Miss Scorpio,
The kinds of things to start up, IMO, involved two things about their personalities:
1. How they tend to deal with change, and how change tends to happen to them.
2. How they initially deal with events as they happen.
We would need to followup with how they both look at the work: which means how their brain function deals first in deciding if its a fight of flight necessary response, and then how it impacts their security, and finally how they tend to think about circumstances after having dealt with fight/flight and security.
So lets look first at how change usually happens to them. Since the planet of everyday change is the Moon, the Moon is heavily configured in looking at change.
First we'll look at the cynical lady with the 3-18-56 birth date.
1. The house where the Moon is in is where she will have all her major changes take place. For her this is the 8th house. This is loss of stuff, monies, endings, injuries. So initially her expectation is that change involved these areas. She has learned to be careful because new information always entails some kind of loss. This lends to being skeptical.
2. The house where Cancer is in is the 9th. This is what tends to drive the native into making changes, which means that she wants to find out why things happen the way the do. And since science comes out of this house, and reductionist science at that, what drives her to deal with new things is a certain level of "prove it to me".
3. The planet that the Moon crossed over before birth was uranus:
For the native with a pre-birth pass-over of Uranus, changes come suddenly, and cause major disruption. They tend to be things of an unexpected way, and the native is usually forced into a major circumstance change. Many changes are brought about by the native’s innate fear of being restricted and not have freedom to act. The good thing here is that Uranus people are usually innovative in finding a best fitting for the new circumstances, so even though they can be their own worst enemy, they are often their own best friend at the same time.
Again you can see where her skeptical nature might come from.
4. Her Moon latitude is very low so that she has a wait and see type of personality. She doesn't make decisions about new things very quickly.
5. She has a crescent phase Moon which means that tends to look at values of the past and family before making change into the future. Can experience roadblocks to change if family values were too rigid. Dealing with changes always seems to have some kind of “what would my family think?” component.
All of this suggests what you have used to describe her: girl guide coach and rescues youngsters from dangerous religious cults. Intensely human interest type of person with strong , stable foundations , good home and children who are now older. Lady one is very skeptical about her spiritual beliefs. She had delved into all kinds of occult science and mystical magic , yet remains very cold and cynical about life after.
Now your second person's way of dealing with change and having had to deal with changes is much different:
She's the one with the 5-11-56 Birth day.
1. Her moon is in the 10th house. So her changes are likely to come through career and fame issues.
2. What drives her to make changes is 11th house issues: her friends, her ambitions, her hopes for the future.
You can see already from the first two that the second lady doesn't immediate think about how she might lose by change but how exciting it going to be in the future.
3. The planet the moon went over before birth for this woman is Mercury: There is so much mental agility here that the native becomes too much into having changes, even for fun. Thus, he gets too cocky about his ability to deal with them and makes leaping errors. But then, before the change itself, Mercury is checking everything out, writing and talking to everyone about it. Decisions are open to change and revision.
Certainly open to new things.
4. She also has a low latitude Moon and a wait and see attitude
5. But she has a New Moon phase: she deals with changes using risk, taking in ways that don’t pay
attention to the needs of others; tend to react by breaking
new ground, and overstepping existing boundaries, if self-esteem is high, eager to confront challenges: action, banter, fearless or foolhardy, growth, advancement, competition, often have to reinvent the wheel even though there are guides to change
You can see that just by looking at 5 basic characteristics of her Moon and change (and there are about 60 pages more of these measure in my book), how these two people can be so different and how its easy to see it in their charts.
Next: Why do they think in such a different way....