First of all, I woul like to apologise if anyone felt that they were being personally attacked in my last thread. My observations were meant to be general ones. My strong feelings probably made themselves felt more than they should have done, however. There was someone who did once warn me that I may well underestimate how my 6th-House Mars can come across sometimes.....
I met a lot of people at one time who were firm believers in the 'we create our own reality' school. I was made to feel that I had wilfully and wantonly 'wanted' to be ill once when I went to an acupuncurist once for a minor health problem, that I was 'blamed' for it. I was unemployed at the time too and was also made to feel that this must be due to personal shortcomings too, especially from my very right-wing family, never mind some of the New Agers I came at at some of the peace camps I went to.
More recently, I have seen that this kind of thinking is becoming fashionable again, due to one or two very popular new publications. That actually happened on a forum recently where one member recounted an incident where she was attacked out of the blue by someone who had been stalking her through her front door. Someone piped up, asking if she had a 'victim mentality.'
Now in the case of someone who stays for years with a man who is abusive and incidentally exposing their child to posible too, we might certainly wish to ask what is is in the make-up of that woman that keeps her there, when there are no indications that such a oartner will change his abusive ways.
The woman who was attacked in the situation I just mentioned was me and there was no time for any 'victim mentality' to develop, as there was hardly any time to think or react at all - and certainly by getting through the door and into the lift in time to shake him off.
He stuck his hands around my neck and threatened to kill me, but l did in fact live to tell the tale. (The only transit I could pin this one on was a sextile from Pluto to natal Moon. And it was an especially charged full moon too, as it picked up transitting opposition of Mars and Uranus.) Later on, however, a student of mine started sounding off about women who get attacked are probably 'asking for it,' perhaps she did not realise how angry she made me - well perhaps she did, because soon after that she stopped coming to me. I still wonder if on some level she had realised what she was doing and this was her passive/aggresive way of ending our lessons.
I raised the autism thing because I wanted to draw attention to the fact that some children may be a whole lot less equipped to deal with social interractions at school than others and that this is now said to be due to brain wiring or neurology and not due to 'psychological' factors such as low self esteem - or at least, not to begin with. Again, my question was whether or not it is always fair to blame the child for being a 'victim' when maybe we should be looking at what is is about the way that schools are run that bring out so much cruelty in other children. (the same question was raised by te writer of Tom Brown's Schooldays, of course.)
However, I have come across other writers who are sceptical of the tendency to create ever more new labels for any kind of learning difficulty that could make it less easy for a child to deal effectively with he swings and arrows of school life - if all school is, is preparation for the big, bad world of work. And 'work' require individuals who are better equipped to work in multinational companies, very often, with all that entails. Maybe that could always exclude many individuals who might not have that kind of mindset to begin with. Little boxes.
It is strange for me that this forum and thread have emrged when they have. I was in a forum last year where the moderator did nothing whenever skirmishes took place, then I got blamed for starting a coup to get rid of her. That was the Saturn-Neptune opposition to natal Mars - and Chiron. Many an old wound reopened.
Anyway, I just wanted to make the point again that my points were general observations, rather than meant for any one person individually. I do think they need to be raised though, although it is far from any intention of mine to start causing any irrevocable ill feelings. But these issues came up on another forum here, on Liz Greene. I said it mayself - it can be hard to tell the cop from the mafioso don from the chart alone, as te configurations can be so similar. But should that mean that we shouls 'blame' the child for any unfortuante events that may take place in their life?