Well, the sextile is knowable and useful. the sextile is THE most useful aspect. That is why astrologers usually agree that the way to handle the YOD is to utilize the sextile in the most intelligent way possible. You really have to get to KNOW that sextile as well as the rest of your chart to manage the Yod.
So please post it, ok?
Maybe my Yod wants me to 'lower my expectations and standards' set by my ego with women and accept the options what's available.