Is he with someone else the way he is with me?

Rita Mary

Active member
I've been here before and everyone was so helpful. But I felt I also needed the answer to this so maybe it would help me leave him.

Context:
  • He says he likes me, I like him. I wanted to give it time so I could see if we could really have a relationship.
  • He says he's not ready to commit, he is very hard to. I understand that, I don't know if I could either because I have my own issues.
  • He says he likes the freedom to be able to hook up with someone. I like this feeling too, but I rarely really do hook up with people I don't have a connection with, so there's already a place for me to suffer.
  • He's a depressed person, his depression is very complicated.
So, overall, I could stay in this situationship to see how it goes, because it has been like this for 3 months and it was fine until now. I told myself I could take 6 months into this to see what happens. But it would crush me if he found someone or if he already has someone and is involved with her the way we are.
This is mostly the reason I wanna leave because I couldn't handle that.

I'm open to clarify if necessary.



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Antiks72

Well-known member
No, he is not making an aspect to you, another person, or his 5th house of love affairs. He is trining Venus which probably symbolizes your conversations you've had with him, since Venus is your conversation house. This could also be others as well, not just you. Being that he is Saturn, it's obvious that he's depressive because Saturn rules depression. He has very little dignity here, and because he's represented by Saturn, I would be careful about starting a relationship with this person. He only has term here so I'm sure he can be difficult.
 
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Rita Mary

Active member
No, he is not making an aspect to you, another person, or his 5th house of love affairs. He is trining Venus which probably symbolizes your conversations you've had with him, since Venus is your conversation house. This could also be others as well, not just you. Being that he is Saturn, it's obvious that he's depressive because Saturn rules depression. He has very little dignity here, and because he's represented by Saturn, I would be careful about starting a relationship with this person. He is peregrine here so I'm sure he can be difficult.
Why exactly would you be careful? I just need some comforting haha 😢
I mean, we decided not to talk because I told him I’d strictly be friends with him - which means no intimacy or the routine we had to call every night (he lives 1h away).
He said it was making him anxious bc he wanted to have what we had and that he needed a time away from me so he could get over the dependency lol. Now I’m the one depressed thinking he has never really liked me.
 

Antiks72

Well-known member
Why exactly would you be careful? I just need some comforting haha 😢
I mean, we decided not to talk because I told him I’d strictly be friends with him - which means no intimacy or the routine we had to call every night (he lives 1h away).
He said it was making him anxious bc he wanted to have what we had and that he needed a time away from me so he could get over the dependency lol. Now I’m the one depressed thinking he has never really liked me.
You need to be careful with Saturn in a horary context. Mars and Saturn are traditionally hard planets to deal with at times. It sounds to me like he's got mental health issues, and needs to be taken care of. Been there, done that. If you want to help, then by all means, help. I can't say whether or not he's ever liked you, but this has dysfunction written all over it. If you want it, nobody can stop you two. My impressions could be dead wrong.
 

Rita Mary

Active member
You need to be careful with Saturn in a horary context. Mars and Saturn are traditionally hard planets to deal with at times. It sounds to me like he's got mental health issues, and needs to be taken care of. Been there, done that. If you want to help, then by all means, help. I can't say whether or not he's ever liked you, but this has dysfunction written all over it. If you want it, nobody can stop you two. My impressions could be dead wrong.
Yeah, yeah. it is. It’s sad, can’t really do much to help since he just does not want help. He wants someone to be there for him to relieve the suffering, but I can’t do that to myself either, whether he wanted to commit or not. What makes me feel extremely bad is my own trauma of being made a fool of, being lied to, especially because he really seems like a good person, but totally dysfunctional. I’ll really just make my mind to be a friend and provide support if he needs any help, because he deserves to feel good - all of us.

Thanks for the insight once again
 

Rita Mary

Active member
This chart points to the same conclusion as the chart you posted a week ago Does he wanna be with me? quite possibly because behind it all is the same question?
It has been asked and answered.
Oh, I thought focusing on someone else would probably have it shown more in this chart, which was a secondary worry. Honestly I think I just need a slap in the face to move on from this ha, kidding it will pass.
 

IleneK

Premium Member
Oh, I thought focusing on someone else would probably have it shown more in this chart, which was a secondary worry. Honestly I think I just need a slap in the face to move on from this ha, kidding it will pass.
Yes, there is a part of you that knows you need to get a grip. There are no real questions left; you have a full enough picture to know this is not what you are looking for as a relationship.
 

Rita Mary

Active member
Yes, there is a part of you that knows you need to get a grip. There are no real questions left; you have a full enough picture to know this is not what you are looking for as a relationship.

Even without the horary…. 😢 geez, may I never get into such a problem again. Thanks for the help.
 
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