Lissa
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Lats night,my parents and I had a huge fight over my little brother and the way I treat him.My parents claiming I display no affection for him,don't play with him,talk to him in an agressive manner-all things which are true.Me claiming that my brother is rude to me,answers me back,never obeys me and that I display no affcetion for him because I simply don't now how to do it.All things which are also true,at least from my point of view.
My relationship with him is quite intricate-I simply don't know how to act with him.We have a 9 year age gap,a gap which leaves me without knowing what role should I play with him-should I be like his second mom,or should I be like his sister-meaning I am entitled to fight with him,yell,argue but also play and cuddle?Technically,I am his big sister,and I know that,but I have a thing that makes me take responsability for every single person in my life,playing the role of a mother with many people.Things are just so easier with my little sister-I know whta role to play with her.She is just 5,so we have a huge age gap between us.I am a second mom to her-I teach her,I play with her,I hug her,I put my selfishness aside and control my lack of patience when I am with her because I want to give her a good education.With my brother,I oscilate between the two-"annoying big sis" vs "loving mother".I think my brother defines the type of sister I am-a terrible one-and the kind of mom I will be-a loving mom that sometimes loses her tmeper but neverthless,someone who is quite capable of raising a decent human being.I know my little brother has no fault in this,and he suffers a lot from this conflit,seeing that I am much more loving and patience with our sister than with him.But I somehow can't help it.My brother just messes with my buttons-in a way that few people are able to.We have completly different tempers.He is very calm and quite,whereas I am restless and impatience.He is always lost in his dreams world and whenever I talk to him,he just ignores me,or takes half an hour to answer me.I just feel like holding him by his shoulders and throwing against a wall,just so I can get any reaction from him!!!! Plus,he is very rude and loves to answer me back in a rude,sneaky manner and defy my autorithy-and he never does what I tell him to do either.We are simply very different.
In our synastry,I see our Moon/Mercury conjunctions in square,which right away tells of baci incompatibility.My Sun also squares his Mars,with my Mars falling on his Mars and Sun...so,no need to explain why he angers me so much.We have reversed nodes and my Chiron falls on his North Node,so I guess there's a lot we can learn from each other,but how are we supposed to grow together if we cannot get along???
My Pluto is also right opposed to his Jupiter/Saturn-so,a tendency to control him on my side,and a tendency to defy my autorithy on his.My Sun and Moon fall on his DC and his Moon/Mercury fall on mine,something which I find quite curious,though I am not sure about how to interpret this inside a brother/sister relationship...
My relationship with him is quite intricate-I simply don't know how to act with him.We have a 9 year age gap,a gap which leaves me without knowing what role should I play with him-should I be like his second mom,or should I be like his sister-meaning I am entitled to fight with him,yell,argue but also play and cuddle?Technically,I am his big sister,and I know that,but I have a thing that makes me take responsability for every single person in my life,playing the role of a mother with many people.Things are just so easier with my little sister-I know whta role to play with her.She is just 5,so we have a huge age gap between us.I am a second mom to her-I teach her,I play with her,I hug her,I put my selfishness aside and control my lack of patience when I am with her because I want to give her a good education.With my brother,I oscilate between the two-"annoying big sis" vs "loving mother".I think my brother defines the type of sister I am-a terrible one-and the kind of mom I will be-a loving mom that sometimes loses her tmeper but neverthless,someone who is quite capable of raising a decent human being.I know my little brother has no fault in this,and he suffers a lot from this conflit,seeing that I am much more loving and patience with our sister than with him.But I somehow can't help it.My brother just messes with my buttons-in a way that few people are able to.We have completly different tempers.He is very calm and quite,whereas I am restless and impatience.He is always lost in his dreams world and whenever I talk to him,he just ignores me,or takes half an hour to answer me.I just feel like holding him by his shoulders and throwing against a wall,just so I can get any reaction from him!!!! Plus,he is very rude and loves to answer me back in a rude,sneaky manner and defy my autorithy-and he never does what I tell him to do either.We are simply very different.
In our synastry,I see our Moon/Mercury conjunctions in square,which right away tells of baci incompatibility.My Sun also squares his Mars,with my Mars falling on his Mars and Sun...so,no need to explain why he angers me so much.We have reversed nodes and my Chiron falls on his North Node,so I guess there's a lot we can learn from each other,but how are we supposed to grow together if we cannot get along???
My Pluto is also right opposed to his Jupiter/Saturn-so,a tendency to control him on my side,and a tendency to defy my autorithy on his.My Sun and Moon fall on his DC and his Moon/Mercury fall on mine,something which I find quite curious,though I am not sure about how to interpret this inside a brother/sister relationship...