DebbieMarie54
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Does This Relationship Have A Chance?
It was not all that long ago I wrote a short post asking whether Pluto trine Venus might bring money instead of love because I surely did not ever want to fall in love again!
My heart has softened since then I wrote that. I wrote that earlier post because of some experiences I had with my ex-husband whom I divorced in 1996. For 17 years I hated men and did not date.
But late in 2012 something came alive in me, it’s like I was seeing men for the first time, and I liked all of them, but I knew I could only chose one to be intimate with.
There was one man in particular I had been spending time with, James. He and I had been friends for 1 year. He was the computer guy in the neighborhood, who like so many had lost his job in California, and was trying the best he knew how to pay his bills. I found him easy to talk to and he could make me laugh so easily. I found I wanted to be around him more often.
James and I became romantically involved. There have been ups and downs. On the plus side I’ve never felt so emotionally connected to a man. James has the best sense of humor and can keep me laughing all day. I think he’s adorable. We share the same values and life perspective.
James takes medicine for Bipolar Disorder. The medicine works well.
On the downside, I sometimes feel the relationship is one-sided with me giving more than receiving. We have frequent breakups and makeups with him promising to learn and grow. In fact he is starting counseling in two weeks. But I don’t know if some things can ever change: He is not very affectionate; He is not very attentive; He is rather self-centered. I’m concerned these qualities cannot be changed.
I have NEVER experience instability in a relationship like I have with this one. I realize now that I do want to love again; I do want to marry again; I don’t know whether I want to marry James. James want to marry me.
Can someone tell me what the likelihood is that I will marry James?
When are things going to settle down for me and become more stable? Do you see me getting married?
Also, I’m looking for work. Do you see a job for me?
Thank you,
DebbieMarie
It was not all that long ago I wrote a short post asking whether Pluto trine Venus might bring money instead of love because I surely did not ever want to fall in love again!
My heart has softened since then I wrote that. I wrote that earlier post because of some experiences I had with my ex-husband whom I divorced in 1996. For 17 years I hated men and did not date.
But late in 2012 something came alive in me, it’s like I was seeing men for the first time, and I liked all of them, but I knew I could only chose one to be intimate with.
There was one man in particular I had been spending time with, James. He and I had been friends for 1 year. He was the computer guy in the neighborhood, who like so many had lost his job in California, and was trying the best he knew how to pay his bills. I found him easy to talk to and he could make me laugh so easily. I found I wanted to be around him more often.
James and I became romantically involved. There have been ups and downs. On the plus side I’ve never felt so emotionally connected to a man. James has the best sense of humor and can keep me laughing all day. I think he’s adorable. We share the same values and life perspective.
James takes medicine for Bipolar Disorder. The medicine works well.
On the downside, I sometimes feel the relationship is one-sided with me giving more than receiving. We have frequent breakups and makeups with him promising to learn and grow. In fact he is starting counseling in two weeks. But I don’t know if some things can ever change: He is not very affectionate; He is not very attentive; He is rather self-centered. I’m concerned these qualities cannot be changed.
I have NEVER experience instability in a relationship like I have with this one. I realize now that I do want to love again; I do want to marry again; I don’t know whether I want to marry James. James want to marry me.
Can someone tell me what the likelihood is that I will marry James?
When are things going to settle down for me and become more stable? Do you see me getting married?
Also, I’m looking for work. Do you see a job for me?
Thank you,
DebbieMarie