Your Moon in Cancer is in dignity, loves to be in the 12th, (Harmony Pisces). The cry baby 'attitude' you are talking about, me thinks is more of being an overly kind gentleman with smoldering passions (Mars dignified in Scorpio trined by Water-emotional Moon in 12th), held at bay-smouldering beneath the surface in Scorpio, intense.
Saturn near Mars you speak of, could also speak of past attitudes evolved of strict upbringing that kept you from emerging into the babe magnet you wish to be, but progressed Mars is slowly moving past orb of the conjunction, lifting the heavy feelings of responsibly to purporting yourself in public with business on your mind. Saturn (parenting, sibling issues) could of played a part in stifling your natural spontaneous creative urges.
Gemini on the 12th is capable of fore thought, (prepared responses in feelings for returning adequate repartee'). You possibly need an 'interactive' exercising program, to make the social trait muscle develop co mingling skills. Traits developed, honed into prepared habit structure demonstrations, could result in positive, permanent character development, you can be a Kissinger it just takes practice. 'Does thinking make it so?' I think it might.
You could be 'only prone' to worry you are too soft, but when it comes time to put your foot down, (Quiet man walking with a big stick- Saturn conj. Mars in creative, romantic 5th) and be able to spontaneously truthfully deliver your intense impactful responses, you fulfill the trines purpoise..(Moon to Mars) and that is to 'reveal' your true future intention of creating any 'lasting meet of relationship(s)'. You should gain experience by mingling and being social to gain an understanding by myriad association(s): with women and men, achieving social graces, 'character is destiny' = Saturn/Mars).
Women/Men
will only take advantage of your gentlemanly nature, if you fail to let them know your standards at some point in relationship encounter. Saturn near Mars is strong, piercing-can look beneath the surface of objectives in many pursuits in the 5th house. But it is the gentleman whom softly announces his intentions that will have the cornucopia of fulfillment, should he lay his cards out on the table (personal wishes) for the invitation requirements, these are attractive qualities and strong, lasting.
The progressions have Taurus on your 10th HC now, so yes you are dealing with Venus, (amoure') issues.
A little more information about your lifestyle, is it shown in my conversation here above?
Just my 2 cents worth
Gentleman Jim, put your boxing gloves on, when you walk down the street, but make sure they are of a soft colour. LOL