes and wishes for the future.
Again (to whomever is reading) staying with sun signs as the be-all and end-all of personality limits how far one can advance astrologically; and thus how far one can use astrology to understand other people. Each of us is so much more than an "Aquarian" or a "Cancer," and a whole-chart analysis shows this.
In a relationship, sun signs alone are not very helpful because even if people have their suns in "compatible" signs, you really need a solid trine or sextile-- by degrees-- for actual sun compatibility. Otherwise, if the suns are really out-of-orb you can end up with a stressful semi- or sesqui-square in synastry.
Of course, sun signs are really important. They indicate one's identity or sense of self. If another person just cannot get one's own sense of self, it's hard to sustain a committed relationship (unless the composite chart is super-strong, notwithstanding.)
The elements have been used in astrology since ancient times. They've withstood the test of time in horoscope readings for 2000 years, so no need for me to justify them. Please note that water and earth do not in and of themselves connote personal warmth. Scorpio is a water sign and Capricorn is an earth sign, for example. And while Scorpio is known for intensity and neither is seen as a warm, fuzzy sign.
It's important not to misunderstand what the elements tell us before concluding they don't work. What they show us is a kind of motivation, or as Stephen Arroyo put it, what is very real to different people.
Also, with people who have had a tough childhood or a lot of hard knocks in life, each sign has a kind of coping strategy. Cancer can hide behind its shell, the Lion can retreat to its den to lick its wounds. Pisces can resort to a martyr complex, or want to be the universal saviour of damaged people. And so on.
Of course, it's always possible that anyone with any sun sign can be immature, insensitive, confused, rude, lonely, and so on. With over 600 million Aquarians on the planet, Mr. Cuddles may not have been exactly representative.