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Unread 05-15-2018, 06:30 PM
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Re: i have struggles working with a person born the same day as me.

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Originally Posted by myapie View Post
thank you so much.
but maybe what do you suggest on doing when it comes to that person?
should i care about her flirting with everyone or should i let it go?
when i like someone i dont wanna anyone to flirt with him
It is a big job, takes a whole lot of energy, probably more than you have, to try to control what other people do. And it never works. If someone you like can be distracted by another girl flirting with him, then you don't want to get involved with that guy. He's not ready to be involved with you. When he is, he won't be affected by another girl's flirting.

The problem is not this girl or her comfort with herself or her attractiveness or her height. The difficulty is your discomfort with yourself. Moon Saturn. It is not until you can find comfort with and appreciate what you are as you are, that you will be able to be at ease with the guys you like and with other women who have qualities that you imagine or feel you lack. That is good personal work to focus on and it takes time.

In the meantime
"should i care about her flirting with everyone or should i let it go?"
There is nothing you can do about her flirting. So what good does it do you to care?

If it were me, I would let it go and just let things happen as they will. They do anyway And it will be a big relief....
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