Tantra

Ukpoohbear

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I love the idea of a massage being about moving energy from one chakra to another. I’m going to have to Google/YouTube about that.

I’ve done similar before when I used to meditate and would focus on a particular chakra that needed healing, it was the root chakra and sacral chakra I focused on at the time. To do with grounding and self-esteem. Also, Sunrise and Sunset being the best time to do a meditation on the Sacral Chakra, so I would go a walk and plan it so I reached a bench that was at the top of a hill in time for sunset (never managed a sunrise one but I should do that this Summer!)

My love language is acts of service and gifts. I notice I do this with friends and lovers and in the two major relationships I had, they instinctively knew I loved gifts. Probably because they saw how happy it made me or they reciprocated when I gave them gifts. The best gifts were one with sentimental meaning behind it, like one boyfriend bought me a charm bracelet and would buy me a charm randomly.

Looking out for the other person’s love language by noticing what they do for you is a way to discover someone’s love language, I’m going to consciously look out for it next time I meet someone.

If someone’s love language was physical touch, I don’t know if I would find that too intense 24/7. Cuddling is nice but PDA and even constant physical reassurance?

I switch between an anxious attachment style to being avoidant, sometimes space is good but they key is communicating what it is I need. If someone has a secure attachment style, they wouldnt take it personally, which is why this attachment style should be paired with an anxious and an avoidant.

An anxious and an avoidant are usually the ones attracted to each other though cos if someone is avoidant, it makes the anxious person want them more and the avoidant person likes the attention. When an anxious and avoidant are paired together, it causes a ‘runner-chaser dynamic,’ and it rarely ever works long-term. Both types need to have worked on themselves enough to be aware they need to be more like a secure.

But you know, a secure type seems boring to me, so I’m still stuck in the phase of being attracted to the wrong type of person. 🙊🙈
 

ScorpioMaria

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I must be the low-avoidance type! :geek:
I am intense, I want/need/demand physical reassurance all the time
Luckily he does not mind; I would be too intense for most people
I become anxious when younger women flirt with him, but luckily for me he is the reclusive type, not in public often
He seems to be always secure

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Since you mentioned relationships, maybe you have heard of the 36 Questions that build romantic closeness even with complete strangers

But the 36 Questions are out of order, less romantic, and 4 questions are missing! Here are the full 40 questions according to the original authors:
 
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Ukpoohbear

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That’s the way it should be! 😻 in my opinion, the dynamic works better when the tip of the balance works in the woman’s favour. The woman should be adored - the man should look at the woman as his ideal - his Empress.

If it is the other way around, and the woman adores the man more than he adores her, then I just think the ‘hunter-gatherer’ in him will eventually want to hunt for the best prize.

I completely agree with the school of thought that thinks the man should do the chasing, that the man should value the woman very highly and take the lead.

I don’t mind being assertive but in my experience, I feel much happier when I am playing it a little bit coy with the guy. Im quite shy in real life so I do this quite well. Where I have went wrong is, giving men the power after I’ve played it coy. So I should play it coy but work it so I have the power. I have given my power away in the past and although I didn’t mind letting the guy call the shots but my goal is to be the one calling the shots from now on. I’m looking forward to trying it out! Watch this space. #takingmypowerback

So I completely agree with the photo you posted and the dynamic in your relationship you are describing.

I also don’t think there is anything wrong with being intense, or a bit out of balance or out of whack. Who wants balanced all the time? The guys I have always been attracted to have been a little bit extreme or intense. It’s hot. Who wants normal. It also helps them deal with me a bit better cos I aint normal either.

And oh yes, cos you and this guy are both Plutonian, he’s not gonna mind your intensity. I wanna find myself a mature Uranian. I think Plutonian may not suit me. I might do a manifestation thing to manifest what I want in time for Venus retrograde in July.
 

Ukpoohbear

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I haven’t heard of the 36/40 question thing. I have heard of the exercise of sitting across from somebody and keeping eye contact and how that is meant to build emotional intimacy. There was a video about it on YouTube where total strangers sat across from each other. Some of the couple’s laughed, some felt touched etc. not sure what my reaction would be!
 

ScorpioMaria

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That’s the way it should be! 😻 in my opinion, the dynamic works better when the tip of the balance works in the woman’s favour. The woman should be adored - the man should look at the woman as his ideal - his Empress.

If it is the other way around, and the woman adores the man more than he adores her, then I just think the ‘hunter-gatherer’ in him will eventually want to hunt for the best prize.

I completely agree with the school of thought that thinks the man should do the chasing, that the man should value the woman very highly and take the lead.

I don’t mind being assertive but in my experience, I feel much happier when I am playing it a little bit coy with the guy. Im quite shy in real life so I do this quite well. Where I have went wrong is, giving men the power after I’ve played it coy. So I should play it coy but work it so I have the power. I have given my power away in the past and although I didn’t mind letting the guy call the shots but my goal is to be the one calling the shots from now on. I’m looking forward to trying it out! Watch this space. #takingmypowerback

So I completely agree with the photo you posted and the dynamic in your relationship you are describing.

I also don’t think there is anything wrong with being intense, or a bit out of balance or out of whack. Who wants balanced all the time? The guys I have always been attracted to have been a little bit extreme or intense. It’s hot. Who wants normal. It also helps them deal with me a bit better cos I aint normal either.

And oh yes, cos you and this guy are both Plutonian, he’s not gonna mind your intensity. I wanna find myself a mature Uranian. I think Plutonian may not suit me. I might do a manifestation thing to manifest what I want in time for Venus retrograde in July.
Yes the relationship is strictly Plutonic ;)
 
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david starling

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Hello! I am astrologist dedicated to sexology (sexstrology). Tantra is a fundamental part of my training, without a doubt.

At least in the U.S., it seems like there must be some jealousy involved if a person in a committed relationship engages in Tantric Yoga with someone other than the relationship partner. Even though it's a spiritual practice, it's still sex.
 

Ukpoohbear

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Hello! I am astrologist dedicated to sexology (sexstrology). Tantra is a fundamental part of my training, without a doubt.

Hey

I have no formal training in Tantra. It can mean a lot of things to different people, especially the Western v’s Eastern style of Tantra.

For me, it has basically been about a self-healing journey. It’s all been very intuitive - if one has good intentions and make a personal decision to follow their conscience - then the path and all the lessons will follow.

If anyone were to ask me how one starts a self-healing journey - I would say all of begins with having a good self-care routine. Doing housework is a great place to start 😂 Having plenty of fresh air and healthy food. Stuff like that really heals the root chakra.

So for me, Tantra has been a bit like alchemy - transforming sorrow or pain into love 🤍

So I haven’t really dealt with the sexual side of Tantra, to me, healing has to start from within. I sure, if God wills it, I will meet someone who has also dedicated their life to healing their vibration, and so we can work in tandem together as a couple. Inshallah.

It would be very interesting to hear if you wanted to share what Tantra means to you and how you’ve utilised it in your work as an astrologer.
 
Hey

I have no formal training in Tantra. It can mean a lot of things to different people, especially the Western v’s Eastern style of Tantra.

For me, it has basically been about a self-healing journey. It’s all been very intuitive - if one has good intentions and make a personal decision to follow their conscience - then the path and all the lessons will follow.

If anyone were to ask me how one starts a self-healing journey - I would say all of begins with having a good self-care routine. Doing housework is a great place to start 😂 Having plenty of fresh air and healthy food. Stuff like that really heals the root chakra.

So for me, Tantra has been a bit like alchemy - transforming sorrow or pain into love 🤍

So I haven’t really dealt with the sexual side of Tantra, to me, healing has to start from within. I sure, if God wills it, I will meet someone who has also dedicated their life to healing their vibration, and so we can work in tandem together as a couple. Inshallah.

It would be very interesting to hear if you wanted to share what Tantra means to you and how you’ve utilised it in your work as an astrologer.

At least in the U.S., it seems like there must be some jealousy involved if a person in a committed relationship engages in Tantric Yoga with someone other than the relationship partner. Even though it's a spiritual practice, it's still sex.
In my country this impression also exists, but with less force.

Part of my job is to decouple things. Sextrology is more about love than sex.

Tantra is one of the most refined and sophisticated philosophical treatises of humanity. The reason it's a fundamental foundation for me is because it's a fundamental foundation for any experience in existence.
 
Hey

I have no formal training in Tantra. It can mean a lot of things to different people, especially the Western v’s Eastern style of Tantra.

For me, it has basically been about a self-healing journey. It’s all been very intuitive - if one has good intentions and make a personal decision to follow their conscience - then the path and all the lessons will follow.

If anyone were to ask me how one starts a self-healing journey - I would say all of begins with having a good self-care routine. Doing housework is a great place to start 😂 Having plenty of fresh air and healthy food. Stuff like that really heals the root chakra.

So for me, Tantra has been a bit like alchemy - transforming sorrow or pain into love 🤍

So I haven’t really dealt with the sexual side of Tantra, to me, healing has to start from within. I sure, if God wills it, I will meet someone who has also dedicated their life to healing their vibration, and so we can work in tandem together as a couple. Inshallah.

It would be very interesting to hear if you wanted to share what Tantra means to you and how you’ve utilised it in your work as an astrologer.
The sexual side of Tantra is equivalent to an atom of an elephant. It is a tiny part of the whole immensity of treatises on absolutely everything. It turns out that just a little bit of "everything" is already a lot.

Much of the idea that Tantra is about sex was born from the rumors around the guru Bagwham Rajneesh, Osho. In the 60s, in the West.
It is not. But even if it was about sex. Sex is not about sex. Sex is a path to something else, always.

I work with the idea of sex as a starting point, not an end.

Starting point for personal evolution in all areas. And I chose tantra as the starting point for this, but other cultures are also valid. Like the biblical texts attributed to King Solomon, which are full of insights on the subject.

About tantra's role in my development as an astrologer, it gives me grounding like the sky gives ground to the clouds. It's an oracular background where I look for truths reliable enough that I can produce patterns from it.

In it there is spirit, energy, consciousness, everything necessary to be, to create, to heal and so on.
 

Ukpoohbear

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The sexual side of Tantra is equivalent to an atom of an elephant. It is a tiny part of the whole immensity of treatises on absolutely everything. It turns out that just a little bit of "everything" is already a lot.

Much of the idea that Tantra is about sex was born from the rumors around the guru Bagwham Rajneesh, Osho. In the 60s, in the West.
It is not. But even if it was about sex. Sex is not about sex. Sex is a path to something else, always.

I work with the idea of sex as a starting point, not an end.

Starting point for personal evolution in all areas. And I chose tantra as the starting point for this, but other cultures are also valid. Like the biblical texts attributed to King Solomon, which are full of insights on the subject.

About tantra's role in my development as an astrologer, it gives me grounding like the sky gives ground to the clouds. It's an oracular background where I look for truths reliable enough that I can produce patterns from it.

In it there is spirit, energy, consciousness, everything necessary to be, to create, to heal and so on.

Thanks for sharing what Tantra meant to you.

Feel free to share away.

I would be particularly interested to hear what quote from King Solomon you were referring to as I have a general interest in all religions.
 

david starling

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I learned a lesson recently about over-practicing Kundalini breathing meditation to boost my work energy. My body responded by going into a supercharged vibratory mode that was both fascinating and totally not suitable for work.

I'm switching to a more moderate type of breathing meditation with more of a calming effect, at least until the current transiting Mars/Uran trine separates enough.
 
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