Hello everyone,
I have a selfish request but I would like your help, I need help understanding what is going on.
I have been going through some big changes in my life since 2018. There were highs and lows, but I took decisions I thought were best. In 2020 June I relocated to be closer to my partner, knowing it was a terrible idea career/finance wise, but being together was important for us. To get something great you have to sacrifice, and during dark moods I question my decision but overall, being with my partner always outweighed the cons.
It seems like our troubles precipitated in Jun/July 2021- this time coming from my partner. There was a major falling out with his family that seemed like it came out of left field (tbh, not to me, but I didn't expect this level) and due to this our lives have become more complicated. Basically, we were forced out of our home by his family.
There were other things going on at the same time- he lost his position at work and had to move to another one, we were in terrible financial debt, he cut ties with everyone in his family due to issues, we were dealing with paperwork/legal issues.
On my side I was I was emotionally drained and exhausted, I had not seen my family since 2 years and was homesick, while my own relations with my family were deteriorating due to everything. I felt (and still feel) blocked at my work, and feel blocked in all other ways actually- mentally, creatively, physically even- I can't even leave this place if I want to.
Actually I can, but I can't leave him alone in this. I feel like during that period I had become his emotional lightning rod, because he was not acting/reacting/emoting/feeling/analyzing to ANYTHING that was going on, but I was screaming and crying enough for two. Our close friends even commented how odd it was that it was I who was reacting to his parents instead of their own child. I don't think it's apathy on his part, I actually think it helped him to watch me storm, hence I felt if I left, he would not be ok. That would really be the last straw.
Things have calmed down considerably now (Nov 2021), and we have managed some problems, and some of the others just require waiting out. Unfortunately we had to move since he got a new job in another city, but he comes home nearly every other day and we spend weekends together.
This is not what I wanted, I moved continents and choked my career to be with him, so I am sour about that. I'm a person who has to have their cake and eat it, and I'm looking for ways to have both.
With this lengthy background I would like your opinion on:
-how his transits in Jun 2021 and Nov 2021 correlated with anything I said above
-how things may look ahead for him
-is this related to his Saturn return, because I thought it ended
-why does he behave like that, am I missing something
-and am I in the wrong for demanding change, action or movement of any kind
Please let me know what charts I should post
I have a selfish request but I would like your help, I need help understanding what is going on.
I have been going through some big changes in my life since 2018. There were highs and lows, but I took decisions I thought were best. In 2020 June I relocated to be closer to my partner, knowing it was a terrible idea career/finance wise, but being together was important for us. To get something great you have to sacrifice, and during dark moods I question my decision but overall, being with my partner always outweighed the cons.
It seems like our troubles precipitated in Jun/July 2021- this time coming from my partner. There was a major falling out with his family that seemed like it came out of left field (tbh, not to me, but I didn't expect this level) and due to this our lives have become more complicated. Basically, we were forced out of our home by his family.
There were other things going on at the same time- he lost his position at work and had to move to another one, we were in terrible financial debt, he cut ties with everyone in his family due to issues, we were dealing with paperwork/legal issues.
On my side I was I was emotionally drained and exhausted, I had not seen my family since 2 years and was homesick, while my own relations with my family were deteriorating due to everything. I felt (and still feel) blocked at my work, and feel blocked in all other ways actually- mentally, creatively, physically even- I can't even leave this place if I want to.
Actually I can, but I can't leave him alone in this. I feel like during that period I had become his emotional lightning rod, because he was not acting/reacting/emoting/feeling/analyzing to ANYTHING that was going on, but I was screaming and crying enough for two. Our close friends even commented how odd it was that it was I who was reacting to his parents instead of their own child. I don't think it's apathy on his part, I actually think it helped him to watch me storm, hence I felt if I left, he would not be ok. That would really be the last straw.
Things have calmed down considerably now (Nov 2021), and we have managed some problems, and some of the others just require waiting out. Unfortunately we had to move since he got a new job in another city, but he comes home nearly every other day and we spend weekends together.
This is not what I wanted, I moved continents and choked my career to be with him, so I am sour about that. I'm a person who has to have their cake and eat it, and I'm looking for ways to have both.
With this lengthy background I would like your opinion on:
-how his transits in Jun 2021 and Nov 2021 correlated with anything I said above
-how things may look ahead for him
-is this related to his Saturn return, because I thought it ended
-why does he behave like that, am I missing something
-and am I in the wrong for demanding change, action or movement of any kind
Please let me know what charts I should post