Composite/Synastry between Empath and Narcissit

battyrats

battyrats

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Sooooo, this one is a bit of a dozy. I don't know where to start without giving away too much information that might impair a reading.

I have known this guy for almost ten years now, and his existence has had a tremendous effect in my life. I care for him deeply because as a person who has constantly been misunderstood, outcasted, and a lack of belonging, he is the only person who I feel has intuitively and almost telepathically understood me. (and I would think vice versa, as well).

(In)directly because of him, I began looking into astrology again, had the courage to go out with my boyfriend of now four years (who used to be his best friend and which happened after this guy and I had an intense two month affair), became a feminist, found my voice in activism, and pushed me into having the courage to go after what I believe in (which include the occult sciences).

We are extremely compatible, however the timing has never been right and I do believe we have an Empathic (me) and Narcissistic (him) relationship. There are times when I believe he may be my Twin Flame (but I know 100% that I must have known him in my past lives).

I don't know what to do with this person. I don't know if it's healthy for me to have him in my life. He continuously comes and goes. Recently, I was very much considering leaving my boyfriend for him, but I have a very strong relationship with him as well. He dreamt about him everyday, and my tarot cards persistently pointed me in his direction. And although at the moment he isn't in my life now... I know he'll pop up again. Even now on social media, I can see certain message that I know for a fact he is trying to send my way.

The timing still isn't right, but I would like to know what you guys see between us and how I should prepare myself for the next encounter we may have... no matter how many years that might take.

I will post charts and tables from astrotheme.com and astro.com (in a few).

Synastry Interaspects
Neptune Conjunction Uranus Orb 0°18'
Pluto Conjunction MC Orb 0°22'
Node Conjunction Pluto Orb 0°25'
Mars Conjunction Moon Orb 0°47'
Moon Conjunction Moon Orb 1°04'
Jupiter Conjunction Jupiter Orb 1°52'
Neptune Conjunction Neptune Orb 2°09'
Node Conjunction MC Orb 2°11'
Pluto Conjunction Pluto Orb 2°15'
Uranus Conjunction Uranus Orb 2°48'
Saturn Conjunction Saturn Orb 2°54'
Saturn Conjunction Moon Orb 3°05'
Uranus Conjunction Neptune Orb 4°38'
Moon Conjunction Saturn Orb 4°54'
Mars Conjunction Saturn Orb 5°11'
AS Conjunction Mars Orb 5°40'
Jupiter Conjunction Venus Orb 6°37'
Mercury Conjunction Moon Orb 7°41'
Lilith Opposite Mercury Orb 1°21'
Neptune Opposite Mars Orb 2°35'
Chiron Opposite Saturn Orb 2°44'
Chiron Opposite Moon Orb 3°15'
MC Opposite Mercury Orb 4°27'
Sun Opposite Sun Orb 4°45'
Uranus Opposite Mars Orb 5°05'
AS Opposite Neptune Orb 6°07'
AS Opposite Uranus Orb 7°57'
Venus Opposite Sun Orb 7°58'
Lilith Square Neptune Orb 0°06'
Lilith Square Mars Orb 0°33'
Mercury Square Pluto Orb 1°40'
Lilith Square Uranus Orb 1°43'
Neptune Square Mercury Orb 3°23'
Pluto Square Moon Orb 3°46'
Mars Square MC Orb 4°11'
Mercury Square MC Orb 4°18'
Moon Square MC Orb 4°28'
AS Square Mercury Orb 4°52'
MC Square Mars Orb 5°15'
Node Square Moon Orb 5°35'
MC Square Neptune Orb 5°42'
Uranus Square Mercury Orb 5°53'
Sun Trine Mars Orb 0°13'
Uranus Trine Sun Orb 0°32'
AS Trine Jupiter Orb 1°54'
Neptune Trine Sun Orb 1°56'
Saturn Trine Venus Orb 2°57'
Venus Trine MC Orb 4°17'
Mercury Trine Mercury Orb 4°43'
Moon Trine Venus Orb 4°58'
Mars Trine Venus Orb 5°15'
Jupiter Trine Mars Orb 5°41'
Sun Trine Pluto Orb 5°49'
Uranus Sextile Pluto Orb 0°30'
Sun Sextile Neptune Orb 0°40'
Node Sextile Sun Orb 1°29'
Sun Sextile Uranus Orb 2°30'
Chiron Sextile Venus Orb 2°47'
Neptune Sextile Pluto Orb 3°00'
Uranus Sextile MC Orb 3°08'
Pluto Sextile Sun Orb 3°18'
Node Sextile Uranus Orb 3°45'
Venus Sextile AS Orb 4°18'
Sun Inconjunction Mercury Orb 0°34'
Mercury Inconjunction Sun Orb 0°36'
Chiron Inconjunction AS Orb 1°56'
Neptune SemiSquare Saturn Orb 0°01'
Chiron SemiSquare Mars Orb 0°07'
Chiron SemiSquare Mercury Orb 0°40'
Saturn SemiSquare Neptune Orb 0°43'
MC SemiSquare Moon Orb 1°53'
Saturn SesquiQuadrate Mars Orb 0°17'
Saturn SesquiQuadrate Mercury Orb 0°30'
Chiron SesquiQuadrate Neptune Orb 0°33'
AS SesquiQuadrate MC Orb 1°05'
Moon SesquiQuadrate Mercury Orb 1°29'
Moon SesquiQuadrate Mars Orb 2°17'
AS SesquiQuadrate Moon Orb 2°18'
Venus Quintile Neptune Orb 0°04'
Uranus Quintile Jupiter Orb 0°40'
AS Quintile Sun Orb 1°46'
Venus BiQuintile Venus Orb 0°50'
Lilith BiQuintile Pluto Orb 0°57'
Venus SemiSextile Moon Orb 0°53'


Composite
Positions of Planets
Sun 22°21' Sagittarius
Moon 2°21' Pisces
Mercury 21°45' Sagittarius
Venus 20°17' Capricorn
Mars 11°24' Taurus
Jupiter 13°33' Scorpio
Saturn 6°21' Pisces
Uranus 23°53' Capricorn
Neptune 21°43' Capricorn
Pluto 26°55' Scorpio
Chiron 10°37' Virgo
Ceres 20°07' Gemini
Pallas 25°05' Aries
Juno 3°45' Scorpio
Vesta 24°41' Taurus
Node 21°09' Я Scorpio
Lilith 2°12' Taurus
Fortune 5°46' Cancer
AS 25°46' Aries
MC 6°40' Aquarius
Planets in Houses*
Sun House 8
Moon House 11
Mercury House 8
Venus House 9
Mars House 1
Jupiter House 7
Saturn House 11
Uranus House 9
Neptune House 9
Pluto House 7
Chiron House 5
Ceres House 2
Pallas House 1
Juno House 7
Vesta House 1
Node House 7
Lilith House 1
Fortune House 2


Positions of Houses
House 1 25°46' Aries
House 2 3°22' Gemini
House 3 7°15' Cancer
House 4 6°40' Leo
House 5 3°18' Virgo
House 6 28°36' Virgo
House 7 25°46' Libra
House 8 3°22' Sagittarius
House 9 7°15' Capricorn
House 10 6°40' Aquarius
House 11 3°18' Pisces
House 12 28°36' Pisces
List of Aspects
Sun Conjunction Mercury Orb 0°35'
Uranus Conjunction Neptune Orb 2°09'
Venus Conjunction Uranus Orb 3°35'
Moon Conjunction Saturn Orb 3°59'
Mars Opposite Jupiter Orb 2°08'
Uranus Square AS Orb 1°53'
Neptune Square AS Orb 4°03'
Mars Square MC Orb 4°43'
Moon Square Pluto Orb 5°26'
Venus Square AS Orb 5°28'
Jupiter Square MC Orb 6°52'
Sun Trine AS Orb 3°25'
Mercury Trine AS Orb 4°00'
Jupiter Trine Saturn Orb 7°11'
Uranus Sextile Pluto Orb 3°02'
Mars Sextile Saturn Orb 5°02'
Neptune Sextile Pluto Orb 5°12'
Pluto Inconjunction AS Orb 1°09'
Mercury SemiSquare MC Orb 0°04'
Saturn SemiSquare Neptune Orb 0°21'
Sun SemiSquare MC Orb 0°40'
Venus SemiSquare Saturn Orb 1°03'
Moon Quintile Mercury Orb 1°23'
Mercury SemiSextile Neptune Orb 0°02'
Saturn SemiSextile MC Orb 0°19'
Sun SemiSextile Neptune Orb 0°38'
Mercury SemiSextile Venus Orb 1°27'
Sun SemiSextile Uranus Orb 1°31'
 

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amaranthinefall

amaranthinefall

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I don't need astrology for this. :)

I would suggest focusing on your current boyfriend out of fairness to you both. What happens if you leave this man for the other, but it doesn't work out? Would he be in a rush to take you back? I'd guess no, and then you'd be alone. :( The grass always seems greener on the other side. The fact that you are considering leaving one man for another tells me that you don't love either truly, deeply, at least not enough to sustain a long-term relationship. Maybe you should try to understand this aspect of your psyche before you make a decision. In the meantime, you owe it to your current boyfriend to stay with him, and yourself for the comfort and familiarity, which is helpful when doing self-reflection.

Best wishes to you.
 
battyrats

battyrats

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amaranthinefall said:
I don't need astrology for this. :)

I would suggest focusing on your current boyfriend out of fairness to you both. What happens if you leave this man for the other, but it doesn't work out? Would he be in a rush to take you back? I'd guess no, and then you'd be alone. :( The grass always seems greener on the other side. The fact that you are considering leaving one man for another tells me that you don't love either truly, deeply, at least not enough to sustain a long-term relationship. Maybe you should try to understand this aspect of your psyche before you make a decision. In the meantime, you owe it to your current boyfriend to stay with him, and yourself for the comfort and familiarity, which is helpful when doing self-reflection.

Best wishes to you.
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Thank you. That's honestly exactly what I was thinking... I feel embarrassed for even asking!:sad:

I'm sure this stems from a problem with self-confidence and avoidance of issues of the self... Since I got together with my boyfriend at such a young age, I projected all of my desires for my life onto his image... and once I realized that my 'expectations' were a little off... I didn't know how to deal with it.

Besides, the 'narcissist' really enjoys preying on my emotions (and I only saw issues in my boyfriend once he started pointing them out)... Very manipulative.

The only reason I even considered it is because I am just restless with life in general :/
 
amaranthinefall

amaranthinefall

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Don't be embarassed! What would be embarassing is if you didn't think about these things at all and just blindly followed your passions. Give yourself some credit!

Restlessness with life and doubts about your relationships... Perhaps this would be a good time to stay single and identify what you really want and need in a partner, or perhaps what qualities in a partner would be best for your self-image and emotional health.

I can see that you're near my age, and so I'll leave you with this: you don't "have" to be in a relationship. Those that rush into things just for the sake of not being alone, and start a life, have children, with someone they don't love enough or are not compatible with, often end up the most unhappy and the least likely to ever leave that relationship, to the detriment of all, especially any possible children. So, relax. You have time. Continue discovering yourself and in the process you'll find someone who's also discovering themself, and then you can discover each other. :)
 
battyrats

battyrats

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amaranthinefall said:
Don't be embarassed! What would be embarassing is if you didn't think about these things at all and just blindly followed your passions. Give yourself some credit!

Restlessness with life and doubts about your relationships... Perhaps this would be a good time to stay single and identify what you really want and need in a partner, or perhaps what qualities in a partner would be best for your self-image and emotional health.

I can see that you're near my age, and so I'll leave you with this: you don't "have" to be in a relationship. Those that rush into things just for the sake of not being alone, and start a life, have children, with someone they don't love enough or are not compatible with, often end up the most unhappy and the least likely to ever leave that relationship, to the detriment of all, especially any possible children. So, relax. You have time. Continue discovering yourself and in the process you'll find someone who's also discovering themself, and then you can discover each other. :)
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You're right. It's difficult though since we live together, and since I am an Empath... I desperately want to help my boyfriend be the best he can be and 'heal' him.

As I continue to work on myself, I can see that he isn't. He constantly says I "change" too frequently (there's a running joke we have that whenever I do something different with my hair, a new era begins lol). He says I'm unpredictable.

I just don't want to see him waste his life away, you know?

This is our composite/synastry chart if you wanna take a peak!
 
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rahu

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hi your chart from astro isn't coming up
could you repost of just post your anonymous data . also the vertex and lilth(h13 at astro )would be good.
rahu
 
battyrats

battyrats

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rahu said:
hi your chart from astro isn't coming up
could you repost of just post your anonymous data . also the vertex and lilth(h13 at astro )would be good.
rahu
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I haven't posted the composite/synastry chart from astro yet because I haven't figured out which style would be best :/

I'll post our info though:
Me:
Sept.17 1994
4:54 p.m. (16:54)
Elmhurst, Queens, NY

Him:
Mar. 10 1994
1:45 p.m. (13:45)
Pereira (Risaralda), Colombia
 
battyrats

battyrats

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rahu said:
I don't know what that astro theme composite is that you posted because it isnot the compositerahu
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Hm are you sure? I'm not at the computer right now, would you mind punching in the info I gave you on your preferred site?

By the way, you are very spot on with your interpretation thus far.

We were actually speaking (and hung out three times) from 0ct 2015- Dec 2015.

He's very manipulative. When we would speak online he would make it seem like the attraction was coming 200% solely from me (in case my boyfriend wanted any proof of us talking), while when we were alone... He made it completely obvious (saying he would 'wait' for me, that he doesn't even consider having a relationship unless its with me, etc.). This is what happened when we were together in 2011; the minute I would tarnish his image, he would throw me under the bus.

Everyone tells me he is not someone I should trust... But they only see this (other than my boyfriend, he saw it from the beginning but was also drawn to him in a similar, destructive sense like myself) because I made it known how much he hurt me... I don't know.
 
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