ok here goes I'm going to be looking particularly at the T-square with my sun as the apex planet....
so to me it looks like this aspect is all about my needing to learn how to balance my very strong intense emotions and learning how to communicate them to others without them being to forcefull and intimidating so that other people will be more comfortable around me and be more willing to get close to me and the best way for me to do this would most likely be to search within through meditation and deep thought to create that balance
again I am fairly new still trying to figure this all out
just had a thought on how the opposition in the sun t-square is also the opposition in the kite and I am thinking that the square might be monopolizing the driving energy of the opposition till I can address that problem so it can then be used to make full use of the kite hmmm
Now break down each aspect/facet, so sun square moon, suggests your parents were divided, divorced or really didn't get along. Cos you witnessed this your ego/pride (sun) is finding it hard to integrate your emotional, intuitive need for nurturance (moon)...
Sun square Moon
What people who were born with Sun square Moon in their natal charts want and what they need are in conflict. The Sun square Moon aspect is similar to the Sun opposition Moon aspect in this sense, but there are very notable differences. Whereas the struggle between wants and needs is mostly played out on the inside and through significant relationships with Sun opposition Moon people, Sun square Moon people tend to confront obstacles that come from the outside.
http://cafeastrology.com/natal/sunmoonaspects.html
Sun square or opposition Pluto
People born under a challenging aspect between the Sun and Pluto are prone to inner tension and negative, self-destructive behavior. When things are going well, they suffer from fears that something will come along to change that. Their thought patterns can be negative, and if not kept in check, they can seriously undermine their happiness. Constantly worrying that the rug will be pulled from under their feet can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
http://cafeastrology.com/natal/sunplutoaspects.html
this suggests a problem relating to father, males, authority figures
Moon opp Pluto --- other people see you as either too emotional, or to controlling, obsessive at times. The oppositions are easier to work through and gain balance.
Saturn square mars = frustrations, stop/go situaitons or doing ones duty in cautious and constructive manner. Mars = energy, action and in gemini/air wants to talk (11th) with friends, groups, large organisations -- little bits about a lot of topics, needs variety and stimulation. then saturn in late first knocks your confidence on how you 'come accross' to others as cautious, even poss bit shy, awkward.
practise using keywords for the planets energies then making them into sentences, like I did above.
To further compound the saturn/mars, is merc/jupiter in 12th. this aspect doesn't always know when to keep quiet and let others talk or undertalks when it should be talking.
http://www.astrology.com/aboutastrology/interpreting/houses/house12.html
http://www.dkfoundation.co.uk/dkfoundation/BookKarmaHouse12.htm
Now your Lessons in this lifetime are connected to your Saturn ie; N Node in virgo. Whereas in prior lifetimes your learnt the lessons of balance in relationships, now the Lesson becomes 'can you pay attention and stay focused on all the details' virgo and recognise that you are an individual and push yourself forward rather than stay in the shaddows and background...