Here is another take on the Judgement card, from Labyrinthos:
"Now is the time to take a closer look at your love life and figure out what needs to be changed. The Judgement tarot love meaning indicates a time of self-reflection and analysis initiated by an awakening. Issues in your love life that you once ignored may be seen clearly now, and you have the chance to make adjustments. Keep communication with your partner open, and make sure both of you are aware of each other’s needs. Small changes that the two of you make together can have a great effect on your relationship. Your past actions and their consequences, whether good or bad, are catching up with you now. If you’ve made mistakes in the past, use the lessons you’ve learned to make changes for your future."
To ask the question and get a clear answer from Tarot I think you will have to have simple clear question in your mind. One thing at a time, so you weed things out.
Also, I notice you are thinking a lot about what he thinks and how he acts, but what about you?
What exactly do you want from the relationship?
What needs is it fulfilling for you?
What is missing for you, so that it will be a satisfying relationship for you?