^Yes, I do.
I guess that means you are with them 24/7? You know their every move? Where they are all the time?
Would you believe me if I told you I have a private investigator?
I get that and there's nothing wrong with that desire, but why do you tend to grow a grudge when they start to look for actual stability and even call that cheating? That sounds like you're contradicting yourself in your expectations.Maybe I'm just not marriage material I mean having this Venus/Uranus aspect. I don't think I'd like being married as it would become routine. I don't want to be alone though I mean I would like to have a guy friend at least. Someone I can spend time with when I feel lonely or want some company. But people tell me that it doesn't happen this way. That most men won't allow this to happen.
I get that and there's nothing wrong with that desire, but why do you tend to grow a grudge when they start to look for actual stability and even call that cheating? That sounds like you're contradicting yourself in your expectations.
Nope, it also doesn't mean that they will. You've mentioned free will yourself a couple of posts ago.I don't think them wanting stability is cheating but even if they want stability doesn't mean they won't cheat.
That's not a dream there are so many women who talk about having a Sugar Daddy. There are even sites for this kind of dating. And I know some old woman who even had one but he died.
Child of Venus,
i feel kind of bad that some are giving you such a hard time because I feel you are simply a product of your immediate environment. You are living what you know. If your Mother truly models this behavior and belief, and espouses this faulty advice, then it makes sense that your Venus in Pisces is going to soak it in and accept it.
I feel that you can break this cycle, but you will have to finish your studies, begin your career, and carve out an independent life to fully do so.
With your Venus in Pisces, and beneficial 8th house, you may find someone who loves and adore you, and you will learn to trust them and feel confident in their love. And that is a greater wealth than any financial wealth.
Please do not think that your Mom's experiences with marriage are representative of ALL marriages. They are simply not. I have been married for 36 years, and I don't think my husband ever cheated on me. My son has never cheated on his wife. My daughters boyfriend has never cheated on her , although her last boyfriend did so. But she chose more wisely this time around.
Trust me when I say---shopping for a Sugar Daddy is not the answer.
Wow, 9 years? That's beyond routine imo. Sounds like you freak out at the idea of commitment but have no problem keeping a long-term relationship going.Thank you for understanding I don't think having a Sugar Daddy is the answer either. I start my studies for Dental Assistant in April and I'll be finished in July. I would be able to move out then but I really don't want to live alone to be honest. It would be nice if I were to find a man who really cares and loves me. Yet It's possible that I may get tired of the relationship especially when things become routine. That's what happened with my last relationship. I was with the guy for 9 years he started talking about marriage and having a family.
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I have to agree with Oddity. C of V, you don't seem to trust or even like men as a species. That isn't a solid basis for a relationship.
Moreover, men who do not cheat would find your attitude offensive.
But suppose you were married to a man who did cheat? If he still wanted to stay married to you, would you go to marriage counseling and try to get past it?
Can you imagine staying married to a man you didn't love? You'd have to be a really good actress to fake love to him. Otherwise, why would he marry you?
Frankly, most of us are flawed human beings. You might find a husband who doesn't cheat, but who drinks too much. Or who is too busy building up his business to spend time with you. You might have personality issues that would drive an ordinary man running for the hills.
Marriages work when flawed human beings commit to making them work.
Then please think of what you would bring to the table in any committed relationship: suspicion or trust? Would you be in it for him or for your partnership, or just in it for yourself?
I say this as a senior who has been married (2x) for a total of 40 years. I am surrounded by seniors who, looking back, have gone through divorce, remarriage or not, and milestone anniversary celebrations.
Long-term marriage is based on a deep sense of companionship. Your husband should be your best friend. I don't know how you can fake that.
I'm not saying that a poor or lower middle-income woman couldn't marry a rich man. But statistically the odds are seriously against you.
"Candy, little girl?"
For Pete's sake, Child of Venus. Thank your lucky stars you didn't take this man up on his offer. You have no idea who he was. You are old enough to know that there are serious creeps out there who masquerade as respectable men. They also do this on the Internet. Anybody can post someone else's handsome picture and lie to susceptible women. Sometimes they're only after her credit card. At best this man might have hoped for a quickie with a vulnerable girl in a strange city.
But this is getting "curiouser and curiouser." You want a rich husband. You wouldn't love him. You expect him to cheat. Once he does, you leave him. Then you're out on the sidewalk..... doing what? Trying to catch rich man #2 so you can do this all over again?
Are you familiar with pre-nuptual financial agreements, financial separation agreements, and divorce laws? Any man smart enough to make or keep a lot of money would probably be smart enough not to let you walk out on him with bags of his cash.
Wouldn't it just be simpler for you to work towards a well-paying career of your own?
You may know about some men, but apparently not the many good ones whom I've been privileged to call friends, co-workers, or family.
And many younger women-older men relationships are not about the money. My husband is 9.5 years older than me. When we started our relationship, I earned slightly more than he did. Sometimes people fall in love, actually.
If you find a rich man really ugly and disgusting and you don't feel love or sexual desire for him.. How will you be able to have sex with him?. If he is a sugar daddy and he don't have erections, what will you do? I read some post of you and I think you are very sexual.
oh god! your posts have a lot of replies.
read chapter 7 in CA vol 2 .. there is a page regarding if a marriage will bring wealth from the spouse