Izzy: Yes, Pluto can have that sort of effect, of attracting qualities that you despise or people that "draw your shadow side" as osa said...
Pluto in fifth is all about intensity... Your love-affairs are mostly an all-or-nothing relationships, very intense. Without being jealous, a fifth house pluto is prone to possessivity and even stalking (in extreme cases) either you "own" this energy, or, as you seem to, you attract partners with these traits... Very interesting however!
And all of you! Thank you for answering this thread, it,s very interesting!
I personally have a very heavy (as in very present) Pluto in my chart
In scorpio, in eight house, conjunct my N.Node, forming an exact yod with sun at the apex, trine venus, sextile moon and opposite mars, it makes my life quite a journey, I can tell you that and can explain my interest with this body.
I Had to deal with sexual abuse from a very young age, nearly killed myself in my teens, had to deal with self-harm and had 2 near-death experiences in the past two years, many of my friends were or still are suicidal or into self-harm, all of my life is revolving on the word intensity, mostly, but I have the will and stamina to get through it all.
My feelings are one hell of a roller coaster, very intense, but also very tightly controlled. I do have control issue, I am possessive and jealous, which I'm getting better with. I am paranoid about certain things and cannot settle for meaningless chit chat, which any of the people talk to feel instinctively, since I always seem to attract people who need to share their deepest secrets, and I welcome them with no judgment.
Having others input, even from people who don't feel it as intensely as I, for example, is very interesting.
, so I don't know how someone without its influence feels or deal with everyday life.