OK, I just found this by Wendy Guy at
http://www.evolvingdoor.ca/miscarticles/venus_retrograde_2010.php
Great reading
The 2010 Venus-Mars Soap Opera
In this cycle, Venus is conjunct Mars when she turns retrograde. These two planets are engaged in a drama worthy of any TV soap opera! Venus and Mars met at the end of July as they moved into conjunction orb. Coincidentally, Mars had just moved into polite Libra and conjoined Saturn, who strong-armed Mars and made him promise he would behave himself. Subsequently, Venus and Mars fell in love, and when they reached the exact conjunction (0°) in Libra on Aug.20, Venus proposed marriage.
However, just as Venus was about to send out the wedding invitations, the two changed signs and moved into Mars' sign, Scorpio (Venus on Sep.08 and Mars on Sep.14). After being on his best behaviour in Libra, Mars began to relax once he was in his own territory and revealed his true nature—a brooding, burping, farting, oversexed, controlling Neanderthal who insisted that Venus sign a prenuptial agreement never to see old boyfriends whenever she leaves the house.
Now Venus is starting to have second thoughts and on Oct.08, when the Moon is New, she finally puts her foot down, stops in her tracks and refuses to go any further with Mars. Feeling confused, disappointed and offended, she has to reconsider how she feels and heads back to Libra to see if she can remember what she ever saw in the creep. Mars puts on his inscrutable I-don't-need-nobody face and waves "adios" as he moves on. A week later they are outside the conjunction orb and have officially broken up.
Venus stations direct on Nov.18. Just 4 days before that, Venus and Mars form a semi-square aspect (45°). Venus thinks she's snagged him this time, but by the time Venus turns around to grab him, Mars—now in carefree Sagittarius—is already out of orb and out of reach once again. Why? Because Mercury conjoins Mars and whispers in his ear that he's sure he saw a bunch of gorgeous babes over on the horizon somewhere.
By Dec.07, Mars has moved into Capricorn where he is exalted and much more responsible and reasonable. He starts to reconsider his feelings for Venus and notices that they are approaching a cooperative sextile aspect (60°). However, Venus is back again in Scorpio and remembers Mars' uncouth behaviour back in September and October. Before Mars can get closer than 3½ degrees, Venus picks up speed and employs her Scorpionic cloaking device and sneaks off into the shadows.
The story doesn't end there, though. Venus catches up to Mars in conjunction again on May.23.2011, this time in her other sign of Taurus. Here she again has the upper hand, while Mars is much more domesticated and sensible than he was in Scorpio. By this time Venus considers the possibility that with enough patience and pampering she can persuade Mars to be reasonably civilized. Just to seal the deal, she also gets stubborn and insists that she can be just as possessive as he is jealous, and if he ever wants to enjoy her sweet charms again, he'd better shape up and get real!