Love2Know
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1) wheatever he feels is irrelevant as I am focusing on the facts of this discussion aka his actions
2) whatever energies are in your live and reflected in your chart are possible influences but not the same as motive
3) I am not giving him negative energy, asI am focusing on the issues at hand and he should be prosecuted for the good of all of us and himself. That is not giving negative energy. That is stating a fact for the whole of humanity.
I agree this issue will resurface if not properly treated and looked after. The manifestation of this pain can become self destructive even if the abused forgives the abuser. Self forgiveness and processing the events for ones self with I suggest professional help is needed and can be a very difficult but worthy journey. A journey we are all on in our own ways.
Personally I find it easier to forgive outwardly the ‘other’, than to deal and accept my own feeling sometimes and stand by my own side. This is an issue I seek help with in my journey.
Finally; my main point and focus in my posting on this thread reflects my concern to the ops issue and question and not to hypothesize about the nature of abuse and how an abuser evolves.
It is not ok and I do not even think forgiveness or empathy is the main issue but I interpreted the ops main question in comparing charts to speak to seeking closure. It may never be from him nor does it have to come from him. To find healing in your own way through your own chart while avoiding self blame and trying to rationalize what external forces allowed this to happen. Stick to the fact that in the end his actions were wrong regardless of circumstances. That is the bottom line. Also I did check moon Chiron and other chart factors of op to color my reaction in this thread. I don’t want op to make it ok and accept it because that can turn into self abuse and patterns of accepting abuse from others. I see she has a support in her mother and a dialogue has already started between her and her mother which is good.
2) whatever energies are in your live and reflected in your chart are possible influences but not the same as motive
3) I am not giving him negative energy, asI am focusing on the issues at hand and he should be prosecuted for the good of all of us and himself. That is not giving negative energy. That is stating a fact for the whole of humanity.
I agree this issue will resurface if not properly treated and looked after. The manifestation of this pain can become self destructive even if the abused forgives the abuser. Self forgiveness and processing the events for ones self with I suggest professional help is needed and can be a very difficult but worthy journey. A journey we are all on in our own ways.
Personally I find it easier to forgive outwardly the ‘other’, than to deal and accept my own feeling sometimes and stand by my own side. This is an issue I seek help with in my journey.
Finally; my main point and focus in my posting on this thread reflects my concern to the ops issue and question and not to hypothesize about the nature of abuse and how an abuser evolves.
It is not ok and I do not even think forgiveness or empathy is the main issue but I interpreted the ops main question in comparing charts to speak to seeking closure. It may never be from him nor does it have to come from him. To find healing in your own way through your own chart while avoiding self blame and trying to rationalize what external forces allowed this to happen. Stick to the fact that in the end his actions were wrong regardless of circumstances. That is the bottom line. Also I did check moon Chiron and other chart factors of op to color my reaction in this thread. I don’t want op to make it ok and accept it because that can turn into self abuse and patterns of accepting abuse from others. I see she has a support in her mother and a dialogue has already started between her and her mother which is good.