I am from India and I got married in March, 2011 in India. My wife and I were colleagues in the same Organization and were good friends before marriage. I fell in love with her and proposed. She wasn't in love with me, but since her parents thought this was a good proposal, she also agreed to this wedding. After the wedding, I realized that she was a little detached and wasn't caring. She was dominant, bossy and could be very blunt and rude at times. But other times she was extremely loving and caring to the extent that I have not experienced such love from anyone in my life, not even from my parents. It was a mix of extremes.. either it was too good or too bad. She was never interested in a physical relationship. It was 3 months after marriage that we had our first physical contact. We have not mated for more than a dozen times in the course of the almost 9 months we lived together, that too not in a complete and fulfilling manner. There have been equally happy moments of love too when we had a lot of fun and happiness watching movies, cooking, going out for dinner, spending time with each other talking, cleaning the house etc etc. But sometimes she totally accused me of things I did not mean. for eg: If we were going out of dinner and I asked her to "hurry up and get ready soon" she would say "so you feel that we will miss the dinner because of me.. ok I am not coming".. things like that which I never ever meant. She completely avoids and ignored me at times and this made me very depressed. There have been times when I have taken out my frustration on my own body by hitting my head and chest, to get her to at least acknowledge my presence because she has totally ignored me for days together.. I was also sexually frustrated at lot of times. In December 2011, I traveled to America for official purposes. We hugged and cried when parting at the airport.. we were so full of love when I left india.. But 2 weeks after I reached US a fight broke out.. It was so ugly and my parents got involved. Now she totally cut off all contact with me and my family. Deleted me from facebook, blocked me. Blocked me from our office communicator. Doesnt respond to any calls, messages or mails from me or my parents. She said she wants divorce. Its been a month and a half since this incident and its been exactly one month since we spoke to each other today. I really want to salvage this relationship and hope to get this marriage back on track by doing counselling etc. But I feel she is very strong in her decision and is drifting farther and farther every day. I really want to know the future of this marriage. Please help me.
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