I think hypnosis is a great tool. I've had it done quite a few times by people considered to the be among best in the UK, and my experience has been that it helped enormously at the time, but not a significant amount in the long term. However, I have the relaxation CD [which I don't use] of the woman I used to go to, and this CD is GREAT (GREAT). I'd be more than happy to send to you an mp3 of it and you could try to listen to it nightly or something.
It was through Reiki with a tiny bit of health kinesiology (for guidance), with this other woman, that I noticed the biggest changes from since though (I had the Reiki in 2005?). Whatever this woman did, whatever she combined it with, moved mountains for me. She would ask me to show her where on my body I was feeling the scar of what happened in my past, and I remember it being heavy on my solar plexus. She would put her hands there, and her stomach would start to make this continuously repetitive, loud-ish turning noise. it wasss mad. She would always finish with doing my head also. I only needed like a max. of five sessions with her, and I remember that my thing was either 'shifting' around the body or because she was healing one thing, another, less severe, would come to light, so I'd feel the tension somewhere else and she'd jump on that too. I've relatively recently recommended her to my friend whose son was self-harming and appears to have benefited from the treatment.
Even though she's nowhere near you, here is her website. You might want to have a read through what I haven't explained and consider Reiki therapy as an option, or look further into it,
http://www.alexandriahealing.co.uk/reiki_attunement_courses/practner.html. Perhaps you could email her to ask whether she feels Reiki can help with your concerns. Also, another powerful thing you can do to help yourself Zonie, in eliminating effects of past trauma, is energy tapping. Have you heard of that? Tis hugely effective
http://www.energytapping.org/.