Hello, everyone!
I have been thinking a lot about this lately and have decided to post this on here. Don't know if this is even the right forum, but I believe this might be the most appropriate one...?
So, I've never been in a relationship (romantic) and that's not my primary focus (at least right now), but a friend of mine has brought some placements and aspects in my chart to my attention and... I don't know what to really think? My friend jokingly said, that I am meant to be forever alone, but I... it kind of makes sense? I'm not opposed to the idea, quite the opposite - I'm really scared to be IN a relationship, the thought kind of repulses me? Don't get me wrong, I feel attraction to some people, but the thought of actually being close to someone just feels... weird?
So, the aspects that supposedly mean I'll be alone forever are:
This can mean a lot of things and I mean A LOT. That my partner needs to be Neptunian (whether it be Neptunian by nature or have planets in Pisces)- with that I don't think I agree with, especially the Pisces placements. The people that have shown an interest in me actually have all had either Virgo or Aries (or both) placements. Not even Capricorn (you know, my Descendant sign) or Cancer (sign of the 5th & 7th house rulers - even though I just don't really click with them). And I just don't get along with Pisces that well. And about the Neptunian nature, if I were to have a relationship, a Saturnian person seems more suitable to me and what I want than a Neptunian person. So, I don't know about that one.
It could mean, that I fall in love with unavailable people. Well.... Ain't that the truth... I actually never really noticed that before, but almost everyone I have had a crush on was in a relationship at that time. It will probably sound strange, but, when I find out that they are in a relationship, it almost comes as a relief. You know, because I can officially move on.
It could mean I attract outcasts or people who need help. Well - again true. I had a lot of people who are considered outcasts come to me, say some things I don't agree with (so if there ever was an attraction to begin with, it disappears), ask me if I am single and try to flirt with me. I know that I could enter a relationship and they might change their mindset, but that's not what I'm about. I just personally can't go into a relationship expecting a person to change. It doesn't sit right with me.
Could mean that I will have "secret-affairs" and/or keep my relationships private. Strongly agree with the 'keeping my relationships private' part, but secret affairs - it's something that I don't agree with (affairs in general), so feel pretty confident to say, that I won't take part in them.
There are some more meanings, but one that stuck out to me is - life in a monastery. It's funny, that I have actually entertained the idea before, but, after looking into it, I am not sure it's worth it.
A feeling, that I have never been in love and never will? Uhmm... I don't think that I need to attest to that... You'll probably say I have high standards, even too high. Maybe, but I don't want to settle for less, especially because I would like for the relationship to be long-lasting. If I never meet that person, that's fine too - I'll just be alone forever. You know, I don't want a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.
Sticking with a partner through thick and thin - have never been in a romantic relationship, so can't be 100% sure, but I would like to think, that, if I ever get married, I'll do everything to keep the marriage alive and well. Of course, can't speak for every instance, but, if there's a problem we both can fix, why not at least try?
People always come to me, confide in me and ask for help. If I can help them, I happily do that asking nothing in return (not that anyone has ever offered me anything). But, I'm not going to lie - it's super draining. And if I can't help them, they get mad at me. It's like they view me as a Genie, that can just make all their wishes come true and if I can't, then I am a bad human being. It's not fair. Also, they won't talk to me unless they need help. So, I'm just invisible a lot of the time, which is fun. I have learned to get on my own, so it's not that bad. But, to be honest, sometimes it's hard to handle all of this, so I don't really look forward to a romantic relationship, if that's what is awaiting me in it as well.
Maybe I missed something, but these are the aspects and placements my friend pointed out. Can anyone chime in on this? Maybe add another placement or comment on the above listed ones. Maybe someone has some experience with something and they would like to share it.
Feel free to comment on this.
I have been thinking a lot about this lately and have decided to post this on here. Don't know if this is even the right forum, but I believe this might be the most appropriate one...?
So, I've never been in a relationship (romantic) and that's not my primary focus (at least right now), but a friend of mine has brought some placements and aspects in my chart to my attention and... I don't know what to really think? My friend jokingly said, that I am meant to be forever alone, but I... it kind of makes sense? I'm not opposed to the idea, quite the opposite - I'm really scared to be IN a relationship, the thought kind of repulses me? Don't get me wrong, I feel attraction to some people, but the thought of actually being close to someone just feels... weird?
So, the aspects that supposedly mean I'll be alone forever are:
- An empty 7th house.
- 7th house in Capricorn - so the ruler is Saturn.
- 7th house ruler and Venus (also the ruler of the 5th house) in the 12th house.
This can mean a lot of things and I mean A LOT. That my partner needs to be Neptunian (whether it be Neptunian by nature or have planets in Pisces)- with that I don't think I agree with, especially the Pisces placements. The people that have shown an interest in me actually have all had either Virgo or Aries (or both) placements. Not even Capricorn (you know, my Descendant sign) or Cancer (sign of the 5th & 7th house rulers - even though I just don't really click with them). And I just don't get along with Pisces that well. And about the Neptunian nature, if I were to have a relationship, a Saturnian person seems more suitable to me and what I want than a Neptunian person. So, I don't know about that one.
It could mean, that I fall in love with unavailable people. Well.... Ain't that the truth... I actually never really noticed that before, but almost everyone I have had a crush on was in a relationship at that time. It will probably sound strange, but, when I find out that they are in a relationship, it almost comes as a relief. You know, because I can officially move on.
It could mean I attract outcasts or people who need help. Well - again true. I had a lot of people who are considered outcasts come to me, say some things I don't agree with (so if there ever was an attraction to begin with, it disappears), ask me if I am single and try to flirt with me. I know that I could enter a relationship and they might change their mindset, but that's not what I'm about. I just personally can't go into a relationship expecting a person to change. It doesn't sit right with me.
Could mean that I will have "secret-affairs" and/or keep my relationships private. Strongly agree with the 'keeping my relationships private' part, but secret affairs - it's something that I don't agree with (affairs in general), so feel pretty confident to say, that I won't take part in them.
There are some more meanings, but one that stuck out to me is - life in a monastery. It's funny, that I have actually entertained the idea before, but, after looking into it, I am not sure it's worth it.
- Venus conjunct Saturn.
A feeling, that I have never been in love and never will? Uhmm... I don't think that I need to attest to that... You'll probably say I have high standards, even too high. Maybe, but I don't want to settle for less, especially because I would like for the relationship to be long-lasting. If I never meet that person, that's fine too - I'll just be alone forever. You know, I don't want a relationship just for the sake of a relationship.
Sticking with a partner through thick and thin - have never been in a romantic relationship, so can't be 100% sure, but I would like to think, that, if I ever get married, I'll do everything to keep the marriage alive and well. Of course, can't speak for every instance, but, if there's a problem we both can fix, why not at least try?
- Chiron in the 7th house closely conjunct the Descendant.
People always come to me, confide in me and ask for help. If I can help them, I happily do that asking nothing in return (not that anyone has ever offered me anything). But, I'm not going to lie - it's super draining. And if I can't help them, they get mad at me. It's like they view me as a Genie, that can just make all their wishes come true and if I can't, then I am a bad human being. It's not fair. Also, they won't talk to me unless they need help. So, I'm just invisible a lot of the time, which is fun. I have learned to get on my own, so it's not that bad. But, to be honest, sometimes it's hard to handle all of this, so I don't really look forward to a romantic relationship, if that's what is awaiting me in it as well.
- 5th & 7th house rulers trine Uranus.
Maybe I missed something, but these are the aspects and placements my friend pointed out. Can anyone chime in on this? Maybe add another placement or comment on the above listed ones. Maybe someone has some experience with something and they would like to share it.
Feel free to comment on this.
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