Totally understandable. Even harsher aspects within a dynamic cannot truly be seen until they are "activated," and even so we don't know yet until they are, how we might respond to them or how "unbearable" they'll be. Take it day by day and continue to get to know her. If you feel in your gut to try things, continue, if not, move on. Aspects only determine so much. Also, please trust yourself and make wise decisions from your past.