Your relationship chart
Your Relationship Chart
The relationship chart is about the dynamics between the parties. It describes them only when they’re together. Their individual natal charts are the maps for understanding each person separately. The relationship chart describes connections, supports, strains and conflicts they face or engage in together. It can be read in the same way as a natal chart, and is subject to transits in the same way, as well.
With even a simple visual look at the chart, it appears that your relationship with your husband is characterized by extremes in conflict and confusion.
The Sun in Aries in the 6th house is conjunct Mercury and Mars in Aries and Venus in Taurus. All of those planets are opposed by the conjunction of the Moon and Pluto in Libra in the 12th house. Neptune trines every planet in the 6th house, sextiles the Moon and Pluto in the 12th and squares Jupiter in the 11th. In every contact, Neptune contributes illusions and delusions as it dissolves boundaries and encourages extreme vacillation.
The relationship chart is a portrait of the guerrilla warfare waged by the power of cataclysmic change, supported by dissolution’s web of confusion, against the force of desire and his army, love and intelligence. Inspired by revolution, hope and despair are joined in hand-to-hand conflict in a fog of illusions.
In the horoscope for this contest, the force (Pluto) of unexpressed, secret (12th house) needs to be appreciated and accepted in this relationship is at war (Mars and Pluto are in opposition) with love, harmony and stability (Venus in Taurus); thinking and communication (Mercury), desire (Mars) and the relationship itself (Sun).
Moon conjunct Pluto indicates that the relationship is dominated (Pluto) by strong emotions (Moon) which are largely hidden or whose reality is unexpressed or unrecognized (12th house) by the two of you, though ruling the way that the relationship is presented to others (Pluto rules the 1st house). These deep-seated emotions are also evident in the spiritual aspirations, morals and ethics in and projected by your involvement as a couple (Moon rules the 9th house).
Significantly, Pluto is retrograde, pushed even further into the background. While retrogradation usually has the effect of turning a planet’s expression inward, seemingly weakening it, paradoxically Pluto is enhanced and strengthened underground in his realm of hidden treasure. By definition, Pluto is extreme. His inexorable focus is on radical transformation: death and rebirth; reformation and regeneration. His tools are spirituality, inversion and rage. In human imagination, death is an unknown country, where, fearing annihilation, we cling to life. Yet for Pluto, death is a simple fiction useful only to describe the limits of Saturn, the Lord of Time. Outside of Time. Pluto’s sole function is regeneration. As ruler of the underworld and the one to whom every mortal being must finally resort, Pluto is the Lord of Life: he is the sign that we are immortal beings.
Good fortune, grace and blessing are overwhelmed by fear and restriction in the conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn. This clash of hopefulness and despair, of faith and fear, describes both the character of your relationship and your interaction with friends and community (11th house). There are periods of irrational gullibility, bad judgment, false intuition and “hunches” that go wrong. There is a strong pattern of expecting a lucky break that never arrives and the frequent need to be rescued by friends. With Jupiter conjunct Saturn there will be fits of deep depression (Saturn) because of the lack of meaning in life (Jupiter) and in social engagement (11th house).
Jupiter-Saturn concerns moral attitudes and actions. It requires coming to terms with the idea of a right way of action. The two of you may attract situations and people who provoke a need to resolve the conflict between the two planets, to understand them as one and to act accordingly. This integration is the way to be free of illusion and disillusionment so that you can find inner peace and the practical efficiency that results in a materially productive life. This is a huge accomplishment to aim for.
Neptune in the second house is the fulcrum of the chart configuration because it trines or sextiles almost every other planet in the sky. With Neptune in this place, standard ways of evaluating the relationship may be dissolved or expanded. Money and success, the traditional values, may not apply or operate.
Neptune rules Pisces and the 5th house, which is the house of joy. On the cusp of the 5th, Pisces raises the potential that the relationship may be dissolved by co-dependency disguised as love. Pisces here frequently indicates frustration in creativity. Raising children may be difficult for you and may require great sacrifices.
Transiting Neptune is entering the 5th house and will travel through it until 2029—almost 17 years. During this transit, it is common for people to over-dramatize and exaggerate whatever they are going through, and mood swings are very common. There is truth to be discerned, but it’s not in the extremes.
You may go through times of romantic attachment to each other as well as disenchantment if you have idealized one another to an unrealistic degree and then feel deep disappointment when your partner proves to be unable to fulfill the expectations you may have imagined.
While this transit is active, avoid gambling, taking risks on investments or engaging in risky activities that might seem to be fun. Neptune’s clouds of illusion are likely to lead in the wrong direction most of the time, encouraging a false sense of confidence or certainty that something fortunate will happen.
I noted earlier that, by transit, Saturn is making contact with Pluto in your husband’s eigth house. It is also conjunct Pluto in the 12th house of your relationship chart and opposing the Sun, Mercury, Venus and Mars. Stimulating Pluto here is almost certain to produce destructive rage, probably out of sight, below the surface (12th house) or in private, at home (Saturn rules the 4th house).
And so I come to my principal concern, Ramastro. Not knowing how to put this gently, I’ll be plain about it: Are you safe?
That is, do you honestly, deeply and truly believe that you are living in safety—mentally, emotionally and physically—right now? I ask because I’m troubled by the considerable amount of tension in your relationship, the potential harms that may arise from it on a regular basis, and your husband’s deep depression which may be chronic.
Are you safe? If you need help, will you ask for it and where will it come from?
