Rasalhague said:
Actually I was a victim of bullying in elementary mostly. Highschool I just kept to my own. College is actually where I made my first friends that are still with me today. I never bullied others. My 8th house is heavily occupied: Sun, Moon, Merc, Jupiter, Saturn, Venus, Pluto (bordering 9th though).
That's strange, because using the data you provided, I see Pluto in the 9th. AC is 10Cap48. I must have made an error.
Your Sun, if I have the right data, appears to be unaspected when considering major aspects. But let me make sure if my data is correct before making any more guesses.
I think that all of us have the potential to be bullied or to bully, but most of us develop boundaries that allow us to protect ourselves and self-control to keep from being unfair or unkind to other people, even in anger. At least most of the time.
Any indication of lack of self-confidence could potentially cause someone to be pushed around or bullied. In addition, when people are outsiders and are not confident about being that way, they may attract abuse when young before developing "protections" to guard themselves, as they get older.
I was such a person, and when I was very young, I didn't realize I appeared different. So I was a target. In a fairly short amount of time (before 6th grade) I realized I was vulnerable and learned to protect myself by keeping most of my feelings and thoughts to myself.
I find it dangerous to attribute poorer social skills to those that are bullied (Yoi). Though I'm sure something is 'lacking', even I wouldn't have the word to describe what it exactly is.
"Social skills" may be no more than the ability to sense how other people see us and the experience to filter what we project so that we are able to protect ourselves. I would include under "social skills" being able to intuit which people I can trust and which would use my honesty as a weapon or tool to manipulate, dominate or discredit me. I had to develop those skills.
Sorry if I seem somewhat disagreeable, but I had to share my story (and thoughts) on the subject.
I didn't see anything disagreeable about what you said.
Gaer