Not confusing, you're in a conflictual relationship and you have to decide how you want to go ahead.
If he fakes fights, don't play his games.
He as Venus will be changing signs, and as Chrysalis wrote he will approach an opposition with Uranus, wanting his freedom.
You as mars are stressed, as you say, inconjunct Uranus, keeping you in tension and pushing you to take a distance. Plus mars, you, are opposite Chiron in your 12th. There is a lot of painful learning going on for you in this relationship, bringing up subconscious things you might not be ready to face, but you will have to do it if you want to overcome them and be able to move on.
Just ride it out for the moment and try to be generous towards him, it will probably be him that makes the move.
And remember, not all love relationships are meant to last a lifetime, maybe this one will and maybe not, but it won't be the end of the world for either of you. Try to learn from it. And try to relax. Relationships, especially love relationships, are meant to help us grow, not necessarily to suffer. Try to enjoy to good side of it while it is there. And don't be afraid to let go if that is what it comes to, because then you won't be ready for what the universe has in store for you next.