Since there is no accurate birth time there is a lot of missing info. But with just planet positions which won't change too much, Mercury in Pisces is conjunct Saturn and semisquare Neptune - she likely won't say what she feels and may stretch the truth to avoid unpleasant feelings or experiences. Venus in Aquarius is semisextile Neptune and Mars doesn't aspect Neptune or Uranus, so while I think she is likely not a cheater, she's no saint or prude either. Follow your gut instincts and your first impressions.
Gut instincts where never good Mdinaz, But I found the girl in a very messy part of her life and I've falling for her over four months ago. I'm going to post both of our charts! I'd like to know your overall opinion combined with my update post at the bottom
What planetary aspect/sign placement typically point to a cheater in your opinion? Any beyond the usual suspects?
5th house moon? - I've read its common for over night infatuation and love affairs?
Well, Venus and Mars are together. They are out-of-sect, in the unfortunate 8th house, and they are not dignified. Plus, Venus is in the terms of Mars while Mars is in the decan of Venus. To find mitigating factors, we should look at the condition of Jupiter. Jupiter is in-sect, in the favourable 5th house, but is undignified. He is in square to this to this Venus-Mars combination, not a favourable relationship.
The tendency for infidelity is definitely there. The undignified Jupiter in the 5th shows that she is sometimes immoderate with pleasurable activities.
Even without astrology though, those traits you mentioned aren't really favourable for chastity.
Thanks for your input here. Can you give more of any opinion based on my post below?
Sounds like you are looking for a steady long-term relationship.
Drugs, booze.....? Hot potato. Not likely to change, big problems.
No astrology necessary for anyone with an ounce of common sense.
Your intuition is telling you DANGER or you probably wouldn't be asking the question. Pay attention to the Little Voice. It's there to protect you.
You might want to post your own chart and ask, "What are the prospects for relationships in my life?" That can bring out your own weaknesses/strengths in developing, maintaining relationships generally, give you the opportunity to improve your chances of forming a lasting and happy union.
It is very much what is within US, not the prospective partner, that makes for the quality of relationships in our lives.
Greybeard, I relate to this post a lot. Because what's inside me is not the most confident or secure feeling. I would also like your thoughts on my update post.
So pholks, Thank you very much for taking the time to respond to my post. In this post I will provide my chart and also times and dates of her chart as previously requested.
Where do I start?, It's been a rollcoaster.
I met this girl one December 20th, she was basically on the side of a road in the city center. She'd taking a pill and drank too much and was freezing her *** off. I comforted her, brought her home and woke up the next morning, scared shitless with the fact that I had slept with her the night before (Knowing the state she was in)
What I was presented with the next morning, was someone who intelligent, intense and full of energy. Also on her second year studying Physcology. From the get go, she was always open about many sexual partners and infatuations she had. I could tell she was a flirt and really enjoyed attention.
As much as this raised alarm maybe somwhere in my subconscience my intentions where only for fun but as time went on she grew to the idea of coming off the party life style and becoming my girlfriend. Since then, she's turned her whole life around. She's gotta a new part time job, which she loves and she's working harder in college and getting better results.
She wrote me a letter, big massive thing! Telling me how much I saved her life and how happy she is I found her. Since then our love genuinely has grown but was was always deep right from the beginning. With both our pluto's aligned, to say the least. We never leave the bedroom. It's unreal what I have with this girl and I've never felt like this about anyone in my life.
The big problem, I can deal with her being 6 years younger (20), just about, because she's clever!
What I'm finding hard to deal with is the lies. Sometime around mid feb I realised I had an STD. Although it was possible I could of got it before met this girl I decided to dig into that voice in the back of my head that told me. (She's not telling me somthing)
When we first met I did ask her was she with anyone else. She said no. (not the most convincing no though) (In fear/guilt that she'd giving me an STD about two days after I told her) she confessed that two weeks after we'd met she "banged" sombody.
When I seen her next, I wanted to get down to the nitty gritty of details. While we lied in bed, I asked her to try round down the dates.
She pulled every trick in the book, saying that she couldn't remember because of the mess she was in at the time. ( I wasn't convinced )
She made me feel guilty about it and cried argued with me a lot. Although I wasn't entirely convinced I let it slide as I wanted more time to process the situation.
My gut was telling me, Something isn't right here. So I took opportunity to steal her facebook password and see what I could dig up for myself! Surely enough, the gut wasn't lying... She was.
I found a mix of controversial stuff on her facebook. On one hand she's talking about me to all her close friends about how much she likes me and really all good stuff about me.
To cut a long story short, She banged 3 other blokes around the two/three week perdiod that we met when we weren't officially together.
It was obvious she was in a messy place when I found her. But what really hurt me was I was hooked and focused on her from the moment I met her and she openly played me. A few days after Id got into her facebook she became suspicious and changed her password. (She knew) But she didn't openly tell me she knew, she waited.
When I seen her, I asked her openly. Did you bang anyone else while we met. She came clean, with everything. Her best mate (that she was seeing at some stage which didn't work out) 6th of jan. Another guy who she's friends with on the 10th and a guy she had casual sexual fling on the 28th.
So many lies, But her excuse was, "Jonnie, If I had told you i was banging so many blokes the way I was, You would not have wanted to pursue me further".
She might of had a point there.
So here I am in a predicament, A girl I'm crazy about, but she's lied through her teeth to me... How can I trust her?
To add it, I ready everyone of her messages for days (I know obsessive) But lets be fair, if you felt this about someone and had an opportunity to see what could be ahead. You probably would right?
She talks about her ex in very negative way, that was alarm bells from the get go. But he wouldn't have sex with her for 6 months. So, she cheated on him. In her FB messages she talks about how it was a big mistake at the time.
Her boyfriend previous to that, (We're talking teenage years) treated her like a dickhead and she cheated on him with the guy who became her last boyfriend.
( Lot of Cheating right? )
But I don't want to be the type of person that judges someone on their past. Even though kinda am. She loves me and I've seen her go the extra mile for me and change her whole life (For the better and for herself) to be with me.
Right now, I believe we have everything we need to happy with each other. I've got insecure because of her lies and sometimes I isolate myself from her because I'm afraid I'll ruin things. There was one or two moments where I felt like i was my mind with how venerable she made me feel. I told her, " I can't actually put into words how I much I feel for you, So much it actually scares the sh*t out of me". Her response was "I know it makes ye feel venerable but I kinda love that feeling it contributes to the intensity" ... Yea sweatheart, thanks for the reassurance! :| .. and she doesn't seem to do that quite well!
Reassurance, I don't seem to get that as much as I want it? .... Why is that? If I know she loves me, although that does make me question her love.
Maybe it's an age thing (6 years)
Maybe she just doesn't have that life experience to empathise with me? She still hangs out with a 2 of the guys she banged... another thing that bothers me but she says I have nothing to be concerned about, so I have to listen don't I?
We support each other, care fore each other, and have amazing friendship and respect. Her whole 8th mercury thing is doing my nut in. She keeps it all in. Bottles it all up and I never know what she's up to.
Where Do I go from here guys? How do I put the past behind me and utilize all that is good about our relationship. based on our charts. Can we move forward? Is this a relationship that will work? ..
By the way, she hasn't taken her pill in a month and she's not pregnant... is anybody thinking what I'm thinking?
.. I better not be infertile pluto, you big bollox!! :| -
Thanks everyone for you're support an advice, this is very stressful time my life!