Final update:
We got talking...i asked him direct questions about his intentions as he ended up texting me today on top of sending me the 'wink' the other day through that dating site. Funny thing is that when I asked him to delete my # two months ago and never to contact me again, he said it is deleted! Now...he texted me, which proved otherwise lol
So he said that he finds me sexually attractive, that yes he wants to have sex with me, but did not mention anything more than that, so I told him that I sleep with a man when Im exclusive with him (kind of a BS on my part as I've done otherwise with others), to which he answers "I know, that's why I was't putting effort in it as I didn't want you to feel disrespected." So we cleared that out of the way, then I told him "well, why are you contacting me if you sensed that I only sleep when im exclusive? what is your purpose in your contacts?" He said "I don't know. I guess I find you intriguing. I like you, your intelligence and your looks." So I said 'ok then what do u want to do, now that I told you that i only sleep when im in a relationship while you are interested in having sex with me?" He told me that he'd like to get together sometimes over dinner and catch up over dinner. I had mentioned to him that my roomate is going away for 2 months (out of country) and that i've always had fear of darkness and not used to being alone and he told me that he would love it if I stay with him for some days even as a friend as he has two extra bedrooms.
So the mystery has been solved and no point in continuing this thread with a chart as things revealed themselves and Im glad I had that talk with him. I got sad that despite liking me a lot, valuing my intelligence as he told me (even many times before) and wanting to see me even when i'm not giving it up...it's like he likes the whole package, but he didn't mention being with me in closer terms like a relationship. I felt like asking 'what's wrong with me then if you like everything about me, you even feel comfortable around me as u told me, then what's missing in me?" I didn't ask him that but i wondered.
It's obvious that he can't let me go of me all these months and even when I said don't contact me, he goes and contacts me again even when he knows im not giving it up to him. Interestingly, I asked him 'so did u find anyone special yet?" He said "nope" and also, I thought he texted me in the afternoon on Sunday to ask me out, but he was home and sending me naked selfies of his upper torso (LOL) and we were texting back and forth for a few hours, so it didn't seem like he went out on Sunday with anyone, which shows that he most likely isn't involved with anyone otherwise i don't think he would have contacted me ... someone he isn't getting anything from. So no more updates or charts obviously...case closed as they say. I feel bad for him...I think he is missing on a lot by not being with me as I am very dedicated to a man that I am into and I could have been good to him and he has a strong attraction towards me too, plus I accepted our 16 yr age gap, so there should not have been any issues.