Hi again Temptation,
I took your birth details to make a chart, making it easier to read and to offer answers to your query.
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The first thing noticeable is that you mention the very traits that are so recogniseable in a Sun-Mercury sign - Gemini.
If you delve further into astrology you may read that Mercury/Gemini have rulership over the hands, respiratory system, and vocal chords . You may express yourself through your hands. Sit on them and you become speechless.
Mercury is also ruler of Virgo, THE sign that worries about the (im)perfection of the physical body.
Mercury makes no harsh aspects in Gemini. In its own sign it will forever question every aspect of the 7th and 10th house areas of life. Its conjunction with the SN-NN axis could imply a quest to seek meaning (Sagittarius) to life. At only 26 years of age, there are many years available to find the answers.
With Sun trine Jupiter in Libra, meaning you might tend to listen to others' opinions rather than form your own, I would agree with
Passiflora that
it sounds as if your question is being driven by the interest of others. .
Gemini must learn to trust in, and know itself.
Natal Moon is in its natural 'feminine' sign Cancer, where it trines natal Pluto, also in its own natural 'feminine' sign. Yet the Pluto in Scorpio generation influence is seldom referred to as a matter of gender rather than the sometimes obsessional pull of one's sexuality. All previous taboos were annihilated, allowing freedom of sexual expression to come out of the closet. A further titbit of interest is that both planets are in the decanate ruled by the other. The 8th and 12th house are Water houses, which deal with (repressed?) 'flow of feeling'.
Like you, my husband and father of his children has mutable angles, a mutable Sun-Saturn and a cardinal Moon Cancer-Neptune conflicts in his chart. Parental issues have never produced a reason …. or excuse …. to question his gender. More a question of not being able to grasp why sexual/gender expression has become such a point nowadays.
In the 'masculine' signs Venus forms good as well as harsh aspects. Affection can lie in both directions. Mars in Leo forms only good aspects. In such a strong sign AND in the 8th house its masculinity would not be questionable.
A reason you may be particularly concerned during this period of life is that Moon, in its progression around the chart, had recently returned to its natal sign. Vulnerability of feelings are inclined to take over.
Your progressed Sun is now approaching the final 29th degree of Gemini, said to be 'the examination degree' of any sign. The Moon conjoined Sun in their individual progressions approx. 2 months ago. This unique conjunction is known as 'the progressed New Moon' and is said to bring about an entirely new concept of one's life.
At the same time, Mercury's progression through the Pisces decanate of Cancer (power of imagination!) is trining natal Pluto, whilst Venus's progression through Taurus squares natal Mars.
Effects of a love interest ?
Could this combination coincide with the period when identity (as per pseudonym??) rather than gender has become the all-important question for a Sun in Gemini?