Is he cheating on me?

[meredythdiamond]

Can someone please read this chart and help me get some clarification on this. Have a strange feeling that he may be cheating on me, does this chart show it?? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks so much. I haven't been reading horary charts for a while so I can't quite remember how to read them. For a little background information, we are newly dating but have been seeing eachother for a few months now, just have been noticing a few changes in behaviour and am getting this strange feeling

 

[IleneK]

I am not sure I see him cheating.
He/Jup in Aries is dignified by triplicity suggesting some integrity and not questionable like if Jup were in its detriment or fall/depression. And Jup is in its own/7th house, so focused on himself and his own interests. You may be picking up on that: his focus on himself rather than your relationship?

He/Jup is in an partile, exact and applying sextile, with Sun. So it looks like there is an opportunity for his involvement with another. Sun is in detriment so not above being less that forthright. And Sun really likes Jup, receives Jup by exaltation. Exaltation is sudden, intense, and not particularly long lasting. He kind of likes Sun, being triplicity ruler of Aq.

It may be what you are feeling is not him cheating on you, though, but rather Jupiter's poor reception with you/Mercury, his receiving Mercury by fall or depression.
So, it may be someone else or it may be that it is not working out between you and him and you might wish.

 

[meredythdiamond]

I am not sure I see him cheating.
He/Jup in Aries is dignified by triplicity suggesting some integrity and not questionable like if Jup were in its detriment or fall/depression. And Jup is in its own/7th house, so focused on himself and his own interests. You may be picking up on that: his focus on himself rather than your relationship?

He/Jup is in an partile, exact and applying sextile, with Sun. So it looks like he there is an opportunity for involvement with another. Sun is in detriment so not above being less that forthright. And Sun really likes Jup, receives Jup by exaltation. Exaltation is sudden, intense, and not particularly long lasting. He kind of likes Sun, being triplicity ruler of Aq.

It may be what you are feeling is not him cheating on you, though, but rather Jupiter's poor reception with Mercury, receiving Mercury by fall or depression.
So, it may not be someone else; it may be that it is not working out between you and him and you might wish.

Thank you so much for that,

I have just been extremely paranoid that he may be. Certain behaviours from him are just confusing. Sometimes he'll be cold and rude and not affecionate at all and then out of nowhere he will be extremely affectionate and it makes me suspicious. I have just been worried that he could still be involved with his ex and that has been my insecurity most of the time. He does swear to me that he is faithful but I'm not certain I believe him 100%. He is extremely focused on himself right now, you are right about that.

This could of course be my own trust issues that are clouding my judgement though but I guess that is why I did this chart

Anything else you can see?

Thank you so much once again I really appreciate it

 

[ElenaJ]

Moon on the cusp of the 7th is the question.
Both significators of the 7th are in the 7th, Jupiter and neptune, which is what IleneK wrote, all wrapped up in himself.
Moon separates from a square to mars in his 3rd house, who rules your 3rd. He might have been a little annoyed about some discussions that you two had, or even a day trip you took together.
Moon also rules his 5th, so there is a possibility there was some contact with his ex, but it ended in the square to mars, and so it is over.
However now moon will sextile you, mercury, so if there was a rift or even a slip up, it should be straightened out, and he wants to be with you.
Note that moon is in the degree of the Nodes, which does indicate a special destiny of the relationship, which is taking a path that is not up to you to control.
Pisces on the 7th, with moon and the significators in this sign, a mystical sign, it can seem duplice but it is usually just the fish swimming in different directions on its own.

 

[waybread]

I don't see evidence of him cheating. The moon is your co-significator but also his, with its position in the 7th house of committed relationships. You are ruled by Mercury in the 5th house of love affairs, and the moon applies to a sextile to it. That is all to the good, but if you really want a long-term committed relationship with the guy, is it possible that he's not so interested in that, but would prefer to keep things more casual and "unofficial"?

Venus in his turned 12th house suggests he may be interested in another woman, but Venus has past her major aspects with other planets, so I wouldn't see it going anywhere.

But just a bit of non-astrological advice: if you really like him and want to keep him around, try not to show jealousy or controlling behaviors. You probably know already that a lot of clinginess and questioning about what he's up to will probably just drive him away.

 

[prasanna_1978]

Jupiter (him) and Mercury (you), Jupiter is no reception in Aries for Mercury, that's why he is not much involving with you

Understand hidden of him through Antiscia, Jupiter Antiscia falls in the 12th house, he has hidden agenda, either hidden or sexual (both indicates by the 12th house

Regards

Prasanna.G

 

[meredythdiamond]

I don't see evidence of him cheating. The moon is your co-significator but also his, with its position in the 7th house of committed relationships. You are ruled by Mercury in the 5th house of love affairs, and the moon applies to a sextile to it. That is all to the good, but if you really want a long-term committed relationship with the guy, is it possible that he's not so interested in that, but would prefer to keep things more casual and "unofficial"?

Venus in his turned 12th house suggests he may be interested in another woman, but Venus has past her major aspects with other planets, so I wouldn't see it going anywhere.

But just a bit of non-astrological advice: if you really like him and want to keep him around, try not to show jealousy or controlling behaviors. You probably know already that a lot of clinginess and questioning about what he's up to will probably just drive him away.

Thank you so much for the help

We are in a committed relationship, he asked me not too long ago and I was a little shocked because I was under the impression that he wanted to keep things more casual but I certainly am committed to him and I love him very much, he also says that he loves me very much too and it is me he wants to be with. He says he has been cheated on in the past, so he has even questioned me if I can really be trusted so I guess we just don't trust eachother enough yet. But who knows maybe keeping things 'casual' is his thinking behind closed doors and he is entertaining others, which is why I asked the question.

I have been very good at not being controlling, that is for sure and also not showing jealousy, he on the other hand has been these things before

 

[meredythdiamond]

Moon on the cusp of the 7th is the question.
Both significators of the 7th are in the 7th, Jupiter and neptune, which is what IleneK wrote, all wrapped up in himself.
Moon separates from a square to mars in his 3rd house, who rules your 3rd. He might have been a little annoyed about some discussions that you two had, or even a day trip you took together.
Moon also rules his 5th, so there is a possibility there was some contact with his ex, but it ended in the square to mars, and so it is over.
However now moon will sextile you, mercury, so if there was a rift or even a slip up, it should be straightened out, and he wants to be with you.
Note that moon is in the degree of the Nodes, which does indicate a special destiny of the relationship, which is taking a path that is not up to you to control.
Pisces on the 7th, with moon and the significators in this sign, a mystical sign, it can seem duplice but it is usually just the fish swimming in different directions on its own.

Thanks Elena,

I do get the feeling that he is very insecure and just takes it out on me, he just pretends like he's not and has an ego or maybe he's not I just get that vibe. He is very wrapped up in himself at the moment. I, on the other hand am an insecure person so I do get worried sometimes that maybe he would cheat on me etc. We have taken a few day trips together and we do usually end up bickering because he begins acting like an a**hole and just rude towards me and I call him out on it. He just gets very critical and says harsh things which I presumed was him just redirecting his own frustrations with himself onto me. We never hold a grudge for too long though and we usually make up pretty quickly but it is an ongoing cycle, he acts cold and distant suddenly, I pull away and then he's all over me again. That kind of behaviour just makes me suspicious sometimes and makes me question whether he does really love me, or, if there is something else going on.

There was contact with his ex and he did tell me about it but not to what extent, I wasn't sure if it was over or not though.

 

[uranianplutonian]

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Can someone please read this chart and help me get some clarification on this. Have a strange feeling that he may be cheating on me, does this chart show it?? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks so much. I haven't been reading horary charts for a while so I can't quite remember how to read them. For a little background information, we are newly dating but have been seeing eachother for a few months now, just have been noticing a few changes in behaviour and am getting this strange feeling

First and foremost, trust your intuition. The body knows. Always.

His significator(s) are in his house, the Seventh House, which rings selfish to me. It's likely that he does what's best for him, and doesn't think about how his decisions impact you, and this is a red flag, in my opinion. Venus and Saturn are his twelfth house. Venus in his twelfth house alone is suspicious (signifies a woman), but with Saturn, I'm getting the vibe that he's not letting go of a past relationship.

The Moon, your co-significator, looks like it's sussing out the situation – you're in his house. The Moon is applying to a sextile with your other significator, Mercury. To me, it seems that you know on an intuitive level. Your intuition is sending something to your mind. Listen to it.

Certain behaviours from him are just confusing. Sometimes he'll be cold and rude and not affecionate at all and then out of nowhere he will be extremely affectionate and it makes me suspicious. I have just been worried that he could still be involved with his ex and that has been my insecurity most of the time.

Sounds like some serious whiplash. I'm sorry to hear that he's treating you this way. You deserve so much better – a man who is consistent, and who cares how his behaviours and actions affect you.

He says he has been cheated on in the past, so he has even questioned me if I can really be trusted so I guess we just don't trust eachother enough yet.

Red flag! If he's getting all suspicious about what you're doing, there's a high probability that he's projecting. He could be projecting suppressed guilt.

But who knows maybe keeping things 'casual' is his thinking behind closed doors and he is entertaining others, which is why I asked the question.

This is possible with the current twelfth house situation going on.

I do get the feeling that he is very insecure and just takes it out on me, he just pretends like he's not and has an ego or maybe he's not I just get that vibe.

We have taken a few day trips together and we do usually end up bickering because he begins acting like an a**hole and just rude towards me and I call him out on it. He just gets very critical and says harsh things which I presumed was him just redirecting his own frustrations with himself onto me. We never hold a grudge for too long though and we usually make up pretty quickly but it is an ongoing cycle, he acts cold and distant suddenly, I pull away and then he's all over me again. That kind of behaviour just makes me suspicious sometimes and makes me question whether he does really love me, or, if there is something else going on.

Please trust your intuition! You know that you deserve better, "he begins acting like an a**hole and just rude towards me and I call him out on it."
If this is how the beginning of your relationship is, then it's not being built on a strong foundation. Which is perfectly okay, but don't stick around. He won't change.

I promise you that you can find better. I'm 150% sure that you will find someone else who will treat you with respect and dignity. Don't excuse his behaviour either. Don't do it!!! I'm not saying he's a bad person or anything, but he doesn't sound like the one.

 

[ElenaJ]

He just gets very critical and says harsh things which I presumed was him just redirecting his own frustrations with himself onto me.

You are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, when everything is rosy and dreamy and lovey dovey.
As time goes on, the negatives will start to come out, the little kinks and wrinkles that we tend to overlook and forgive during the honeymoon period.
If, however, you are already getting the negatives from him, you shouldn't gloss over it lightly, it won't go away with time, it will only become a daily pattern.
Him using you to off load his frustrations, you excusing it and little by little modifying your behaviour so that you won't "provoke" his negative behaviour.
At the moment these episodes won't last long, because you are in the honeymoon stage.
But in three years from now, the gloss will have rubbed off and you will be left with his abusive behaviour patterns.
And they will take their toll on you.
Think about it carefully.

 

[Outlook]

personally I suspect you are over analysing based on your significator in cap, dispositing to saturn in aqua.

he def is into himself, therefore if he is ‘cheating’ it’s with his imagination. He seems to be drive by challenges. See to it you start challenging …put on running shoes and live life…..and not being that accommodating or caught into negativity. Because what you fear, is upon you. And fear is off putting. So is victim mentality. One way road to loss.

one upon he was attracted. Get back to that.

its a game of chance. You are ahead of the curve into settling. He isnt and is wavering. Get back to the game.

but that’s me.

 

[meredythdiamond]

personally I suspect you are over analysing based on your significator in cap, dispositing to saturn in aqua.

he def is into himself, therefore if he is ‘cheating’ it’s with his imagination. He seems to be drive by challenges. See to it you start challenging …put on running shoes and live life…..and not being that accommodating or caught into negativity. Because what you fear, is upon you. And fear is off putting. So is victim mentality. One way road to loss.

one upon he was attracted. Get back to that.

its a game of chance. You are ahead of the curve into settling. He isnt and is wavering. Get back to the game.

but that’s me.

That's right. I have noticed that when I do take a step back and just do my own thing, he comes crawling back. That is another one, I have been very bad at saying no to him, because if I do, he gets upset. I recently turned down spending time with him to spend time with my friends instead and for a few days he was acting distant and cold and I suspected it was because of that but instead of telling me it upset him, he turns passive aggressive and almost punishes me in a way for my actions. It was only later on that I found out that he was extremely upset I turned him down and he was jealous and suspicious that another guy was going to try and make moves on me. The thing is, I definitely notice and realise his behaviours and exactly why he is doing them and it's clear that he is possessive and insecure.

But like uranianplutonian mentioned that could be him projecting suppressed guilt. But it could also just be because of his own problems, hence why I asked the question because I wasn't sure.

 

[Outlook]

arent we all possessive and insecure when our latest toy is taken?

focus on the game. The female leads relationships. Take the lead and focus on fun. Do just enough to keep him in line and always follow up with positive reinforcement. That way thenrelationship becomes who you want it to be.

From the chart with pisces there, this guy is too full of himself. Passive aggressive is his game to get his way. feel sorry for me is his main game.

 

[waybread]

It seems like you both need to work on trust issues. Even if you two don't stay together, problems with trust can haunt you into the future with other relationships. Suppose he were to cheat on you Why couldn't you just walk away with your head held high, determined to become a happy single? Is it because you feel you somehow need to be half of a couple? The moon in the 7th house suggests that being in a committed relationship is very important to you-- but when you don't have a relationship you can focus on other 7th house matters. Moon in Pisces can be either needy-- or else buy-in too entirely to someone else's needs.

 

[blackbery]

First and foremost, trust your intuition. The body knows. Always.

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Wish people didn't cheat but they do....a lot...& there are signs that people ignore.

With querent's there is a good chance that he is cheating.
2nd ruler confirms this.

I hate to be right about this but the astrology doesn't lie.

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