Re: Is there any future in this
The synastry
For me, the most problematic aspect is the Mars and BML conjunct Saturn. Saturn’s sour spot is irritated by what he perceives as Mars’s cavalier or rebellious attitude. In Aquarius and conjunct BML, this Mars doesn’t want to submit to society’s rules and regulations and may sometimes have something of an outcast’s point of view. This falls exactly on the spot where the Saturn partner needs to be controlled, prudent and thorough, because his experience tells him that any other way, his inadequacies will be exposed. In some manner that is what Mars BML is doing: exposing Saturn’s inadequacies and fears, taking his prudent reserve as scorn. On the other hand, Mars feels inhibited, restricted and judged by the Saturn partner, which is probably true. Not a very easy conjunction to deal with, but there is the mitigating factor of Saturn being in his own domicile, which means maybe that he is strong and experienced enough not to react too defensively to what he believes to be Mars’ provocation. Still, all other things being equal, BML and Mars conjunct partner’s Saturn in domicile sounds to me like the outsider provoking the established.
There’s also a Sun Mars conjunction, which could indicate some degree of irritation too.
The composite
I am not sure if I totally agree with or understand the composite principle, especially since there are at least two methods of calculating it (midpoint and Davison) and at the end it seems to me everything is possible in interpretation. The authors I red, Townley and Hand, seem to interpret composites the way we do in horary. For example, a composite void Moon would mean the relationship is not going anywhere, the same as a void Moon in horary means the matter isn’t going anywhere. In that case, how do we interpret a composite Ascendant in the last degree of a sign, as is the case with your composite? In horary, that would mean the question comes too late or has been asked too many times.
The composite is a technique invented by Townley in the seventies and I am not sure to fully have a grasp on it. If this technique were to have any validity, Chiron on the composite’s Asc would be the most significant point. Of corse we could interpret it like in the U2’s song «*we hurt each other then we do it again*» (I think it was in «*One*», a beautiful song, maybe appropriate for this synastry). But then again, Chiron is not simply about hurting. Chiron is the doctor, sometimes in the primary sense, sometimes in a methaphorical one. Ultimately he always does you good. That Chiron on the Asc would mean the relationship heals you both of something, even if the process can be sometimes hurtful. You also have Chiron conjunct Sun and Jupiter in synastry and one of you has Chiron opposite Moon natally. I heard times and times again that the most significant aspects are the ones you find in natal, synastry and composite alike. It figures. If you have some significant Chiron natally (you are born to experience Chiron at one point or another) and then somebody comes and activates your Chiron aspect with their planets and then you find in composite that the purpose of the relationship is chirotic in nature, that makes sense.
I knew people who put Chiron on one of my luminaries and hurt me, but I soon enough realised they also delivered me from some older burden. But it also happened to me to know Chiron in synastry without the pain attached, or very little of it. Chiron is always someone who plays the role of a doctor for you: it could be the actual doctor, but it could be the investigator or the friend who tells you a truth that changes your point of view and later liberates you from illusion and pain. This person does something good to you, repares you in some way, even if that was not his or her intention. It seems to me that in the relationship you’re describing, both of you are playing the role of Chiron for the other. This is a very good thing, even if it stings a bit in the moment.