Caprising, Shall we try to reason through this one?
Please consider how your personalized view of society and astrology becomes a kind of Procrustean Bed, in which the huge variety of human life must be stretched or trimmed to fit. (For readers who might be unfamiliar with this metaphor, see:
http://www.mythweb.com/encyc/entries/procrustes.html )
I hope you are not one of these individuals unable to view people in contexts outside of your own personal experience! I selected the example of Europe, but would you prefer to discuss Africa? Asia? The USA? In sub-Saharan Africa women historically were the farmers in most regions. In rural America, farm women may have been "at home" but cooking for the threshing crew, milking cows, churning butter, raising a vegetable garden, home canning, and sewing the clothes didn't leave much time for focused attention on their individual children. Oftentimes the oldest daughter was the surrogate mother to her younger siblings.
And let's not forget the oh-so-heartwarming experience of upper-middle and upper-class children shipped off to boarding school at young ages during the past century. Where's Mummy in this picture? Not home with the milk 'n' cookies waiting.
Our own personal experiences are valid yet highly limited. This is why we read history, current events, geography, and so on, to extent our purview beyond the limits of our own personal lives.
Kids throughout history have blamed their parents for all kinds of things. If you grew up in a world of stay-at-home Moms, that says something about your socio-economic class, and your particular point in space and time. Both society and astrology are much bigger than this.
As a middle class Baby Boomer growing up, I had a stay-at-home mother, as did the majority of my school friends. As college students we blamed our parents for all kinds of problems with our upbringing.
And you can see this in peoples' horoscopes. If someone has astrological earmarks of a troubled relationship with Mom and/or Dad, how else can their actual parent/s appear to them? This doesn't mean that the child is objectively correct! Siblings' and parents' horoscopes might tell quite a different story.
Parent/child relationships also vary by generation (boomers, generations x and y, &c.) The Millenial Generation (
https://students.rice.edu/images/students/AADV/OWeek2008AADVResources/Characteristics%20of%20the%20Millenial%20Generation.pdf ) are far better connected to their parents than previous generations were. And of course most of their mothers worked outside the home during their childhoods.
Your notion that women are dupes of the media or that feminism was "hijacked by vested interests" is
truly insulting to women's intelligence. The professional women I've known (who are many) didn't work hard because of crass materialism. They worked hard because they had it in them to do more than spending their lives dusting the furniture and fretting about their husband's "ring around the collar." Raising children is a noble profession, but do not forget that children grow up, leaving Mom with empty time on her hands. Any woman needed ca. 1970 to have job skills in case she didn't marry a financially well-off husband, he left her, or she had to leave him. Women then and now want careers for themselves, just as their brothers and husbands did.
The old trope of my father's generation that "my wife will never have to work" is precisely because they were very familiar with married women who worked: in textile mills, sweat shops, domestic service, and the like.
Few women today under 60 would even call themselves feminists. Rather, the idea that they will have both a career and a family is taken-for-granted. The 1970s feminists did their work so well that their political agenda is largely completed. The best example being Sarah Palin. If an ultra-conservative woman can have a big family and run for Vice President with none of her conservative brethren batting an eye, we've had a sea-change.
And here's the kicker.
You cannot tell from a horoscope without supplementary data whether it belongs to a male or female.
Sure, some of us felt that the women's movement sold us a bill of goods as we put in "the double day." But life was equally difficult and frantic for stay-at-home women who raised seven kids, notably if Dad drank the paycheck. And where is the father in all of this (if present)? Hopefully he is sharing the domestic work load.
Each sign placement of venus has its positive and negative expressions (even venus in Libra and Taurus), if you take the time and effort to do a few hundred chart readings for people face to face then the differences between the planets in sign become much more obvious, most people exhibit both the positive and negative expressions during the journey from childhood to adulthood...
I quite agree, and yes I have read hundreds of charts for people on-line.
I wonder how much of the idea that planets "don't work so well" in detriment or fall is primarily the astrologer's
confirmation bias. The old-style astrology says what to expect, so into the Procrustean Bed the horoscope native goes.
Western women today are not what they were during your childhood or my grandmother's era. If traditional debilities cannot keep up with social realities, horoscope reading can only suffer.