Ah, you wanna know a secret? I thought the same before reading and meditating on the idea.
Whenever someone exclaims "no regrets" they are usually fulfilling some selfish desire they know is inherently bad, but just want an excuse to act on it. To act unwisely, against their better judgement. But as I wrote above, that quote is discussing the idea of "desire-less action." So, when the desire is taken out of our actions, we can't regret anything as we want nothing.
This can also be seen in the golden rule - don't do unto others. By not pushing desires unto other beings, we give the freedom we are all born with. Life would look very different if we all followed these rules, which ensure freedom of the individual and by extension, all of earths inhabitants.
Funny side note: The golden rule, as you know it, has an eastern counterpart: The rule of Dharma.
Sorry about the ramble, but I do so enjoy these discussions.
I have always kept it personal for me, I have not idea about anyone else Karma
and it is hard to guess
what will happen, to someone until it comes around and manifests in real life.
Karma yoga is a path to reach moksha (spiritual liberation)
through work. It is rightful action without being attached to fruits
or being manipulated by what the results might be, a dedication
to one's duty, and trying one's best while being neutral to rewards
or outcomes such as success or failure.
I had a spiritual teacher say the best thing about karma:
karma is generated when one person puts their energy
in the path of someone else, essentially
taking them off their spiritual path.
Another way this could be viewed is
to think of it as “programming”. Happens ALL the time.
Marketing is an expression of mass programming,
to have or be a certain way.
Another expression of this energy is when
you have someone in your life who needs help, and
you (in the spirit of being helpful) give your solution to their problem
(think about parenting...).
But more often than not, people need the exercise
of finding their own answers
(or wading thru thoughtful suggestions .
Just a few thoughts.
I've grown much since my first post. Now I notice
that the flow of kamma is to be swam skillfully if one seeks higher states
an unskillfully if one wishes to fall lower in the ocean of kamma.
Virtue or meritorious deeds that cause no harm are skillful swimming.
Vice or demerit see one swim unskillfully, sinking to the bottom of the conditioned.
If one acceptsI think there is a real reason we do not remember
or better said, we forget, our past lives and it is a blessing in disguise......
It's so that that we can restart each new time with a clean slate.
forgiving a personIn another thread where a similar question was asked, there was
a discussion about a film of an extremely, intelligent woman who
was not able to forget a single memory from her entire life.
She was fighting with her sister whom she now hated, because
she wasn't able to forget any of the slights and fights they'd had
while they were growing up. Her memories kept coming back
and she was unable to forget and ultimately, forgive her sister.
She ended up alone, depressed and miserable.
There is a real benefit to our well being
when we are not able to remember painful experiences, because
it allows us another opportunity at dealing with the problem again,
without predjudice and maybe this time with more success.
If one accepts
that '...karmas...' aka '...actions...' lead to consequences
then '...clean slates...' are theoretical
forgiving a person
ONLY because we simply cannot remember what they did
is not forgiveness!
BECAUSE
if we cannot remember the "...bad..." the person did to us, then
we are only being nice to them
because we have a poor memory
– and that's easy!
forgiving someone EVEN IF we remember precisely
the awful things that person did to us
is the meaning of forgiveness.
Whereas, NOT forgiving someone because we can remember precisely
the bad stuff that person did to us is “...bearing a grudge...”
and
is a dangerous state of mind
because
it can lead to thoughts of “...taking revenge..."
We may think we are '...entitled...'
or
'...justified...'
to '...take revenge...'
BUT
our thinking may be flawed!
the woman was unhappy
NOT because she had a good memory
but because of her reaction to memories.
given the theory that '...karmas...' aka '...actions...' are basically
the causes of effects
THEN suffering/non-suffering occurs for that reason
If a mango seed is planted then a mango tree will grow
– when the right conditions are in place.
If grass seed is planted then grass will grow
– when the right conditions are in place.
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I forget which Ajahn told us this but the way Bhikkhus apologize is by describing, in detail, what they are apologizing for, so that it can be truly forgiven and no ill-will can remain.
The Bhikkhu told us laypeople to apologize in this way.