Heidy, I was not attacking you and I did not see your edit. I can't control your reactions, obviously, but that's the deal.
Why 'exalting' things can be bad: Saturn's in Sag, sun in Libra, yes? Saturn is obligated to provide for the sun as best he can - but he really can't, the people are poles apart in needs and wants, which we see from the sun being detrimented.
The sun is not comfortable in Libra, and as a rule sun and Saturn aren't planetary friends. But if it's a day chart, then Saturn is in sun's triplicity and we'll assume that Saturn and sun are sextile, which is going to ease things a bit.
It's not about like, love, adore, exalt, or even hate. Can a relationship happen with these planets? Yes, but you can't gauge interest by looking at those positions, it just doesn't work. If the sun happens to be in 7, then we'll assume that the sun is more keen, and since sun is the applying planet, that can show more desire as well. Sun's not exalting anything. Just going with the Libra-Sag positions, it could be that Saturn feels obligated for whatever reason to provide/do something for sun. Not saying it is, but it certainly can be. With only the sign positions, that's a possibility.
It's the aspect (and the moon) that shows you if anything is likely to happen. If, say, Saturn is at 14 Sag, and sun is at 22 Libra, nothing's going to happen, the moment has passed. Other way round, it's possible, especially if the moon is being helpful.
Frawley's got it back to front, and when people adopt his terminology (loves, exalts, what have you) then they start talking it back to front as well.
Ideally, you want to see the quesited receiving the querent, as the querent will have less work to do to bring about the desired outcome. Sometimes this can be preferable to mutual reception. In horary it can be a bit different, but in the normal course of things you do not want your planet receiving a malefic - if it does, it's pretty much giving the malefic free reign to do what it wants.