Abby, thanks.
Sorry if I'm coming across as preachy, but thanks to our interactions over the years, I truly believe that you have a good heart. And there you are, trying to meet everyone else's expectations of the super-perfect wife, mother, professional woman, beauty, and who knows what else? How about living the good-enough life? The OK life?
My advice would be that if it hurts your pride to look in the mirror, then stop looking in the mirror. OK, OK-- I know this won't happen and even the least attractive among us still need to comb our hair in front of the mirror once in a while.
But your interactions with Mirror, Mirror on the Wall could be positive, rather than an opportunity to beat yourself up over your appearance. Your interactions can be empowering vs. disempowering, simply because you choose to change your narrative.
I dunno. Maybe try greeting yourself in the morning by saying, "Hello, gorgeous!" OK, if that brings out a laugh, even if in disbelief, so much the better. Or wear your favourite colour and tell that face in the mirror how flattering it is to you.
No doubt you've got a better health regimen than I could recommend, but I hope you're drinking those 6-8 glasses of water per day, focusing on fresh fruits and vegetables, getting enough sleep, and so on.
Abby, as I look at your chart, what pops out for me is that big optimistic first house Jupiter, domiciled in Sagittarius. It conjuncts your moon. If I use key words, I would translate a first house moon as how we feel (moon) about how we come across to other people (first house.)
Maybe the issue isn't so much Venus or the part of beauty, but a big drought in your ability to have a sense of optimistic faith (Sagittarian Jupiter) in yourself (first house.)
Abby I wouldn't mention the following to a person if s/he hadn't mentioned prayer already. So I apologize if the following comments are amiss. I also note that Jupiter also traditionally rules religious faith.
I would never suggest not praying for what you want-- this is between you and God. (Cf. the book of James in the Bible.) But sometimes petitionary prayer has the effect of situating solutions outside of ourselves. Another kind of prayer is in Luke 22:42: "Not my will, but Thine be done." Maybe it's time just to let go of so much effort and struggle to be perfect. You already are perfect enough. Maybe relinquishing your emotional burdens can create some space for a state of grace.
Maybe think about nourishing your faithful and optimistic Sagittarius nature. You don't need a model's face or figure to do that. You're a child of God already, and I believe that He loves you as you are.
With all good wishes for your journey, W.