Recently came across this new page on instagram called ‘anxiousheartsguide.’
It focuses a lot on the differences between anxious attachment style and the avoidant attachment style.
I love this analogy that an avoidant type is like a cat. You have to let the cat come to you on its own terms, by keeping doing the little things and building up trust over time.
This makes it easy to remember how an anxious type of person will respond - you just think of an anxious like a dog - if you are leaving or you need space (especially if you are an avoidant), let the anxious person know when you will be back and give them the reassurance and affection they crave!
Such a great analogy. You can also see why these two types often pair together because the push-pull dynamic happens naturally. Although, these pairings can also be quite toxic because it is full of misunderstandings - they will argue like cats and dogs 😹
But, if you are in a dynamic with an opposite type, it is good to know how best to navigate the situation.
But remember, being an anxious or an avoidant is also a choice. When on a healing journey, the destination should be to strive to be a secure attachment type - so you are aware of how your behaviour if effecting others.
But, meanwhile, this is how to navigate people who are behaving in one of these styles and, let’s be honest, it is difficult to strive to be secure 100% of the time, especially if it is not your natural state.
😻 v’s 🐶
