What is going on in my chart that is perhaps delaying dating? Getting out there again

[Minigirl1997]

Im honestly confused. I'm still new to version transits with astrology. I'm 25 but I had a lot of tramatic experiences with men when I was a teenager up till this point. Now I can say ( especially) after Saturn has left my 5th. I know now what I want and don't want, and I've set boundaries. Still I feel like it's still wish washy when it comes to me ( dating) I met someone not too long ago. It felt like their was something there but I smoke to him very briefly ( through a friend) but it's hard to say because I didn't like the communication I received. The only thing I could remember is ( Jupiter in aries) was transiting my 7th. He was different than what I usually come across.he was attractive but the difference I felt was that it wasn't based on lust. I also am still having a tough time with my child. So what could it be?

 

[Ecliptique]

Hello Minigirl1997,

I think this year is going to be quite difficult and it will have an impact on you if you cannot manage to moderate your ability to absolutely maintain control... You are too used to wanting to understand in depth what is the problem . You want to naturally impose your point of view in relation to what you like in order to get things done in love... which wouldn't be a bad thing after all, but know how to slow down with your ideas!

Ecliptique.

 

[magnoliaREADS]

Im honestly confused. I'm still new to version transits with astrology. I'm 25 but I had a lot of tramatic experiences with men when I was a teenager up till this point. Now I can say ( especially) after Saturn has left my 5th. I know now what I want and don't want, and I've set boundaries. Still I feel like it's still wish washy when it comes to me ( dating) I met someone not too long ago. It felt like their was something there but I smoke to him very briefly ( through a friend) but it's hard to say because I didn't like the communication I received. The only thing I could remember is ( Jupiter in aries) was transiting my 7th. He was different than what I usually come across.he was attractive but the difference I felt was that it wasn't based on lust. I also am still having a tough time with my child. So what could it be?

In fact I can understand your confusion, I've been analyzing the chart for some time and it was a very rich read and full of spaces for different interpretations, like reading a book. (my favorite charts)

 

[IleneK]

Hello Minigirl1997,

I think this year is going to be quite difficult and it will have an impact on you if you cannot manage to moderate your ability to absolutely maintain control... You are too used to wanting to understand in depth what is the problem . You want to naturally impose your point of view in relation to what you like in order to get things done in love... which wouldn't be a bad thing after all, but know how to slow down with your ideas!

Ecliptique.

I always appreciate your observations. I wonder if you might share some of the astrological underpinnings of your thinking ere about OP's ability to maintain absolute control and about imposing one's point of view to get things done in love?
It can be very instructional for us all.

 

[Frisiangal]

Rather a harsh opinion than neutral perspective from Samantha, I feel.

With a progressed Sun working through the 1st house, it may well seem to be 'ALL ABOUT THE OP' at this stage of life. Yet one can hardly call a natal 12th house Sun in a YOD figure to Mars-Saturn as 'all about ME', unless one looks as it from Virgo's perfection idea of 'what is wrong with ME' and spending years trying to live with the self-conceived answer.

The remark in Minigirl's post that caught my attention is the traumatic experiences to which she refers. Surely an expression of Mercury applying towards yet minutely ahead of square Pluto that she ( her mind) lives with and 'has to get over', and the effect upon herself of a natal MEAN Black Lilith exact degree conjunct natal Sun. The experiences of childhood/youth that can create an inner shame, inner disgrace, (self) denial of feeling physically perfect.

I have lived with a Mercury square Pluto that, although in other signs, take in the 3rd and 9th house realms of experiences. An upbringing based upon (quasi) religious principles. MEAN Black Moon Lilith is in Virgo 12th house close conjunct Ascendant. Saturn makes an exact 75 degree aspect to BML. Perhaps I'm too subjective in feeling for OP's plight. The 'Sin' of one kind or another with which one lives, for which the child feels to be/not be personally responsible yet accepts the blame. Through the eyes of those 12th 'secret enemies' (self!) the Virgo 'sin' can range from having been very, very good OR very, very bad. Whatever, the price paid is high UNTIL the youth (inner child) in the individual is able to face the truth as it is and not as imagined, accept, and allows one's true Self to surface. It can be an inner 'revealing and healing experience' (tr. Chiron conjunct natal Saturn inconjunct Mars; tr. MEAN BML square Mars and trine Saturn) that alters one's perspective of life and opens the path towards meaningful relationships.

My ½ cent.

 

[Minigirl1997]

Rather a harsh opinion than neutral perspective from Samantha, I feel.

With a progressed Sun working through the 1st house, it may well seem to be 'ALL ABOUT THE OP' at this stage of life. Yet one can hardly call a natal 12th house Sun in a YOD figure to Mars-Saturn as 'all about ME', unless one looks as it from Virgo's perfection idea of 'what is wrong with ME' and spending years trying to live with the self-conceived answer.

The remark in Minigirl's post that caught my attention is the traumatic experiences to which she refers. Surely an expression of Mercury applying towards yet minutely ahead of square Pluto that she ( her mind) lives with and 'has to get over', and the effect upon herself of a natal MEAN Black Lilith exact degree conjunct natal Sun. The experiences of childhood/youth that can create an inner shame, inner disgrace, (self) denial of feeling physically perfect.

I have lived with a Mercury square Pluto that, although in other signs, take in the 3rd and 9th house realms of experiences. An upbringing based upon (quasi) religious principles. MEAN Black Moon Lilith is in Virgo 12th house close conjunct Ascendant. Saturn makes an exact 75 degree aspect to BML. Perhaps I'm too subjective in feeling for OP's plight. The 'Sin' of one kind or another with which one lives, for which the child feels to be/not be personally responsible yet accepts the blame. Through the eyes of those 12th 'secret enemies' (self!) the Virgo 'sin' can range from having been very, very good OR very, very bad. Whatever, the price paid is high UNTIL the youth (inner child) in the individual is able to face the truth as it is and not as imagined, accept, and allows one's true Self to surface. It can be an inner 'revealing and healing experience' (tr. Chiron conjunct natal Saturn inconjunct Mars; tr. MEAN BML square Mars and trine Saturn) that alters one's perspective of life and opens the path towards meaningful relationships.

My ½ cent.

Thank you so much for the interpretation still new to astrology so I can only touch base with what I know based on what you wrote. I'm still new to what ( progressed chart means) I can say yes I have looked into my ( 12th) house . I feel like I'm finally ( expressing) it. Yes I have been in a lot of traumatic experiences from the jump with men both on my dad's and mother's side , and just in my day to day world. ( Pluto in 3rd house) I **** near had my older brother kill me and still to this day he is jealous but I don't talk to him. It literally feels like ( Michael Myers and Lori stroke) the funny think about it( because) I've seen this as a pattern in my life. Is that a lot of men weather family or relation,or casual. Had a problem with their ( masculinity) either they really were ( gay), or delusional ( little men's) complex. I also lost my virginity to a 34 year old at 16. I had no guidence. My chriron in the 2 nd . My mom was a proverty minded mom. That's why now at asge 25. Finally understanding how to be a woman. After Saturn has been through my ( 5th) I can say that I know how to put boundaries. I also had a kid young (19) I have ( Uranus and Jupiter in my 5th) I'm seeking guidence because at this time iny life I feel like I have made the choice that I do ( want to settle down) and I do not want to settle down till later. Which would be my Saturn return ( 7th) this is where the confusion is bacaue despite them saying that moon- Saturn and my Saturn being retrograde. That I'll just be all about me, but truth is I want to settle down . And. With my moon in the 4th and perhaps Venus in the second? I can't see why I would have a issue ( unless) I tried to get committed too quickly. I am however confused because I have had two significant people come into my life. One came around my Jupiter on I'm aquarius transit (2020?) He never gave me clarity. His son was born own day after me. I do feel like he was ffrom a past life, but it's been 4 years and I even feel like he's bi sexual, he didn't act like how I feel a man should and he always talked about women in a degrDding way. The other individual I met when Jupiter was transitioning my 7th house in Aries. I met him on two occasions. It was no coincidence it was like we saw each other. We met through a friend of mine. Which is also why I question my Juno in Leo I'm the 11th. Unlike the first individual it was innocent but I felt something, however the second conversation was a little dry but I was just stepping out the door. So at this point I dont know if the best choice would be to just enjoy my 5th house? And just wait perhaps till my Saturn return to my 7th, or is there any indication I'm my chart that I indeed met someone? With my I want to focus on a career I have many talents but I do not want to be the "career woman" forever. I do want to settle down eventually. It just seems like when Saturn is involved the info that I get is confusing.

 

[passiflora]

you want to date right now but not be serious for the next 4-5 years? how would the person-you-date-before-Saturn-return be different from the kind of person you would want to date after Saturn return?

 

[Minigirl1997]

you want to date right now but not be serious for the next 4-5 years? how would the person-you-date-before-Saturn-return be different from the kind of person you would want to date after Saturn return?

No. I provided information in regards to people I have encountered on another member's comment,but being confused on rather or not if there is a way I can see in my chart if I have met anyone significant recently.If not then maybe perhaps it is the time to being single Either way I will take my time with the person before"marriage"

 

[passiflora]

From an internal / psychological perspective, Jupiter and Chiron crossing your Saturn rx in the 7th house could be a good time to work on your feelings about men in general, and also about men in relationship.