May I suggest you download the trial version of the
Astrology for Lovers software at World of Wisdom (click
here)....
Then, copy and paste here what the interpretation is in that report....
I'm suggesting this because I'm apprehensive giving my interpretation of your charts since it may affect your relationship. It's good if we can help. But what if we can't? So, let's look at what the author of the software has to say.
I could see why you are apprehensive. We are a complete clash. Below is how I supposedly make him feel. The chart categories are in bold and my comments are italicized
Romances and Riches:
This contact shows a very strong bond between you, evoking a great tenderness and affection. Home and family may be the centrepiece of your life together. You feel instinctively that j would make a good parent - tolerant and caring. There is no doubt that the relationship evokes a great sense of belonging though there are dangers that this can lead to over-dependence and a smothering relationship. You simply feel comfortable with j, experiencing a bond of affection which goes far beyond logic. She is very sensitive to your needs and is capable of giving you constant emotional support.
Yours is a very romantic relationship indeed - perhaps you prefer to consider yourself more of a lover than a partner. j is at least captivated by your charms, which bring the satisfactions and erotic spices of the harem into your relationship. Your values and aesthetic judgement enhance the quality of life of your partner, who allows you to dictate whatever style you deem fit for mutual satisfaction. She evokes the loving qualities within you and you respond by bringing good grace and refinement into the time you spend together. You have a strong need for expressions of affection - both emotionally and materially - and j is always willing to please.
Perhaps this is the only reason why we haven't separated yet.
Eros and Enterprise
There is a lot of conflict in this relationship, partly because both of you feel the need to assert yourselves. However there cannot be two cocks ruling the roost, so you would be well advised to back down when a conflict of wills arises. j often handles disagreements with more dignity than you.
whilst you tend to get defensive and hit below the belt, she is more inclined to be magnanimous.
which I mentioned earlier
If you can channel your energy and dynamism into external projects which mobilise you positively, conflict can be avoided. This is a working relationship - idleness sows the seed of discontent. While your impulsiveness is disturbing for j, you often get irritated by her pompous style.
I guess I can see that. We don't really like to see ourselves as pompous but I do have an ego at times. That must irritate him
This contact brings a lot of emotional conflict and this is related to your lack of ability to tune in to and respect the moods of your partner. Perhaps you feel threatened or provoked by her weakness or vulnerability, perhaps you wish to signal that you dislike anyone being dependant on you. Whatever the case, when j gets moody you become impatient and irritated. It is essential for you to control your temper if you want a long-term harmonious relationship. It is no use proposing solutions in connection with the emotional life of your partner, if you do not truly understand what moves her. If you do not have the patience to understand her feelings - and it is no use forcing yourself - it is better to go off on your own for a while and burn off some of your energy.
maybe that is why he is never around
There are strong ideological differences between you and this can result in long discussions about matters of principle. You may find this stimulating - and it can be if you keep a sense of perspective and humour. You are looking for an intellectual capability in j which she obviously has (otherwise you would not be with her) but which you constantly challenge.
Yes, I do feel as if he bates me into arguments a lot. Even when I don't even feel like being in an argument. And we do have major differences in our life's views. I think a lot of he does goes against what I think is "proper." I'm old fashioned.
I think people should act with dignity constraint when they have a good time. I would never do anything I wouldn't want my future kids doing. He is the opposite. I'm actually have embarrassed and half repulsed by his actions. I've told him this repeatedly.
Unconsciously you tend to set up situations in which she fails to live up to your expectations and this results in j pontificating and you rebelling against her supposed intellectual authority. Nevertheless you can expect the relationship to be exciting, with a good deal of travel and adventure. There is a considerable sexual appetite - many differences of opinion are resolved this way - yet there are often moral dilemmas connected with your sexual life. You enjoy challenging the norm.
This is very true. I feel lots of times that he puts unrealistic expectations on me. I've even accused him of setting me up to fail. I know I said he avoids me, but now that I think of it, I have avoided him in the past, as well.
It is not easy for you two to work constructively together. Misunderstandings abound because you tend to go into action with an unclear idea of what is required, and because j is very vague about what she actually wants. Your energy is diverted unproductively, and often into morally questionable areas.
Like, I said earlier. He makes me feel uncomfortable at times.
Strive to maintain high standards - together you tend to cut corners in ethical matters. It is no use looking to her for leadership or direction. Choose your own course. You get bogged down in discussions. Do not be deceived - she gets confused when confronted by your dynamism, and reacts by clogging up the works or by suggesting goals which are completely over-idealistic or unrealistic. Sexual harmony is also elusive as j often finds your desires too earthy and longs for a "spiritual" union. This too is illusory; development of greater body-consciousness would help you both. Health matters may be in the forefront. Be aware that alcohol and other addictions have a negative effect on this relationship.
This is true. He likes to drink. A lot. I feel he is a danger to himself and to others. I have tried to get him to tone it down but he won't listen. So I gave up and then he accuses me of not caring.
Warmth and RespectAlthough this is not a major factor in your relationship you may often be disturbed by unpredictable actions and events precipitated by j. This can be very interesting and stimulating for you but also rather unsettling. You will not be permitted to indulge in self-satisfaction - she wants to provoke change in you.
I am not really sure what that first part means. I guess that means I spring stuff out of (what seems like to him) no where. Which is true. I have a lot of ideas and I feel that by sharing them I am being helpful. And I do try to change him for the better. He knows he is destructive. His family thinks I am a good influence and he knows it, too (he admits it) yet he still fights me.
This can be a consciousness-raising factor in your life together but there would be more harmony if you were accepted as you are. Clashes of style and personality arise in which you feel quite threatened, as j tends to make it clear that she will not accept any limitations just because you are together and may demonstrate this point quite dramatically through alarming displays of independence.
This is true. I have told him lots of times that I hold him to the same standards that I have hold everyone else. And when he disrespects me then tries to invite me to spend time with him, I refuse.
If you were born within a year or so of j you will find yourself projecting your own tendency to lurch from crisis to crisis onto her. Whatever the age difference this will be an intense relationship, often based on issues of power and powerlessness. Avoid battles of will - which j will win because she is not frightened, as you are, of contemplating the destruction of the relationship if matters really should come to a head.
Actually, I am worried about breaking up.
She tends to evoke a ruthless self-analysis from you which can be exhausting for you both. Actually you awaken a deep insecurity in her, to which she responds by reversing the tables, keeping you off-balance. Avoid practising mutual therapy on each other.
I think maybe this is the cause of all our problems
The analysis has some good qualities but I think our negative ones far outweigh the positives. This is most unfortunate because I do like Michael but I can see the relationship is so challenging. With all of these negativities, I am surprised we made it this far. I think the whole thing boils down to, I have a hard time accepting who he is.
. I had never posted a chart into a forum before so please forgive me. Anyway, the first chart is my boyfriend's chart and the 2nd one is mine. Yes, I try to be as patient and to the point with him as I can. I think maybe it might help that my moon is Taurus, too? 
