Emeraldstar99
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I am suffering so much with this situation... I can't even count how many days I spent crying just thinking about this.
him: 12/19/1998 13:30
me: 12/06/1999 21:14
fortaleza,brazil
Hmmm, 56% sounds better than I thought. What do you mean with my venus suffering? Am I suffering for liking him or suffering for not being able to let go?
I would like to know if he has the potential to like me more than I do.
Hi Emeraldstar. Your synastry 4th House Scorpio Venus has no easy aspects from his planets: hence "is suffering". Your natal Venus is in your most private place inside. Venus is naturally at ease and comfortable--but yours gets no support from his powerful angular Saturn and Neptune. I didn't mean you were personally suffering. No problem with liking him; however not being able to let go can lead to suffering, if you try to maintain a long term romantic relationship with him.
Your Venus condition is mixed: in detriment in Scorpio, but comfortable in 4th House (correlates with 4th Sign Cancer). No major aspects to your natal Venus, so can benefit from a partner with planets in Sign aspect to your Scorpio Venus. For example, a partner with late Scorpio Mars (in your 5th House).
His 6th House Capricorn Moon and Venus are not attracted to your Sagittarius Sun and Moon.
I see, that makes sense about my venus state. If he's not attracted to me or my loving nature... it can't be my status or money since we both lost status and money being together, and him losing a lot of money and many other things. Are you sure that the overlays has nothing about this?
Since the beginning I felt I was only serving this person as a coworker and I was ok for a time then I was feeling I was taken advantage of. I felt some annoyance then it slowly turned to explosive physical attraction after till we got together. I don't see myself marrying this person at all or having him as bf since from the start. I feel like I have a burden to carry because he made me go through unwanted stuff. Trust me on this, I only felt the attraction but I don't see in him having a future with me, ONLY the burden of the relationship because of outside matters.
Synastry doesn't give you the progression of the relationship, and what happens later. It just means chemistry between two people.
I see also he was initially attracted to your Saturn in Taurus in 10th, as originally suspected. It gave him a feeling of stability, which his moon/venus craved and needed. That was one of the hooks.
Caps are attracted to Taurus and what they offer. Are you very focused on your career? Were you in a very stable profession?
Synastry won't give you the progression of the relationship, and what happens later on. It just means chemistry between two people, that's it.
I see also he was initially attracted to your Saturn in Taurus in 10th, as originally suspected. It gave him a feeling of stability, which his moon/venus craved and needed. That was one of the hooks. Caps are attracted to Taurus and what they offer. Are you very focused on your career? Were you in a very stable profession?
I also just saw this:
Yes the fact that you guys were co-workers expands the original point. He got together with you because he thought it would somehow help his career (Mars in Libra, your Saturn supporting his Moon and Venus, core ambition needs). While I wont know his exact motives, but he would not be getting together with you unless he originally thought he had something to gain by it. Perhaps as work allies, or more favors at work that advances his interests. Hence your feelings of taken advantage of are not for naught.
You feel responsible for him due to Saturn, it touches his Moon and Venus.
I am very sorry for your suffering. I can also see how the double Sagittarius energy (rose colored glasses) and Scorpios Venus gives you more idealism and obsession with the guy than it may be worth.
I think you may need more time to reflect, perhaps properly grieve and digest it all....
A person has many sides and components, the end action and decision always depend on what factors are stronger. He has good sides (Jupiter in Pisces can be sacrificial at times), but his deepest needs (Moon) and type of female he goes for (Venus) are in the social climbing and utilitarian sign of Capricorn. Surface behaviors can seem contradictory, but it will never change his deepest core need.
At the end of the day, this person's "love" is practicality based. His utilitarian side will overweigh his sentimental side (Pisces). This is not a guy who would stay in a relationship if it does not seem to offer him advantages. And at the end of the day, he will leave one, if another can do more to fulfill his ambitions. But he will probably do it with more sensitivity, consideration and even follow-up than most Cap moons, due to Jupiter's placement in Pisces.
What concerns me the most about this synastry is that someone's (his I think?) Sun and Moon are in the others' House 6- never good for a personal or romantic relationship to have the luminaries in the others H6 or in the H6 of the Composite. Are the luminaries in H6 in the composite?
When there is an H6 emphasis such as this the relationship is not going to be an equal one. Instead one person will likely fall into a role of being "in service" to or taking care of the other. Or the one whose H6 is being activated will find that they are feeling overly criticized and pressured to change or reform in some way.