I would like my chart interpretation. Looking for answers on hot topic of life - marriage

[AndreeaAndreea]

Hi there,

I am an astrology fan but have limited knowledge.
Having some difficult time right now in my marriage and would like to understand this through astrology also. To gain a broader view on the topic.
Will I be able to put an end to the problem? Or will carry it with me all my life?
Interested in your opinions.

Thank you!

 

[tinat]

Well your significant other is one stubborn person but so are you,there is a lot of control and obssesion it seems like your having some kind of bdms relathionship. Venus in scorpio is how you love- all about sex,power,control,loving deep and hard. If we look at him in the chart-he is the pluto to your venus in scorpio. So he fits the role.
There is a lot of "running away" into anger,lyies,substance alcohol or it could be Just sticking to one beliving firmly even though it doesnt prove the point.
I think you will find solution in the end and stick together. Just dont do stuff you will regret later ,think through.

 

[Osamenor]

Are you married? If so, what kind of problems are you having? If not, what's the problem, exactly?

If you are married, we would need to see a synastry chart between you and your spouse. Your birth chart alone doesn't tell us what's going on, assuming this is your birth chart; you didn't say.

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

Are you married? If so, what kind of problems are you having? If not, what's the problem, exactly?

If you are married, we would need to see a synastry chart between you and your spouse. Your birth chart alone doesn't tell us what's going on, assuming this is your birth chart; you didn't say.

Hi Osamenor!
I have been married for 14 years. The chart above is mine. Madly in love with my husband when we got married (we had been together for 6 years before marrige). But after few years I started to feel a big gap between us. And now I feel we are not from the same story any more. Is very, very hard to have even a normal conversation. We have different opinions on almost all the topics. We stick to what needs to be done and not discuss to much on other topics because we know it will create a new dispute. I am tired. He is too, I think.
I know deep down in my hart that I need to put an and to this. But I am afraid. I think he is not ready to take the punch (even though he knows things are not good). We have a kid together. Another thing that stops me to put an end.
Below I inserted a sinastry chart. Hope is readable.

Thank you for your support!!

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

Well your significant other is one stubborn person but so are you,there is a lot of control and obssesion it seems like your having some kind of bdms relathionship. Venus in scorpio is how you love- all about sex,power,control,loving deep and hard. If we look at him in the chart-he is the pluto to your venus in scorpio. So he fits the role.
There is a lot of "running away" into anger,lyies,substance alcohol or it could be Just sticking to one beliving firmly even though it doesnt prove the point.
I think you will find solution in the end and stick together. Just dont do stuff you will regret later ,think through.

Thank you tinat!!
It is everything you said. Unfortunately.
I can't imagine the solution at this point in time. Except the one to keep my hart closed and smile in family portraits. Been there. Done that.

 

[tinat]

Thank you tinat!!
It is everything you said. Unfortunately.
I can't imagine the solution at this point in time. Except the one to keep my hart closed and smile in family portraits. Been there. Done that.

Are you religious or spiritual? Do you travel?
It seems like a lot of arguments daily. It seems like both of you escape into your own world but thats two separate worlds.
Are you feeling like the least important person in your daily life?

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

Hi Tinat,
I do live in my own paralel world. I feel like I am living 2 different lifes. Sometimes I feel out of "normality", i fear to go over the line with mental health. Too much effort in maintaining the aparances. ( because I love my house, my friends, the family atmosphere for my kid and myself).
I also am very interested in astrology, phycology (studied a lot) and other spiritual practices. 😊

 

[Osamenor]

No, the synastry chart you posted is not readable at all. To be readable, it would have to be a biwheel. That single wheel format, with all the planets from both charts thrown together, is much too busy. And to be readable to me personally, its color scheme would have to be neutral. I can't look at web content with a very dark or very bright color scheme. That hurts my eyes very badly.

 

[tinat]

@osmaneor that was my first thought

 

[Frisiangal]

I am an astrology fan but have limited knowledge.

Hi,
With your limited knowledge of astrology, and without meaning any offence to you, I shall try to keep to layman's terms for you in this reply.

The study of astrology is really about the study of the cycles of the Moon and the planets of the solar system, and how they influence life during their individual revolution of the Sun. Each planet moves at a different rate of daily motion. When one or more reach a position in which they aspect (align with) a planet in the static-of-the- birth moment natal chart, an individual can experience 'something occuring' that affects them. It can be the simple urge for a chocolate cookie, a more profound issue in life with which one is confronted, and everything imbetween.
Each planet expresses a functional 'meaning' to one's life through the traits of the sign it is in. A natal chart is divided into 12 house realms of life, depending on size through the house system used. The chart you offered is through the Equal House system (typical of a Libra Sun that seeks equality in life? )

End lesson 1.

Having some difficult time right now in my marriage and would like to understand this through astrology also. To gain a broader view on the topic.
Will I be able to put an end to the problem? Or will carry it with me all my life?
Interested in your opinions

When I read of marriage, I think of the 7th house of close, private one-to-one relationships between two people. So this doesn't include or reflect upon those relationships between family (3rd house) or friends (11th house), although all 3 relate to how an individual will socialise within their realms.
When I read of 'difficulty', I think of one planet or another in its revolution through the zodiac forming an aspect to a planet IN the 7th house or to the ruler of the sign on the 7th house cusp.
Your post #4 mentioned 2 numbers: 6+is near 7 years before marriage, and the 14 years of its duration. That would correspond to the 7 year cycle of the planet Uranus, 'the bringer of change'. Well known as the trends of the good and negative aspects of 'the 7 year itch'! It represents an attitude within yourself.
Uranus does not like anything once it shows sign of no longer being exciting, thrilling, free of pressure, but has got into the staleness of an everday routine rut of responsibilitiy and obligation ... Saturn traits that resist any kind of change.

End lesson 2.

Looking at the natal chart, the first notable aspect is that transit Uranus in Taurus, in its 7 year cycle through each sign is in the 1st house (you!) and now opposing natal Saturn in the 7th house (the marriage through YOUR eyes)! You have undergone a change in the last 3-4 years. Aries rising seeks constant new adventures and horizons and the freedom loving side within an individual would stimlate this. But once Uranus entered Taurus, a fixed sign that lives through practical safety and security, the state of freedom got bogged down by it. There's no thrills of excitement anymore. Unfortunately, you cannot place any blame upon your husband because he is different to you. He may not experience your life together in the same light as you do.
Uranus has a bad reputation as 'the planet of divorce' or 'separation of ways'. Yet it isn't a finaliser of something. What it requires is that one can change its perception of something that has outlived the old style of it ways and give it a boost to re-new and renovate it into something more exciting. Part of that renovation is allowing each within a relationship the freedom to do something that does not involve the other, without any tension arising. Something a Sun in Libra may have need to associate itself with, as there is an aspect in the chart that can refer to a fear of abandonment that has nothing to do with giving up what one has to live on.

Transiting Saturn, representing your sense of responsibility and obligation, and also the limitations you place upon yourself because of it, has also made harsh aspects to itself during last year, but has now reached a more positive aspect wirh natal Sun (spirit)-Mercury (mind). Its position through Aquarius is even more adverse to any kind of change that will rock the boat. What it 'thinks' in terms of freedom of spirit may not actually desire to manifest. This isn't necessarily detrimental because the positive thinking of the Libra spirit-mind can percieve other ways to change what it has so far experienced as a dull marriage. A first opportunity might be to TALK to each other about what is souring your life together. Perhaps marriage counselling (also a 7th house realm theme) would help.

A query that might be of relevance. Did you have feelings for another several years back that affected your marriage relationship ?

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[AndreeaAndreea]

Hi,
With your limited knowledge of astrology, and without meaning any offence to you, I shall try to keep to layman's terms for you in this reply.

The study of astrology is really about the study of the cycles of the Moon and the planets of the solar system, and how they influence life during their individual revolution of the Sun. Each planet moves at a different rate of daily motion. When one or more reach a position in which they aspect (align with) a planet in the static-of-the- birth moment natal chart, an individual can experience 'something occuring' that affects them. It can be the simple urge for a chocolate cookie, a more profound issue in life with which one is confronted, and everything imbetween.
Each planet expresses a functional 'meaning' to one's life through the traits of the sign it is in. A natal chart is divided into 12 house realms of life, depending on size through the house system used. The chart you offered is through the Equal House system (typical of a Libra Sun that seeks equality in life? )

End lesson 1.


When I read of marriage, I think of the 7th house of close, private one-to-one relationships between two people. So this doesn't include or reflect upon those relationships between family (3rd house) or friends (11th house), although all 3 relate to how an individual will socialise within their realms.
When I read of 'difficulty', I think of one planet or another in its revolution through the zodiac forming an aspect to a planet IN the 7th house or to the ruler of the sign on the 7th house cusp.
Your post #4 mentioned 2 numbers: 6+is near 7 years before marriage, and the 14 years of its duration. That would correspond to the 7 year cycle of the planet Uranus, 'the bringer of change'. Well known as the trends of the good and negative aspects of 'the 7 year itch'! It represents an attitude within yourself.
Uranus does not like anything once it shows sign of no longer being exciting, thrilling, free of pressure, but has got into the staleness of an everday routine rut of responsibilitiy and obligation ... Saturn traits that resist any kind of change.

End lesson 2.

Looking at the natal chart, the first notable aspect is that transit Uranus in Taurus, in its 7 year cycle through each sign is in the 1st house (you!) and now opposing natal Saturn in the 7th house (the marriage through YOUR eyes)! You have undergone a change in the last 3-4 years. Aries rising seeks constant new adventures and horizons and the freedom loving side within an individual would stimlate this. But once Uranus entered Taurus, a fixed sign that lives through practical safety and security, the state of freedom got bogged down by it. There's no thrills of excitement anymore. Unfortunately, you cannot place any blame upon your husband because he is different to you. He may not experience your life together in the same light as you do.
Uranus has a bad reputation as 'the planet of divorce' or 'separation of ways'. Yet it isn't a finaliser of something. What it requires is that one can change its perception of something that has outlived the old style of it ways and give it a boost to re-new and renovate it into something more exciting. Part of that renovation is allowing each within a relationship the freedom to do something that does not involve the other, without any tension arising. Something a Sun in Libra may have need to associate itself with, as there is an aspect in the chart that can refer to a fear of abandonment that has nothing to do with giving up what one has to live on.

Transiting Saturn, representing your sense of responsibility and obligation, and also the limitations you place upon yourself because of it, has also made harsh aspects to itself during last year, but has now reached a more positive aspect wirh natal Sun (spirit)-Mercury (mind). Its position through Aquarius is even more adverse to any kind of change that will rock the boat. What it 'thinks' in terms of freedom of spirit may not actually desire to manifest. This isn't necessarily detrimental because the positive thinking of the Libra spirit-mind can percieve other ways to change what it has so far experienced as a dull marriage. A first opportunity might be to TALK to each other about what is souring your life together. Perhaps marriage counselling (also a 7th house realm theme) would help.

A query that might be of relevance. Did you have feelings for another several years back that affected your marriage relationship ?

Hi Frisiangal,

Thank you for your very, very interesting analysis. I will read it several times to soak in the details .
So your opinion is that my marriage will not end and we should put an effort to revitalize it with specialized support. Thought of it.

Regarding your last question, the answer is somehow "yes". I say somehow because it was not the person itself but the ideea to put my feelings in someone. I know it sounds strange... I knew back then it is not healthy. My feelings were nor reciprocated. The other person had his own isses. He was also a libra 😁.
Anyway, this story dissolved and I focused on buying a house. It was a huge effort. My husband was not very convinced. But he understood how important is for me.
We bought the house. I love it, but I feel it is a burden for him. (this house is a different story...)

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

No, the synastry chart you posted is not readable at all. To be readable, it would have to be a biwheel. That single wheel format, with all the planets from both charts thrown together, is much too busy. And to be readable to me personally, its color scheme would have to be neutral. I can't look at web content with a very dark or very bright color scheme. That hurts my eyes very badly.

Hi Osamenor,

Can you recommend a site where I can generate this kind of biwheel chart? I keep searching and I only get single wheel one.

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

No, the synastry chart you posted is not readable at all. To be readable, it would have to be a biwheel. That single wheel format, with all the planets from both charts thrown together, is much too busy. And to be readable to me personally, its color scheme would have to be neutral. I can't look at web content with a very dark or very bright color scheme. That hurts my eyes very badly.

I found a chart on white background but could not find a bi-wheel version.
Waiting for your recommendation for a site.

Thank you!!
I really appreciate your efforts to guide me in this.

 

[Frisiangal]

Hi Frisiangal,

Thank you for your very, very interesting analysis. I will read it several times to soak in the details .
So your opinion is that my marriage will not end and we should put an effort to revitalize it with specialized support. Thought of it.

Hi again.
I did not write that. That is for you to decide ...or interpret as you feel fits your mood. Planetary motion simply shows how situations are under focus at a particular period in time that need attention. They do not determine the outcome, which comes from within a person themselves. During this period of time you do not appear to have reached the stage of making a final decision.

There are several astrological methods to 'look into trends for the future', using the birth time and date as a guide. You give no birth time, yet the Sun's position in the chart suggests early evening if it is known as accurate. An astrological ephemeris showing the daily planetary positions at midnight gives the approximate date. I work with the method that takes each day after birth as approx. 1 year in time, according to the Sun's daily motion during the period covered. If a planet on that day makes an exact aspect with a natal planet, a once-in-a-lifetime situation occurs.

Using this method the planetary positions give a birth date in 1984, giving an age of 38+ years. 38 days after birth puts planetary positions as following;-

The most significant is that the Sun and Moon during that day shared the same degree in Sagittarius in the Equal House 8th house. When such an alignment occurs, it is said to be the beginning of a completely new cycle of life. The 8th house is the realm of shared and/or finances from/through other than one's self only. Sagittarius is a sign that, among many other things, deals with rights and laws through the legal system.
Moon rules 4th house = home, Sun rules the 5th house = Self, as well as the parent-child relationship and any other 'affairs' to be tackled.
The conjunction makes no aspect to another natal planet, which would suggest that it is a personal matter between one's own feelings and self.
Although the Moon moves on during the day, the Sun moves barely a degree. Transiting Pluto will have settled in Aquarius, the sign of independence, to aspect not only the progressed Sun from early 2024 through 2026, but also square (conflict) itself. Will it destroy an old way of life to create a transforming effect upon a new one?

Mercury, the planet of personal thought, has been in Sagittarius in E. H 9th house for many years. Although it is now quiet, by 2024 it will be in opposition to natal Moon in Gemini. A time to keep your wits about you, think situations over carefully, and not allow nerves to get the better of you. With transiting Neptune in 12th house now in a difficult square to natal Moon, it may be hard to see and focus clearly. Don't allow it to cloud your judgement.

Venus now in Capricorn would appear to be in its renowned 'cold and cooling period' that has put a distance between you and your husband. This could have a determining effect upon decisions taken in a few years, as LOVE is the glue that binds and keeps a relationship together. It is Capricorn that seals Sagittarius made legalities into written laws.

Mars in Aquarius makes no major aspects to the natal chart, yet there is a soft minor aspect to natal Venus. As both are rulers of the natal 1st and 7th houses, the 'urge' towards freedom, yet within the marriage, could be stirring.

As the societal and outer planets move so slowly through a sign, it's the transits to their natal positions that are relevant to any change in one's life occuring.

Your husband's chart will experience situations through a different nature to your own.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

Hi again.
I did not write that. That is for you to decide ...or interpret as you feel fits your mood. Planetary motion simply shows how situations are under focus at a particular period in time that need attention. They do not determine the outcome, which comes from within a person themselves. During this period of time you do not appear to have reached the stage of making a final decision.

There are several astrological methods to 'look into trends for the future', using the birth time and date as a guide. You give no birth time, yet the Sun's position in the chart suggests early evening if it is known as accurate. An astrological ephemeris showing the daily planetary positions at midnight gives the approximate date. I work with the method that takes each day after birth as approx. 1 year in time, according to the Sun's daily motion during the period covered. If a planet on that day makes an exact aspect with a natal planet, a once-in-a-lifetime situation occurs.

Using this method the planetary positions give a birth date in 1984, giving an age of 38+ years. 38 days after birth puts planetary positions as following;-

The most significant is that the Sun and Moon during that day shared the same degree in Sagittarius in the Equal House 8th house. When such an alignment occurs, it is said to be the beginning of a completely new cycle of life. The 8th house is the realm of shared and/or finances from/through other than one's self only. Sagittarius is a sign that, among many other things, deals with rights and laws through the legal system.
Moon rules 4th house = home, Sun rules the 5th house = Self, as well as the parent-child relationship and any other 'affairs' to be tackled.
The conjunction makes no aspect to another natal planet, which would suggest that it is a personal matter between one's own feelings and self.
Although the Moon moves on during the day, the Sun moves barely a degree. Transiting Pluto will have settled in Aquarius, the sign of independence, to aspect not only the progressed Sun from early 2024 through 2026, but also square (conflict) itself. Will it destroy an old way of life to create a transforming effect upon a new one?

Mercury, the planet of personal thought, has been in Sagittarius in E. H 9th house for many years. Although it is now quiet, by 2024 it will be in opposition to natal Moon in Gemini. A time to keep your wits about you, think situations over carefully, and not allow nerves to get the better of you. With transiting Neptune in 12th house now in a difficult square to natal Moon, it may be hard to see and focus clearly. Don't allow it to cloud your judgement.

Venus now in Capricorn would appear to be in its renowned 'cold and cooling period' that has put a distance between you and your husband. This could have a determining effect upon decisions taken in a few years, as LOVE is the glue that binds and keeps a relationship together. It is Capricorn that seals Sagittarius made legalities into written laws.

Mars in Aquarius makes no major aspects to the natal chart, yet there is a soft minor aspect to natal Venus. As both are rulers of the natal 1st and 7th houses, the 'urge' towards freedom, yet within the marriage, could be stirring.

As the societal and outer planets move so slowly through a sign, it's the transits to their natal positions that are relevant to any change in one's life occurring.

Your husband's chart will experience situations through a different nature to your own.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

Thank you so much, Farisiangal, for this in-depth analysis. I really appreciate it.
Below I will list my birth date and time and my husband's.

As I am also interested to understand his position and how he is experiencing all this.

Me:
October 15th, 1984, 17:15, Galati, Romania

Husband:
[Deleted because it is against forum rules to post other people's birth information without their informed consent, and you have not indicated that you have your husband's consent to post his birth information. - Moderator]

Thank you for all the work you are doing to help others like me in finding the answers, or at least to know themselves better!!!

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

Hi again.
I did not write that. That is for you to decide ...or interpret as you feel fits your mood. Planetary motion simply shows how situations are under focus at a particular period in time that need attention. They do not determine the outcome, which comes from within a person themselves. During this period of time you do not appear to have reached the stage of making a final decision.

There are several astrological methods to 'look into trends for the future', using the birth time and date as a guide. You give no birth time, yet the Sun's position in the chart suggests early evening if it is known as accurate. An astrological ephemeris showing the daily planetary positions at midnight gives the approximate date. I work with the method that takes each day after birth as approx. 1 year in time, according to the Sun's daily motion during the period covered. If a planet on that day makes an exact aspect with a natal planet, a once-in-a-lifetime situation occurs.

Using this method the planetary positions give a birth date in 1984, giving an age of 38+ years. 38 days after birth puts planetary positions as following;-

The most significant is that the Sun and Moon during that day shared the same degree in Sagittarius in the Equal House 8th house. When such an alignment occurs, it is said to be the beginning of a completely new cycle of life. The 8th house is the realm of shared and/or finances from/through other than one's self only. Sagittarius is a sign that, among many other things, deals with rights and laws through the legal system.
Moon rules 4th house = home, Sun rules the 5th house = Self, as well as the parent-child relationship and any other 'affairs' to be tackled.
The conjunction makes no aspect to another natal planet, which would suggest that it is a personal matter between one's own feelings and self.
Although the Moon moves on during the day, the Sun moves barely a degree. Transiting Pluto will have settled in Aquarius, the sign of independence, to aspect not only the progressed Sun from early 2024 through 2026, but also square (conflict) itself. Will it destroy an old way of life to create a transforming effect upon a new one?

Mercury, the planet of personal thought, has been in Sagittarius in E. H 9th house for many years. Although it is now quiet, by 2024 it will be in opposition to natal Moon in Gemini. A time to keep your wits about you, think situations over carefully, and not allow nerves to get the better of you. With transiting Neptune in 12th house now in a difficult square to natal Moon, it may be hard to see and focus clearly. Don't allow it to cloud your judgement.

Venus now in Capricorn would appear to be in its renowned 'cold and cooling period' that has put a distance between you and your husband. This could have a determining effect upon decisions taken in a few years, as LOVE is the glue that binds and keeps a relationship together. It is Capricorn that seals Sagittarius made legalities into written laws.

Mars in Aquarius makes no major aspects to the natal chart, yet there is a soft minor aspect to natal Venus. As both are rulers of the natal 1st and 7th houses, the 'urge' towards freedom, yet within the marriage, could be stirring.

As the societal and outer planets move so slowly through a sign, it's the transits to their natal positions that are relevant to any change in one's life occuring.

Your husband's chart will experience situations through a different nature to your own.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

I really am reading it several times to really go through all you have provided. Thank you!!

 

[Frisiangal]

I am also interested to understand his position and how he is experiencing all this.

Hi again,
I don't discuss 3rd party charts without their given permission, which is not possible via an internet link in which written words cannot validate truth. I did put up his chart, and will give two clues.

The Past.
His love for you is/was genuine and he adored you, finding contentment in the life you built together. Love can make one blind to reality. Circumstances of a few years back occured through which you have toppled off the pedastal he placed you upon. The experience of being emotionally betrayed has become acute.

The Present.
Are you familiar with the term 'playing ostrich', signifying hiding from the truth one doesn't wish to see?
His eyes are now wide open. He does not appear to be one who could 'talk' easily, keeping thoughts to himself. That has now changed with the planet of active thought now outwardly showing itself in realistic and discriminative Virgo, the sign that is able to separate the chaff from the corn. It is now in the 1st house opposing the 7th house. He can become critical, also of himself, the falling apart of his marriage, unless physical evidence shows him otherwise and can change any incorrect thoughts..

He is through what is called the Uranus opposition, commonly known as the mid-life crisis. You have yet to experience it in several years time
If you want to save your marriage, as I said in a previous post TALK to him, clear the air. Hear his point of view. Is he right or wrong in his assumptions? What is the following step to take as a result of them?

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

Hi again,
I don't discuss 3rd party charts without their given permission, which is not possible via an internet link in which written words cannot validate truth. I did put up his chart, and will give two clues.

The Past.
His love for you is/was genuine and he adored you, finding contentment in the life you built together. Love can make one blind to reality. Circumstances of a few years back occured through which you have toppled off the pedastal he placed you upon. The experience of being emotionally betrayed has become acute.

The Present.
Are you familiar with the term 'playing ostrich', signifying hiding from the truth one doesn't wish to see?
His eyes are now wide open. He does not appear to be one who could 'talk' easily, keeping thoughts to himself. That has now changed with the planet of active thought now outwardly showing itself in realistic and discriminative Virgo, the sign that is able to separate the chaff from the corn. It is now in the 1st house opposing the 7th house. He can become critical, also of himself, the falling apart of his marriage, unless physical evidence shows him otherwise and can change any incorrect thoughts..

He is through what is called the Uranus opposition, commonly known as the mid-life crisis. You have yet to experience it in several years time
If you want to save your marriage, as I said in a previous post TALK to him, clear the air. Hear his point of view. Is he right or wrong in his assumptions? What is the following step to take as a result of them?

Hi Frisiangal,

Thank you for the clues!! I really appreciate them!
Somehow, I feel like the "bad guy" in my story. Maybe I am. I have done my wrongs...
But I will think well on how to approach my next steps.
Everything you said above is true. I know he really loved and still loves me and our family. I really do appreciate him as an honest, hardworking man, always taking care of the family. We are just very different now. And for this I am punishing him...
I will think about everything you wrote, and I hope I will be wise enough to do all the right things.

Thank you again!!

 

[Osamenor]

I found a chart on white background but could not find a bi-wheel version.

That is a biwheel. One chart is on the inside and the other is on the outside. Since you'd already posted your natal chart, I know yours is the one on the inside.

Have you tried couples counseling? If not, and if you can get your husband to agree to it, do that before making any decisions.

Here's why I say that: you describe your husband in positive terms, he still loves you, and you still love him. That may or may not mean the marriage *will* be revived, but it does allow for that possibility. Your charts allow for that possibility too. You have plenty of what's considered good aspects for a couple: AC/DC in the same elements, harmonious Venus and Mars placements, Jupiter/Mars contacts (a key indicator of attraction). You have strong potential to live together well, and it sounds like you do.

Your sticking point is communication. Communication is indicated by Mercury. Your Mercury and your husband's are in adjacent signs, which don't see each other, in astro speak. That in itself does not make communication impossible, but does mean that the ways you communicate, and the ways you each perceive things (Mercury is also the planet of perception) don't instantly and intuitively harmonize. It takes some work. But since your Mercury and his don't form a hard aspect either, the need for work in that area isn't something you're readily aware of. The differences in perception and communication styles are probably not obvious, until suddenly they are. Your description of suddenly feeling like you've become different people matches that.

Astrologically, there might be progressions or transits that have brought out those differences since you were married. On the ground, life, and raising a child, would do that.

To further complicate the matter, your husband has Mercury tightly conjunct Saturn. Saturn is the no nonsense, cut and dried, black and white planet. When Saturn is conjunct Mercury in the natal chart, the native sees their perception of things as just how it is, no room for different views. When they take a position on something, they dig in. Their position is reality. Anything that contradicts their reality just gets brushed off.

You don't have Saturn with Mercury, so it doesn't work that way for you. Your Mercury is conjunct your Sun, and sandwiched between Sun and Pluto. For you, your perceptions and how you communicate them are deeply entwined with your sense of self (Sun) and go deep (Pluto). You have a very strong need to talk about, and bring to light, deeply personal things, and uncomfortable things. Your husband gets to avoid that and keep it superficial with his Saturn/Mercury conjunction that doesn't talk to his Pluto at all (however, it's sextile your Pluto, so you have the potential to get him to go deeper than he's naturally inclined to).

Seems to me that your husband has shut down on communicating with you because something's making him uncomfortable (Pluto). Couples therapy could allow you both to bring out those issues in a safe, conscious way, and to deal with what's uncomfortable. From there, you can figure out if the marriage is worth saving. Even if you decide it's not, you'll still have to work together to end it and parent your child going forward, so either way, learning to communicate with each other is a crucial step.

 

[AndreeaAndreea]

That is a biwheel. One chart is on the inside and the other is on the outside. Since you'd already posted your natal chart, I know yours is the one on the inside.

Have you tried couples counseling? If not, and if you can get your husband to agree to it, do that before making any decisions.

Here's why I say that: you describe your husband in positive terms, he still loves you, and you still love him. That may or may not mean the marriage *will* be revived, but it does allow for that possibility. Your charts allow for that possibility too. You have plenty of what's considered good aspects for a couple: AC/DC in the same elements, harmonious Venus and Mars placements, Jupiter/Mars contacts (a key indicator of attraction). You have strong potential to live together well, and it sounds like you do.

Your sticking point is communication. Communication is indicated by Mercury. Your Mercury and your husband's are in adjacent signs, which don't see each other, in astro speak. That in itself does not make communication impossible, but does mean that the ways you communicate, and the ways you each perceive things (Mercury is also the planet of perception) don't instantly and intuitively harmonize. It takes some work. But since your Mercury and his don't form a hard aspect either, the need for work in that area isn't something you're readily aware of. The differences in perception and communication styles are probably not obvious, until suddenly they are. Your description of suddenly feeling like you've become different people matches that.

Astrologically, there might be progressions or transits that have brought out those differences since you were married. On the ground, life, and raising a child, would do that.

To further complicate the matter, your husband has Mercury tightly conjunct Saturn. Saturn is the no nonsense, cut and dried, black and white planet. When Saturn is conjunct Mercury in the natal chart, the native sees their perception of things as just how it is, no room for different views. When they take a position on something, they dig in. Their position is reality. Anything that contradicts their reality just gets brushed off.

You don't have Saturn with Mercury, so it doesn't work that way for you. Your Mercury is conjunct your Sun, and sandwiched between Sun and Pluto. For you, your perceptions and how you communicate them are deeply entwined with your sense of self (Sun) and go deep (Pluto). You have a very strong need to talk about, and bring to light, deeply personal things, and uncomfortable things. Your husband gets to avoid that and keep it superficial with his Saturn/Mercury conjunction that doesn't talk to his Pluto at all (however, it's sextile your Pluto, so you have the potential to get him to go deeper than he's naturally inclined to).

Seems to me that your husband has shut down on communicating with you because something's making him uncomfortable (Pluto). Couples therapy could allow you both to bring out those issues in a safe, conscious way, and to deal with what's uncomfortable. From there, you can figure out if the marriage is worth saving. Even if you decide it's not, you'll still have to work together to end it and parent your child going forward, so either way, learning to communicate with each other is a crucial step.

Thank you, Osamenor, for the details! They point out some interesting things. So we don't have any "providential" planetary conflicts in the chart. We eighter humanly solve our differences or not.
The intensity of the fights and the huge difference in perception of everything around us made me think we must have some unsolvable differences in our sky. I am somehow surprised ... In this case I don't understand why things are how they are. We are both smart people (at least this is what I want to think about us ) and both of us wanted a happy family.
We talked. A lot. Very difficult to find a common ground. I had to compromise a lot. Until I started to feel our relationship as a very, very big effort. After some years I don't have the energy to carry the effort.

Thank you for the time you took to give me your opinion . I really appreciate it.