Have you ever thought of this or tried this: Let's say you know what lessons you are here to learn by looking at your birth chart or just by living life (because the same "lessons" usually keep appearing). Have you ever thought of the idea that you have the right to say NO to any "lessons" you do not wish to learn?
For example, I am a Capricorn, say one of my lessons is to learn patience. And say I tell the Universe, "No, I am here to have fun. I refuse to learn patience. Save that for someone else..."
My opinion is that we have the right to say No. If you've tried it, maybe you'd like to share your findings?
In the end I think it's how "refusing" or "accepting" a lesson is interpreted. Is it the immediate thing you're feeling that you need to conform to, or is it something you need to get smarter on without conforming to that immediate feeling?
The lessons I got offered and "refused" (and why):
- "Don't poke people where it hurts". I always got pulled back no the leash for that one. So frantically I researched and critically examined what it was I said and why that would hurt them. There were only a few times I saw that something was not wise, but often times I would come to the conclusion they were taking offense on something that could only be traced back to ego matters like jealousy, not acknowledging their own weakness and so on. So now, when I feel this lesson coming on and I know it can be traced back to ego matters I do not back down. Instead I hope these people poison themselves hating me; so hopefully the light will go on some day for them.
- "Know your place". This one really took the life out of me to figure out. Since in some situations it felt like the entire society was 'against' me, telling me to 'know my place'. I identified which rules I was not respecting only to form my own opinion about these rules. Some rules I understood to be important they be respected, other rules were applied unequally to young/old, female/male, this person/that person. I decided then and there that I wasn't going to know my place when the rules were only applying to subgroups or minorities and not everyone. Quite frankly, I hope that when I do not know my place, I shake up things well enough to break through the dogma.
- "Fit in better". This one is also partly 'know your place', though a little different. It's the result of defying 'know your place' and 'don't poke where it hurts'. You start feeling the pressure of missing out on things other people seem to be having. The answer so I figured out: it's the result of doing what is justified instead of doing what is accepted [but has no sufficient justification]. You will have to come to terms with the fact that there's no way you can avoid feeling lonely.
Virgo/Cappy, sit on the mountain you just climbed but don't forget to smile at the theater going on in the valley (so I thought).
The lesson patience is pretty much the same. Take every scenario where you feel 'you're getting patience pushed onto yourself' and ask yourself as objectively as is possible if that is a justified request. Push on if it isn't justified, stand back when there's good reason to be patient. Reverse the tables on yourself.
It's not always "the path of the least resistance". It just depends on what's more important to you: justice or fitting in, just make sure it isn't only pride that makes you act 'contra'. When you do it for the right reasons, there's nothing to regret.
This is the essence for children of Saturn and Uranus. This is a way of succesfully learning a lesson for them. Not in the how many ways I can count to avoid a situation from repeating on itself. It's something I see forgotten a lot in the astrology community, which I regret and why I speak up.
Edit: As for the comments on love; people that "refuse", I'm sorry: don't avoid to tackle problems by fetching the horns, are just as capable and worthy of love. Their ardent nature makes them seem frightening or cold in the eyes of others; see paragraph 'Fitting in'. When it comes to this, our lesson as children of Saturn and Uranus is to learn to recognize who is not afraid to climb the mountain and enjoy the view together. By now I also know that it takes an enormous courage to do so and I come to understand it's not for everyone. Just like this lifestyle isn't for everyone.
I will not have to come back to Earth again because I've already worked hard and accomplished many things. They cannot force me because I've not met one successful business person in my life who does not have the power to override the planets and get what they want. They can not override my freewill. They never did. They just protect me silently.
It's nice to meet you!
You keeping coming back to earth, evolving, learning your lessons. When you have learnt all your lessons you achieve nirvana ... freedom from the cycle of birth and death.
