On number of occasions he made it seem like we were in the long-run, hence my confusion. He disappeared while on vacation, but then once he returned he contacted me, started chasing me. But i do see a pattern now learning last night of his previous similar stories, so looks like the problem isn't me but him and his own pattern of disappearance from women who seem to get close to him. I met a model guy very handsome and good looking and sent him his portfolio to check out via text and say thank you to him for not responding to my text and disappearing since I told him had he contacted me, I would not have been with this model right now. The guy is hot but im taking things slow with him as it's very new. I wanted that latin man to see that i had no problem finding someone hot and younger within a few days of him disappearing. He has some tense short-term transits today like mercury opposite moon, venus square sun etc so let him feel a bit uneasy haha!
It sounds like your Venus square Pluto is operative, even though it has a wide orb.
Just had to point out something that you said that made me squirm, a bit. Saying 'the problem is with him and not me….'
I don't really see it that way. After the horrid way he mistreated you when he left on his trip---ignored you, did not reply to your text, did not contact you after you two had just slept together….
And then you give him a pass on all of that to start up with him again once he shows more interest.
Seems like more evidence of the Venus/Pluto imbalance. It is like you are allowing him to treat you like an object of desire and are allowing him to ignore your feelings and to even downright disrespect you.
And that is not 'his problem'---that is yours to correct for future relationships.
But you are even showing some signs of doing that to your new guy, the
model, by showing his picture off, and objectifying him.
If you want to settle down in a real, sincere relationship, then that kind of distorted Venus/Pluto objectification will have to stop.