Shouldn't you be doing this in general?
Regardless of your warnings people have their own lives, destinies, lessons to learn and so on. I don't think you should ever try to manipulate someone into thinking you are right.
As I said, I'm sorry about your story but I have exact conjunction with mt Nessus to my friends Moon, and.. I've never abused him. Just in the beggining we fought a lot more but we also have moon square moon.
Nessus acts on awareness. I dare you to check your synastry with people you love anď close ones to see how many times Nessus comes up.
LOL. I had wrote that last section and thought, I used the wrong word. I meant to use the word "advise" not "tell you what to do", which sounded rather strong in retrospect. At the end of the day, the OP is a free thinking person who is going to do what she is going to do anyways.
I did write everything with her best interest in mind though. And with full responsibility, taking in a couple of facts:
- The non-astrological fact this guy is already doing something shady, in stalking her, without even having spoken to her. That by itself tells you a lot about his modus operandi.
- I also considered the fact that I once had Nessus on an ex-friend's Ascendant. I am by no means an abusive person, yet even I felt an urge to abuse her.
Its not necessarily about being right, but about avoiding situations with a high percentage of danger. Honestly as advisors using astrology as the medium, I really don't think we can ever say we will be 100% right. Especially online forums with an incomplete picture and short time, there will always be some detail that's missing. We can only advise using our experience, and calculate percentages in our head of what the danger is.
If one already knows there is a high percentage of danger, what are the reasons to get into it?
I can't think of any at this point. Save for the one...if one is just starting out in life, you may as well make mistakes for growth lessons. The person has plenty of time to recover, and the overall growth benefit may overweigh the cost.
But later on in life, some situations can be life ruining with much worse consequences. I am serious. One injury can domino and affect myriad avenue of one's life. And not everyone is resilient.
That's what I was trying to prevent for the OP.
In all fairness though, the last Nessus person I was talking about also had other negative asteroids on my Sun. Along with major Pluto issues. So it wasn't just one thing.
If I were to tell you what happened, you would be shocked. And it didn't start out that way, initially it is usually beautiful and you feel like you met something good.