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Beachnan

Member
Good Morning,

I’ve always been very curious to know what my natal chart says about me and especially my love life. I’ve always been very solid in my career although lately I’ve been thinking more about starting my own business except not knowing where to start 🤦🏾‍♀️ Quite a conundrum!

I’ve also been thinking a lot about my love life. Love has always been a really difficult area for me. I always had many men who wanted to be with me and would be very tough with “letting them in”. It’s because when I do let someone in, I give a lot but then feel disappointed when I don’t get the same in return. So I try to communicate my needs and wants but if it doesn’t meet my expectations then then I shut off and end the relationship.

I have been told that I am an extremely attractive woman and have many, many men approach me all the time. Many men that date me tell me that my personality and beauty makes them self conscious (sorry not trying to sound stuck up or full of myself because im not) and that it takes a very strong man (mentally and confidently) to be with me. Many of them get jealous and try to control me. When they try, I leave the relationship.

This doesn’t happen in short term relationships. I hold on for years and years (2 years then 11years was my last relationship before that). I know my Neptune placements may have something to do with this and both Venus and mars in my 12th house? I have always felt like I will ultimately be alone.

I really want a loving, fulfilling relationship and am with someone currently that I have really deep feelings for. I feel an amazing connection with this person, but just want to be sure that this could be a real long lasting relationship and I dont want to fool myself it’s is only an illusion.

Can someone take a look at both my chart and our synastry and share some insight on what you see? Btw I don’t have his birth time. Only mine.

My Natal Chart

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Our synastry chart

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ScorpioMaria

Well-known member
Thank you for all those graphics, that must be your Gemini Ascendant :geek:

That makes my job much easier

Here is a list of your most important aspects in synastry, you are on the left, he is on the right
Strong positive are bold, minor negative are red, strong negative are bold red

Your Sun-Moon midpoint: Leo 16
His Sun-Moon midpoint: Cancer 11

Sun-Midpoint conjunction (orb 2)
Sun-Jupiter conjunction (orb 3)
Sun-Pluto square (orb 5)
Moon-Sun trine (orb 0)
Moon-Venus square (orb 2)
Moon-Neptune square (orb 7)
Midpoint-Mars conjunction (orb 2)
Mercury-Mercury square (orb 5)
Mercury-North sextile (orb 1)
Mercury-Chiron square (orb 2)
Venus-Venus conjunction (orb 1)
Venus-Saturn sextile (orb 0)

Mars-Moon square (orb 5)
Mars-North trine (orb 0)
Jupiter-Mars conjunction (orb 4)
Jupiter-Uranus square (orb 3)
Uranus-Sun opposition (orb 7)
Uranus-Mars square (orb 2)
Neptune-Venus opposition (orb 4)

Pluto-Mars sextile (orb 2)
Vertex-Pluto conjunction (orb 2)
Ascendant-Moon sextile (orb 2)
Ascendant-Mercury sextile (orb 3)
Ascendant-Venus conjunction (orb 4)
Ascendant-Saturn sextile (orb 2)
 
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ScorpioMaria

Well-known member
This is not an illusion, this is a strong relationship that could certainly be a stable loving marriage! :geek:

There are many strong positive aspects. The "strong negative" aspects are not severe, and are small compared to the strong positives.
No relationship is perfect, but this one seems very good. You seem to be about the same age, both of you are likely mature and ready to settle down in a pleasant relationship that may not be as passionate and turbulent as young love. The main things to be aware of are the Uranus-Mars square and the Neptune-Venus opposition.

The Uranus-Mars square suggests that your need for change/variety frustrates his actions. You may frustrate him and make him impatient, including sexually (possibly). The relationship may be erratic or temperamental in some way.

The Neptune-Venus opposition suggest that he may have some romantic illusions about you! Maybe he is attracted to you or loves you even though he knows you are "trouble" in some way. He may have an idealised image of you, though you may not be the type who marries or keeps a man easily.

Both difficulties are relatively minor and can be overcome with clear communication and expression of love (what are your love languages?),
in an otherwise strong relationship.

I noticed that you have Venus conjunct your Gemini Ascendant; probably you are beautiful and intelligent, which makes most men insecure! :geek:

This is similar to a Libra Moon or Venus and Ascendant; you may be very pleasant, beautiful, social, and charming.
You may be socialising and flirting often; you may be a serial dater.
Relationships are not a problem for beautiful, intelligent, charming people, but stable relationships and marriages often are.
Let him know that you are interested in finding someone to marry; if you are certain of his character, and you love each other, go for it! :geek:
 

Beachnan

Member
This is not an illusion, this is a strong relationship that could certainly be a stable loving marriage! :geek:

There are many strong positive aspects. The "strong negative" aspects are not severe, and are small compared to the strong positives.
No relationship is perfect, but this one seems very good. You seem to be about the same age, both of you are likely mature and ready to settle down in a pleasant relationship that may not be as passionate and turbulent as young love. The main things to be aware of are the Uranus-Mars square and the Neptune-Venus opposition.

The Uranus-Mars square suggests that your need for change/variety frustrates his actions. You may frustrate him and make him impatient, including sexually (possibly). The relationship may be erratic or temperamental in some way.

The Neptune-Venus opposition suggest that he may have some romantic illusions about you! Maybe he is attracted to you or loves you even though he knows you are "trouble" in some way. He may have an idealised image of you, though you may not be the type who marries or keeps a man easily.

Both difficulties are relatively minor and can be overcome with clear communication and expression of love (what are your love languages?),
in an otherwise strong relationship.

I noticed that you have Venus conjunct your Gemini Ascendant; probably you are beautiful and intelligent, which makes most men insecure! :geek:

This is similar to a Libra Moon or Venus and Ascendant; you may be very pleasant, beautiful, social, and charming.
You may be socialising and flirting often; you may be a serial dater.
Relationships are not a problem for beautiful, intelligent, charming people, but stable relationships and marriages often are.
Let him know that you are interested in finding someone to marry; if you are certain of his character, and you love each other, go for it! :geek:
@ScorpioMaria Thank you very much for this breakdown and your thoughts on our synastry.

I felt like our meeting was fated from the connection we have. There are times where I don’t feel like he’s not serious about me or unsure of what he wants because he’s often aloof and it really throws me for a loop. But there other times where he doesn’t want to let me out of his sight and is very open with how he feels about me.

I believe I provide him the emotional security he needs or at least I think I do. I often feel misunderstood by him where he misunderstands what I’m trying to communicate. Maybe our mercuries square at work here? I was always under the impression that mercuries square are a big detriment in synastry. From what you’re seeing, is our communication going to be problematic based on the squares or do we have other aspects in communication that help soften this one?

Maybe I shouldn’t ask this question in this context…but from what you see, is he more invested in this relationship? Or me? Or both equally?

My love language is quality time and I would have to say his is physical touch or acts of service.

And you hit the mail on the head. I don’t have an issue getting into relationships…it’s stable loving ones that are difficult.
 

ScorpioMaria

Well-known member
@ScorpioMaria Thank you very much for this breakdown and your thoughts on our synastry.

I felt like our meeting was fated from the connection we have. There are times where I don’t feel like he’s not serious about me or unsure of what he wants because he’s often aloof and it really throws me for a loop. But there other times where he doesn’t want to let me out of his sight and is very open with how he feels about me.

I believe I provide him the emotional security he needs or at least I think I do. I often feel misunderstood by him where he misunderstands what I’m trying to communicate. Maybe our mercuries square at work here? I was always under the impression that mercuries square are a big detriment in synastry. From what you’re seeing, is our communication going to be problematic based on the squares or do we have other aspects in communication that help soften this one?

Maybe I shouldn’t ask this question in this context…but from what you see, is he more invested in this relationship? Or me? Or both equally?

My love language is quality time and I would have to say his is physical touch or acts of service.

And you hit the mail on the head. I don’t have an issue getting into relationships…it’s stable loving ones that are difficult.
The Mercury-Mercury square is usually terrible for relationships (constant misunderstandings, arguments) if the orb is acute;
since the orb here is 5 and a half degrees on a square, this should not be too bad, this should be normal enough.

There is also a Mars-Moon square and Sun-Pluto square, so there is some disagreement from him over your actions and personality;
again, the orbs are 5 and a half degrees on a square, not too bad, normal enough.
These aspects are common in long-term stable marriages

Your aspects are very good overall, you may be slightly more in love than he is;
but this is also normal, affection is rarely equal, and this should not prevent a mutually beneficial loving relationship. :geek:

Maybe try understanding his Aries Mercury/communication style (assertive and apprehensive/hesitant in the last degree of Aries),
and his Leo Moon emotions/reactions (both generous AND self-centred, but somewhat subdued by Saturn, conflicting with his practical Taurus Sun).

He has an exact Sun-Saturn square, which can make him very self-conscious, unhappy, grumpy, hesitant.
Also he has a Sun-Moon square, so his practical personality is in conflict with generous but cautious/hesitant emotions. He may be indecisive.
Probably he had a difficult childhood, pain and suffering, problems with his parents, considerable problems with his father or authority figures.
At least he is cautious, modest, and not an egoist!

If he is a good person for you, then he would certainly benefit greatly from a stable relationship with you! :geek:
A relationship with you should not activate his difficult personal aspect involving Saturn.
Over time, with a stable relationship, you may be able to heal him of his difficult Saturn, and even his Moon aspects as well
 

Beachnan

Member
@ScorpioMaria thank you again. This is very insightful.

Sometimes I have a very hard time trusting and in this relationship it definitely still sways from trust, to not trust.

It’s not him, it’s me and my vulnerability. I often feel as if he cannot support my emotions. He does hear me out and is receptive. That’s only after he pulls away, processes and then returns.

However, I sometimes hope he would be more nurturing, but I don’t think that’s in his nature or our synastry.

Is there anything I can do to support him better and vice versa. How can he support me? Or can he support my emotional needs at all?
 

ScorpioMaria

Well-known member
Hello :geek:

You have a wonderful synastry chart, no serious negative aspects to the Sun and Moon
And you both have a mix of fire, earth, air, and water signs, very balanced
(Obviously we do not know his Ascendant)
You have a more emotional expression, identity (Cancer Sun) and your emotions are delicate, practical, self-conscious, apprehensive (Virgo Moon)
Besides Pluto, his only water planet is his Cancer Jupiter, which is benevolent and strongly supportive (conjunct) your Cancer Sun
This is an excellent aspect for any couple
His practical earthy Taurus Sun is also supportive (trine) your earthy Virgo Moon, another excellent aspect

The only problem involving emotions is that his communicative, social romantic values (Venus in Gemini) is square your relatively modest, shy, practical emotions (Virgo Moon). He might not like or understand your conservative, self-conscious emotional reactions.
This is only a minor problem because both the Moon and Venus are feminine and relatively passive and receptive to the other.
He would appreciate if you were more of a talker, and you would appreciate if he understood your details/needs.

This problem is within you personally, because you also have social, communicative romantic values like him (Venus in Gemini).
Your Venus is conjunct his Venus.
But your Venus (values, romantic sensibilities) is square your Moon (emotional reactions).
This is a contradiction within yourself.
Maybe you enjoy being social and extroverted and flirty (Gemini), but you also feel the need to be more modest and domestic (Virgo).

Also, your Mercuries (communication styles) are different: square with an orb of more than 5.5 degrees.
This is minor. There should be some disagreements, but nothing serious, this is normal.

It is natural for him to pull away, give you space temporarily (Gemini Venus runs away from problems, is intellectual, does not like to fight);
but he soon comes back because he loves you. This seems healthy and natural.

He does appreciate you. He shows this by giving you space. Better to back away temporarily, deescalate rather than fight.
 
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