Yes, you see, I never thought of it this way.
I have venus and Mars Gemini. There isn’t exactly a conjunction it’s just same sign. I have often wondered how Mars & Venus affect my cancer sun/overall sense of self in general (that’s how I’m viewing the sun - the overarching sense of self) because of them being in the same sign I would imagine that they mean, I intensely desire emotional and intellectual connection.


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Venus and Mars together, represents what you are most passionate about. In Gemini in the 9th of the spiritual side of life, you might be passionate about attaining knowledge and understanding and might feel an intense need to communicate that accrued information with others as Gemini often needs to do.
That might not always feel satisfying though, because your Sun and Moon are in Water, and the Gemini in 9th planets are Air/Fire based. So you might sometimes feel that something is missing. Maybe you are writing and teaching and talking with others but is there an emotional component missing from this process?
The Venus in quincunx your Moon/Chiron in Scorpio. So there is a kink in the hose somewhere. Your Venus is expressing itself to others and working hard with Mars to share your knowledge and to teach and counsel others. But that disconnect with Moon/Chiron in Scorpio could mean that you are not getting 2nd house benefits from this process. Maybe you are putting in more effort than the others are?
Maybe you are not getting any rewards, benefits, appreciation or a greater sense of self worth or self esteem, even though you are helping so many others? Could there be a better way for you to continue this process, where you are getting something solid fun return?
Wiring articles or books? Getting a degree of some kind to help you get a return? The Moon/Chiron in the 2nd wants to feel better about one self and healing others is vital but healing oneself is also a priority here.
Would you say that Mars and Venus act in service of sun/ego? I’m trying to see this in a psychotherapeutic way, if my chart suggests inner drives for relationships (romantic), and if they could possibly feed into my main drives, and my sense of self more than I’d like to admit. I’ll attach my chart for reference in case of interest in seeing this in context.
I think you hit the nail on the head. I think there is a disconnect between your Water element, which hold your lights, the Sun and Moon---and the Venus/Mars in Gemini, which gets so much of your energy and strength. It motivates you to enlighten and educate others but maybe to the detriment of fulfilling yourself emotionally. I think you might even be overlooking and underestimating your own emotional needs and desires.
You have Sun Trine Moon in Cancer Scorpio---but both the Sun and Moon have obstructions from quincunxes to Air planets.
Sun quincunx Uranus, exalted in Aquarius. I think you somehow short circuit your Cancerian emotional desires with the Uranian need for networking and communicating globally. It somehow takes precedence over your emotional needs?

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Sun quincunx Uranus natal creates inner tension, which makes you express yourself in strange or original ways. Without change, stimulation or excitement, your internal pressure will rise. You have tremendous creative energy, but if you are not channeling it into work or play, it will build up inside you.
This buildup of electric energy is often felt as nervous tension, anxiety, and changeability. As you anticipate change or excitement, you may become irritable and jumpy. As the energy and tension rise while you remain idle or underperforming, a certain critical point is reached where the energy must be used.
Sun quincunx Uranus natal creates inner tension, which makes you express yourself in strange or original ways. Without change, stimulation or excitement, your internal pressure will rise. You have tremendous creative energy, but if you are not channeling it into work or play, it will build up...
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I'd like to see you delve more deeply into the meaning of your Cancer Sun, as it is somewhat confusing because of house placement and aspects.
Cancer energy likes to stay buried comfortably in the 4th house area of the chart, where it can stay comfy and safe. Your Cancer Sun is right on the MC, 180 degrees away from its favourite place to be. So it is kind of an awkward placement, as it is so visible and so public for a Cancer.
You might feel uncomfortable with your emotions at times and maybe dismiss them out of feeling awkward when having to discuss them? The Trine to the Moon in Scorpio is a very nice aspect---but Chiron is right there too so there might be some painful stuff from childhood there as well?
Were you allowed to say how you really felt and what you needed emotionally as you were growing up? Or did you maybe just stay quiet because there were bigger family issues that you felt superseded your needs?